I’m bringing back conversations with members of our community where they share their stories and we explore what they have learned about their bodies, sex and pleasure. My new friend and poet, Sarah Jeannine Gawthrop, joins me to talk about her journey of pleasure reclamation through the sacred forest and poetry.

Sarah Gawthrop is a queer, neurodiverse poet and editor on the West Coast of Canada. Her writing explores themes of place, identity, and longing, with a focus on how nature shapes our sense of self. When she's not walking in the forest, she's studying Creative Writing or working with PULPmag and ROOM Magazine. Her first poetry collection, Topophilia: A Strong Sense of Place, celebrates our deep connections with people and places. Connect with her on Instagram @sarahjeanninewrites

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Answering your community questions: “Do I have to swallow?” “Can I get pregnant from pre-cum?” and “Are wet dreams normal?” I’ll also explain the difference between semen and sperm, why a cum cloth is a good idea and the pregnancy rate with the pull-out method. 

Mentioned in this episode:
Can I get pregnant from pre-cum?
Can men be multi-orgasmic?
Do women ejaculate? What is squirting?
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Susan Bratton calls herself the “Orgasmanaut.” She’s here to share what she has learned, along with some juicy and practical ways for you to experience more orgasms. As her mentor taught her; with sex - there is always something more! Listen to hear the ingredient list and recipe to follow for more!

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Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She’s created hundreds of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love and is the world’s most well-respected sexual biohacker.

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Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden
Cliteracy and the Orgasm Gap
Everything You Need to Know About the Clitoris
The Clitoris has a Hood
Let’s Talk Orgasms
Pleasure Techniques
Female Arousal
Desire Styles
Why Vibrators Work for Women and How to Choose One
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Toys, Fantasy, and Play in the Bedroom
Can Men Be Multi-orgasmic

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If you want to enhance the intimacy and eroticsm in your relationship - this conversation is for you! Nicolas Velotta, lead relationship researcher for Arya - a couples sexual wellness company, talks about erotic styles and four specific erotic personas. This episode will help you to open a conversation about your turn-on's, desires and preferences with a partner.

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Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist exploring how technology shapes our most intimate connections. As the Head of Relationship Research at Arya—the world’s leading relationship wellness app—he uses cutting-edge methods to develop psychological profiles of our erotic and emotional selves. Blending research with innovation, Nicholas designs AI-powered algorithms that curate personalized experiences aimed at deepening relationship and sexual satisfaction. 

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When I saw Michal Morrison's Sexual Wellness and Pleasure list on Threads, I thought, "Who is this woman and how did she come up with this amazing list?!" Learn about toys, tools, good reads and more to empower you on your wellness and pleasure journey.

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Michal Morrison is an Austin-based entrepreneur and the founder of her eponymous brand, Michal Morrison—a cutting-edge skincare company rooted in science and powered by groundbreaking stem cell technology. With a passion for science-based innovation, Michal has worked in health-focused startups and femtech companies, championing wellbeing in both the health and beauty spaces. Beyond her entrepreneurial pursuits, Michal is committed to social impact, championing causes around women's health, gender equality, and mental health.

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Tabu Prim Pillow
Positions with props
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Foria melts
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Come As You Are book review
She Comes First book review
Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden
Spicy Audio Stories
Lioness
Sex and Pain
What Pelvic Health has to do with painful sex
Stretched out vaginas and other myths with Heather Jeffcoat DPT
Tips from my pelvic floor therapist
Pleasure techniques with penetration
Guide to lube
OMGYES
Rosy App
Lelo
Dame Eva
All bodies
Lorals

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Just in time for love month, I'm sharing some gift ideas for lovers, friends and something for yourself. I introduce you to Arya, a sexual wellness subscription for couples, focused on reigniting your passion and bolstering communication. You'll also hear ways to explore your sexuality and how to be a permission giver to your friends. This Valentine's Day, let's prioritize pleasure.

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Temperature Play
Ways to explore your sexuality other than masturbation
Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden
My Letter to Young Women
Want Better Sex? Ask the Questions
Sensuality: Pleasure with Your Senses
Bodies, Nervous System and Mindfulness with Aurora
Mindfulnessm, Desire and Sex with Dr. Lori Brotto

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Do you struggle with anxiety or perfectionism? Therapist Caitlin Harrison joins me for a down to earth conversation about how anxiety shows up in our inner thoughts and the bedroom. You’ll hear discussion about purity culture, sexual shame, and how anxiety can disrupt the arousal process.

Learn more about Caitlin Harrison, LMFT

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When the problematic people are the ones we love
Evolving out of purity culture
Untangling sexual shame
Reclaim your arousal mindset
Let's Go Girls: Hailey from Pasadena
Orgasm is a big brain event
Masturbation: Let's dig in
Connecting with our bodies and nervous system for better sex
Pleasurable touch exercise

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Welcome to season 5 and my book launch! Join me as I share why I wrote Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden. Since we can't all gather together across the globe I am bringing the party to you.

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Masturbation: Let's Dig In
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Wrapping up Season 4 with two proven ways affection can deeper your connection. Use the practices of kissing for 6 seconds and hugging for 30 seconds to strengthen your relationships.

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Permission to Grieve

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Great sex is a mind and body experience. To truly enjoy the sex you're having - you have to be paying attention to the sex you are having! In this episode, I read you a short excerpt from my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden focused on strengthening your mind-body connection.  My book is available now for pre-order with a special 20% holiday discount through the month of December.

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Better Sex Through Mindfulness Book Review
The Truth About Desire with Dr. Brotto
Desire and Mindfulness with Dr. Brotto
Relieving the Mental Load 

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