On this episode:

Nate cleans before the house cleaner arrives.

Aaron knew a fella.

Our Guest: Andrew Susskind, clinical social worker, therapist, author, podcaster, and blogger.

Discussion includes: not just sobriety, finding life. Reclaiming childhood longings. “Social media is basically lite porn,” or other ways we escape. Sexual blueprint, sexual health and sexual discussion. More connection and less shame. The masculinity of yearning.

Book: Its Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction

Andrew Susskind’s: contact, podcast, blog, practice.

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode:

Nate is concerned about getting his @ss kicked.

Aaron draws conclusions with Disney’s Pocahontas.

Encouraged by the relapses of the saints. When and what qualifies you in ministry with returning guest Tullian Tchividjian.

“If we aren’t attracting the same people as Jesus attracted, we aren’t preaching the same message Jesus preached.”

The Sanctuary Church, Jupiter, FL

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode:

Aaron interrogates Nate.

Nate sings a very heartfelt song.

The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author.

“The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.”

How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety.

Andrew J. Bauman

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode:

Nate feels gratitude.

Aaron remembers a super cool smoking trick learned during Shakespearean acting classes.

The guys have a deep discussion with George Bitar about healthy couples' communication despite traumatic backgrounds. Learning to discuss disconnection cues and trigger moments in emotionally focused couples therapy work. How to repair and reconnect. Feeling delight and joy in the relationship. Tapping into emotions to point to our needs and values. Providing hope for healing and growth emotionally.

https://connectcouplestherapy.com/

Books:

Other Resources:

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode:

Aaron caps that.

Nate shops Amazon.

The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage and Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made. Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat.

“The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.”

“When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.”

“The more we dissociate, the more it’s a flight from the goodness of God.”

"It's not because the sage knows all the answers to all of the things. The sage is not a sage because he has good advice." 

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Q&A

1. How did Jason Gray get chosen as the musical guest?

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"Porn is like the junk food of healthy sex and relationships."

Aaron and Rob interview Ian Henderson, founder of the Naked Truth Project. about how he got involved in this work of opening eyes and freeing lives from the damages of porn. While Naked Truth is based in Manchester, UK, they work with people all over the world.  The "open eyes" aspect focuses on education to combat the normalization of porn by presenting in schools and elsewhere to raise awareness of the dangers of porn.  The "freeing lives" portion focuses on those who have already been trapped in addiction, and also help for their partners.  The work goes well beyond just stopping the behavior, moving individuals to healthy growth and reclaiming what was lost.

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast, about the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional alcoholic family, the maladaptive coping mechanisms she chose, such as alcohol and unhealthy dating relationships, and her path to recovery. 

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Juris S, author of Happy, Joyous and Free: One Man's Journey and Guide to Ultimate Spiritual Health.  Topics include: bullying, alcoholism, and integration of faith and recovery.

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"I want to empower my partner to show up freely, not disempower her by withholding data that might affect the choices she makes and how she shows up."

"If you don't have a shared understanding of the past, you cannot have a shared trajectory for the future."

"The human brain is wired so that even a perceived threat to a primary attachment relationship registers as a survival issue."

We welcome Jake Porter of Daring Ventures to the show.  Topics include: secondary addictions, couple-centered recovery, the importance of attachment, and power imbalance in the relationship. ([email protected])

If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.