Do you struggle with anxiety or perfectionism? Therapist Caitlin Harrison joins me for a down to earth conversation about how anxiety shows up in our inner thoughts and the bedroom. You’ll hear discussion about purity culture, sexual shame, and how anxiety can disrupt the arousal process.

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More on these topics:
When the problematic people are the ones we love
Evolving out of purity culture
Untangling sexual shame
Reclaim your arousal mindset
Let's Go Girls: Hailey from Pasadena
Orgasm is a big brain event
Masturbation: Let's dig in
Connecting with our bodies and nervous system for better sex
Pleasurable touch exercise

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Welcome to season 5 and my book launch! Join me as I share why I wrote Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden. Since we can't all gather together across the globe I am bringing the party to you.

More on these topics:
Spicy Audio Stories
Masturbation: Let's Dig In
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Foria Arousal Oil 
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Wrapping up Season 4 with two proven ways affection can deeper your connection. Use the practices of kissing for 6 seconds and hugging for 30 seconds to strengthen your relationships.

Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden  
Permission to Grieve

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Great sex is a mind and body experience. To truly enjoy the sex you're having - you have to be paying attention to the sex you are having! In this episode, I read you a short excerpt from my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden focused on strengthening your mind-body connection.  My book is available now for pre-order with a special 20% holiday discount through the month of December.

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More on this topic
Better Sex Through Mindfulness Book Review
The Truth About Desire with Dr. Brotto
Desire and Mindfulness with Dr. Brotto
Relieving the Mental Load 

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Research shows that greater curiosity outside the bedroom leads to higher sexual satisfaction. Sex therapist and author Dr. Emily Jamea joins me to talk about her book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Learn how novelty works as a key component for fueling your desire. 

Learn more about Emily Jamea

More on these topics
Practicing Flow State Sex with Emily Jamea
Understanding Your Desire Style
Partner desire discrepancies
Want better sex? Ask yourself these questions
Fantasy and play in the bedroom with Dr. Carolin Klein

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Learn the difference between vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex. This quickie episode outlines what each one is, when their use is appropriate and a few frequently asked questions about each. Bite size education for everyone, but especially for those in perimenopause and the menopause transition.

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More on this topic:
Guide to Lube
Lube Lube Lube
Perimenopause 101: Hormones and Symptoms
Perimenopause 101: Treatment Options
Tips for talking to a provider
Midlife, Menopause and Beyond
Sexual Reset for Midlife Women
You're Not Broken with Dr. Kelly Casperson

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Our nervous systems play a critical role in connection and the sensory experience of sex. Aurora Allen, a somatic experiencing practitioner and nervous system educator shares practical steps to connect our bodies and nervous systems for more satisfying sex. 

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More on this topic:
Dating Your Body with Aurora
Learning to Listen to Your Body
Permission to Grieve
Reconnecting to Yourself and to Your Body

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Need better ways to initiate sex in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander Marin join me to discuss everything we are getting wrong about initiation and tips to do it better. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Tune in and learn to change the communication of initiation in your relationship.

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Author Brit Barron joins me to discuss her new book, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the problematic people in our lives are the ones we love. Listen in as we talk about the role social media plays, our desire for belonging, and the importance of embracing both nuance and boundaries as a way forward.

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More from Brit on the podcast
Evolving Out of Purity Culture

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You know that running to do list in your head? It's called the mental load. Although it is often invisible, it has a big impact on our relationships, sexual desire and stress level. Bringing back an impactful episode from the archives with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. You’ll hear communication starters and practical tips to help you ‘off-load’ and free up mental space for a healthier you and strengthened relationships.

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