Positive Impact with Andrew Schultz

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June 24, 2022 #124: Breaking the Shame Cycle
What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt - "I did something bad."
Shame - "I am bad."
Shame is a feeling that many of us deal with. It can be paralyzing because it’s not something we talk about openly and it has the power to cause deep shame in those that experience it. The cycle of shame can be a vicious one, where feelings that stem from shame lead to more shame until the victim becomes isolated and starts believing they’re unworthy.
The shame cycle might look like this:
Engage in destructive behavior
Feel shame, guilt, and deep regret
Ruminate on the destructive behavior which deepens the feeling of shame even more
Try to comfort yourself by give into same bad habits, addiction, and destructive behavior
Three things that shame needs to grow:
secrecy
silence
judgement
Three steps to break the cycle of shame:
Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love
Reach out to someone you trust
Tell your story. Shame cannot survive being spoken
Shame can be a paralyzing feeling because it’s not something we talk about openly and it has the power to cause deep shame in those that experience it. The cycle of shame can be a vicious one, where feelings that stem from shame lead to more shame until the victim becomes isolated and starts believing they’re unworthy.
The good news is that we can break the cycle of shame and start to feel better about ourselves again. It takes time, patience, and effort, but it’s definitely possible. Remember that you’re not alone in this and there are people who care about you and want to help.
If you’re feeling lost or don’t know where to start, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. You’re worth it.
@Positive_Impact_Andrew
www.TheAndrewSchultz.com
[email protected]
21 min
June 17, 2022 #123: Father's Day 30 Questions
Happy Father's Day to all the Father's out there!
I highly recommend googling, "Brendon Burchard 30 questions." These questions inspired to ask our parents before they die. An opportunity to create deep connection and conversation with our loved ones about things we may have never known.
Getting the chance to talk with my Dad, via facetime, and ask him these same 30 questions was awesome! I learned about the time in 7th grade when my Dad got slapped by a nun for sharpening his pencil in middle of class. Which in turn, he grabbed the nuns arm, put it behind her back, and pinned her up against the wall. Fortunately the bishop didn't kick him out. But it was the 1st time I heard that story and we had a great laugh together. These are the moments that matter most!
Even if you don't have parents who are alive, or kids, I still encourage you to share your 30 questions with a trusted friend or partner. I promise you it will bring you closer together and you'll learn something new about someone you love.
Acknowledging and celebrating all the Father's out there today. Many of my coaching clients are father's, and there is more societal pressure on us men than ever before. Financial responsibility to support families, overwhelm of stress, anxiety, and fear. Not having the tools to deal with unresolved trauma and unhealthy coping mechanisms we've used to numb out - like alcohol, drugs, porn, work, exercise, gambling - make it even more difficult in today's culture of toxic masculinity.
I know because I was there....And there is a better way!
ON THE OTHER SIDE IS FREEDOM.
This has been my way to healing, living a connected life in recovery, and working toward healthy habits, deep and meaningful relationships, honesty, truth, authenticity, purpose, passion, intimate connection with others….and true love (the real thing!) - all the things I really wanted in the first place!
I learned how to thrive - and not just SURVIVE - in my life. And I want that for you!
Brother, there is a new path, and here’s what that looks like:
Vulnerability
Asking for Help
Not pretending that everything is ok
Getting really honest about your own bag of emotional shit
Letting go of the fear, resentment, shame and guilt - instead of numbing out - working through, not around, that emotional bag of shit with someone who is trained to support and empower you.
THE ONLY WAY OUT IS THROUGH.
You can’t just numb out the rest of your life, and if you aren’t ready to throw in the towel now, I promise you that day is coming if you don’t find another way!
If this is you, and you are ready for a new life - you want out - you want to be FREE and on the other side of numbing out, addiction, pain, anxiety and stress….whatever it is you’re going through - I want to talk to you - I want to support you, I want to empower you, and I want show you a new way.
Let’s talk,
Andrew
19 min
June 10, 2022 #122: Comparison is the Death of Joy
"Comparison is the death of joy." - Mark Twain
As creators, artists, leaders, healers, connectors, and influencers there is one thing that kills our creativity and joy more than anything....comparison! Comparing ourselves to others and thinking, "Why them? Why not me?"
This zero-sum "I win you lose, you win I lose" mentality kills more dreams and desires than anything else. Comparison makes us feel inadequate, deflated, and leads to low self-esteem.
I know because I'm in it, and have been in it! And there is a better way.
By shifting our perspective to, "If they can do it, why can't I?"
In fact, other people give us permission and show us what's possible, which we can use for inspiration. This win-win mentality and abundance mindset is so much healthier and more productive.
I think of Roger Bannister running the 1st sub-4-minute mile in 1954 when experts said it couldn't be done. Since that feat, 1,497 others have also run a mile in under 4 minutes. Roger gave all these people permission, showed them what's possible, and inspired each one to accomplish their own dreams and desires.
We get to make the choice every day. "Why them? Why not me?"
OR
"If they can do it, why can't I?"
One attitude will propel you onward and upward.
The other will drive you to bitterness and despair.
12 min
June 03, 2022 #121: Conscious Conversations For Men
What is it?
In-person even we created last month for me to come together to support, empower, and acknowledge one another. A sacred space to take off the mask of masculinity and remove the armor which blocks us from the one thing we want most in life -- Deep and intimate connection! A safe container for men to share what's most alive and permission to share their truth.
Why now?
Us men are literally killing ourselves and those we love most. We don't ask for help. We try and do everything on our own. We say we're doing "fine," when in fact, we're struggling and suffering.
We turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, gambling, and food to "numb out" as a coping mechanism to try and deal overwhelm of stress and anxiety, unresolved traumas, and unprocessed emotions.
And the question I asked myself was, "What am I doing about it? How am I being the change I want to see in the world?"
Who is it for?
Any man who desires more connection with other men and community of like-minded people coming together to support, empower, and acknowledge one another.
Men who want more...vulnerability
Men who want more...truth
Men who want more...open hearts
Men who want more...intimate connection
Men who want more...healthy, mature, and conscious masculinity
Men who want to become better leaders for their family and community.
Men who want more effective tools to create emotional resilience and mental health strength.
When?
Every month in-person in San Diego with a vision of larger men's virtual groups and retreats.
If this is you or someone you know, please reach out to me:
Instagram: @Positive_Impact_Andrew
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.TheAndrewSchultz.com
12 min
May 27, 2022 #120: Spiritual 7 Morning Routine
It’s okay to not be okay. May is mental health awareness month, so I want to shine some light on mental health and the stigma that surrounds it.
I create a morning routine with all my clients so they can start each day with structure and discipline. Our body loves routine. I’ve created a spiritual seven that I include in my and my clients’ morning routines to help with mental health. It’s really simple:

1. Pray. The first thing I do is say a simple prayer: “God, Higher Power, Universe, Spirit, help me be in the right place at the right time, doing the right things with the right people for the right reasons.”

2. Meditate. The simplest form of meditation is conscious breathing. Inhale through your nose for four seconds, hold your breath for a second, and exhale through your nose for four seconds. Repeat this for two to five minutes.
3. Read daily devotions. I read two daily devotions to get my mind in the right place. These are positive, uplifting devotionals. Two of my favorite books filled with these devotions are “The Daily Stoic” by Ryan Holiday and “A Year of Miracles” by Marianne Williamson.

4. Make a gratitude list. Where our attention goes, our energy flows. What we focus on gets stronger. When I look for things to be grateful for, I draw more gratitude into my life. Starting my day with this practice creates positive momentum and helps me see more things to be grateful for throughout the day.

5. Make my bed. Having less physical clutter creates less spiritual and emotional clutter in your head. It also fosters self-esteem and self-confidence

6. Have a mirror moment. I look at myself in the mirror, say, “I love you,” and give myself a high five. It changes the feel-good part of our brain; you can’t be pissed off and give yourself a high five in the mirror.

7. Do mindful movement. This is some kind of physical exercise. That includes yoga, stretching, breath work, or even walking outside.
All seven parts of this routine form a mind, body, and spirit transformation. Over time, these activities create a positive snowball of momentum. Small habits repeated over and over create big transformations.
I never ask others to do what I’m not comfortable doing myself. I’ve been doing these seven things for years, and I know they work. Try it yourself, and know that I am here as a resource if you need it. You have trusted coaches, mentors, and friends to lean on for your mental health.
I’m rooting for you, and if you need any support, feel free to call or email me. I would love to help.
6 min
May 20, 2022 #119: From Addiction to Abundance - Celebrating 7 Years of Sobriety
Seven years ago, I was at rock bottom. Now it’s my turn to help others.
Today I want to share my journey with you. Now I am happy, healthy, and looking forward to my future. However, this wasn’t always the case.
Seven years ago, I was in so much pain and suffering that I would take too many sleeping pills, hoping I wouldn’t wake up. Alcohol and drugs brought me to rock bottom, and I was struggling to find the will to live. I don’t wish the amount of pain I was in on anybody.

Fortunately, by the grace of God and the love of my family, I had an intervention and was checked into a treatment facility. I remember on day one someone asked me, “Do you want the good news or the bad news first?” Of course, I wanted the good. They told me I only needed to change one thing to fix my life; the bad news is that it was everything.

"I want to use my experiences and what I’ve learned to help you."

One breath at a time, I achieved seven years of sobriety on April 30, 2022. The token I received to commemorate the date is a representation of all the work I put in and all the people who helped me along the way.
My intention over the next several weeks and months is to empower you with the same tools used to change my life. Being of service is one of my core values, and I want to use my experiences and what I’ve learned to help you. Maybe your struggle isn’t related to drugs or alcohol. Instead, you could be having trouble with relationships, spirituality, work, finances, purpose, health, or anything else. Whatever it may be, I want to use what I’ve learned to help you create new possibilities in your life.
I got a second chance, and I’m taking advantage of it. You deserve to overcome your struggles, but it won’t happen by itself. I see you, I acknowledge you, and I want to help you.

If you are ready to overcome whatever challenges you face, please call or email me. I look forward to hearing from you.

5 min
May 06, 2022 #118: Happy Mother's Day
Acknowledging and celebrating all the Mom's out there on this special weekend. You are the real Super Heroes! Especially My Mom - The absolute best mom in the world!
My Mom has been there for me since I can remember. Driving me to all my football, baseball, and basketball practices and games. Driving me and my friends to school every morning. Making my lunch every day from K-12! Yep, PB&J, Doritos, and Sliced Apples. The hand-written note she put in my lunch my senior year telling me how proud she was to be my Mom. Supporting my decision to move to San Diego after graduating college. And doing the intervention that saved my life in 2015 from my downward-spiral of addiction and rock-bottom where I lost the will to live.
Through it all, she has been there EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! Showing me unconditional love.
Thank you, Mom, for everything. I'm truly grateful for you. And I love you with all my heart!
And to all the Mom's out there, Happy Mother's Day! I see you. I acknowledge you. I celebrate you!
11 min
April 15, 2022 #117: Trafficking with Elona Gaball & Mary Petteway
Trafficking is an $810 Million industry affecting up to 8,000 women in San Diego alone every year.
Mary Petteway is a victim of trafficking who courageously shares her story. Through her healing journey and recovery she met Elona Gaball, who helped restore her smile and volunteered her amazing dentistry skills to ensure Mary's beautiful smile matched her loving heart.
Two beautiful souls coming together on Good Friday to celebrate God's love, grace, and glory.
A story of resurrection, compassion, and healing on this Easter weekend.
To help support and contribute to victims of trafficking, please go to www.alabasterjarproject.org
37 min
April 08, 2022 #116: Jeff Bristol - From Heroin to Hero
From front-desk receptionist to trainer, to Assistant GM, to GM & Owner of Fitness Quest 10. Jeff Bristol optimizes hard work, commitment, dedication, and resiliency. If you want to be inspired, give this a listen. If you have a loved one battling addiction, give this a listen. If you simply want more positivity in your life, give this a listen.
In this episode, hear the heart-warming story of how Jeff turned his life around from addiction and rock-bottom. to leading one of the top fitness studios in the country. His leadership and positive impact of his family and community is exactly why I started this podcast three years ago.
And if you live locally in San Diego, you HAVE to go visit Jeff and his team at Fitness Quest 10 in Scripps Ranch! It's a sanctuary unlike anything else I've ever experienced! And I've been to lots of fitness studios!
You can follow Jeff @bristolfit & @fitnessquest10
46 min
April 01, 2022 #115: Taylor Hawkins & Progressive Disease of Addiction
Addiction is a progressive disease, meaning it gets worse over time, resulting in a general decline in health or function. Addiction is a disease of faulty thinking and perception. Also called substance use disorder, it affects a person's brain and behavior and leads to an inability to control the use of drugs, alcohol, or anything else that causes negative consequences without the ability to stop. Addiction is a chronic brain disease that's more about the neurology of the brain than the outward manifestations of behavioral problems and poor choices. Addiction doesn't discriminate and doesn't care about your fame, fortune, socioeconomic background, and material wealth. It impacts us all! And it's killing more and more people than ever before.
The urine toxicology report found 10 different substances in Hawkin's body - including THC, Tricyclic Antidepressants, Benzodiazepines, Opiods, and Alcohol.
An autopsy also found Hawkin's heart was about double the size of a normal healthy heart. Illicit drugs and some prescription drugs carry a significant cardiac risk like the ones found. The more substances a person uses, the greater the risk.
If you, or someone you know, is struggling please reach out for help. You can send me a DM on Instagram @Positive_Impact_Andrew and I can point you in the right direction.
Having been through my own addiction, and having similar amount of substances in my own body during my rock-bottom in 2014, this is the most important work I can do. To help inspire hope for others. And turn my mess into my Message that our greatest challenge can become our greatest asset.
20 min

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