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Join actor, host, and content creator Sarah Pribis in a captivating discussion about her bold decision to freeze embryos amidst the uncertainties of motherhood. Sarah shares how she learned about options for fertility preservation through reality TV and ultimately decided to freeze embryos herself. She goes on to share that she still does not have a clear answer about motherhood for herself yet but this process has allowed her and her partner more time to get clear on that decision.

Beth and Sarah delve into the societal pressures surrounding these decisions, emphasizing the importance of surrendering to the unknown. The conversation explores the value of age and personal growth, touching on relationship dynamics and the significance of embracing diverse life paths free from societal expectations. As the episode unfolds, Sarah imparts valuable advice to approach life with curiosity, fostering an open-minded perspective over judgment. Tune in to this insightful conversation as Sarah shares how she navigates the complexities of life, fertility, and self-discovery.

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• The language used to describe relationships can be confusing and may not accurately reflect the dynamics of a partnership.
• Opinions and expectations from others about marriage and having children should not dictate one's own choices and happiness.
• It is important to normalize different journeys and paths in life, as everyone's experiences are unique.
• Approaching life with curiosity and open-mindedness can lead to unexpected and fulfilling experiences.
• Embracing detours and being open to new opportunities can lead to personal growth and happiness.
• Expanding perspectives and challenging narrow-mindedness can reveal a world of possibilities.
• Living life on your own terms and following your own path is essential for personal fulfillment and happiness.

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Beth is joined by Ilana Dunn, a Millennial and Gen Z Dating Expert, Content Creator, and host of Seeing Other People. Ilana discusses her experiences with dating, her career transition from the music industry to Hinge, and her subsequent role as a podcast host. She shares her journey of vulnerability, from keeping her dating life private to openly seeking advice from her social media followers during a breakup. Ilana talks about the importance of self-respect, open communication, and not defining oneself by relationship status or job. Beth and Ilana explore the pressures of societal expectations, the value of timing in relationships, and the significance of self-awareness. They advise listeners to prioritize well-being, practice patience, and embrace their personal dating journey.

• Ilana Dunn's personal journey and career transition
• Ilana's experiences in dating, including toxic relationships and situationships
• The power of vulnerability and open communication in dating
• Ilana's transition from the music industry to working at Hinge
• Ilana's decision to share her personal dating life on social media
• Ilana's experience at Hinge and her decision to start her own podcast
• The impact of societal expectations and social media on relationships
• The significance of timing and readiness in relationships
• Advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating
• The importance of self-compassion and intentionality in dating

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In episode 37 of "Quiet the Clock," host Beth is joined by Lauren Allen, a Certified Nutrition Coach, to explore the intricate relationship between fertility, health, and nutrition. Lauren, who has established herself as an authority on women's hormones and fertility, shares her personal struggle with infertility and PCOS, offering insight into the ways she conquered these obstacles through targeted dietary and lifestyle changes.

The episode dives into the science behind nutrition's role in hormonal balance and reproductive health, and Lauren offers some myth-busting facts to help listeners differentiate between common misconceptions and evidence-based practices. Lauren offers a lot of knowledge that fertility doctors might not be sharing but can be hugely impactful to your fertility health.

The episode empathetically addresses the emotional weight of fertility challenges, while focusing on practical guidance for women seeking to improve their fertility and overall well-being. Lauren generously provides a wealth of resources for listeners, and together with Beth, emphasizes the significance of open conversations and the power of community support for individuals navigating their fertility paths.

We Also Talk About:

• Personal journeys with fertility, health, and nutrition
• Impact of diet and lifestyle changes on fertility journey
• Experience with infertility and PCOS diagnosis
• Emotional and psychological challenges of fertility struggles
• Importance of knowledge and control in fertility journey
• Empowerment through nutrition, mindset, and holistic approaches
• Understanding the impact of environment on fertility
• Importance of self-care and support during fertility journeys
• Resources and support for women on fertility journeys
• Cultivating dialogue and support around fertility

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During this holiday break, we invite you to revisit episode 7 of the "Quiet the Clock" podcast, host Beth Gulotta interviews Dr. Anate Brauer, a reproductive endocrinologist and fertility specialist. Dr. Brauer explains the basis of egg freezing and emphasizes the importance of understanding the process.

They discuss the importance of increasing access to knowledge about fertility and the potential impact of the fertility industry on society. They also discuss the financial barriers to accessing egg freezing and the importance of coverage for these treatments by employers.

Dr. Brauer advises patients to work with their doctor to determine if egg freezing is a good investment for them and to choose the right lab and technology when it comes to freezing eggs.

• Understanding the Natural Cycle [00:00:00] Dr. Anate Brauer explains the natural cycle of a woman's body and how it relates to egg freezing.
• Connecting with Dr. Anate Brauer [00:02:02] Beth Gulotta shares how she connected with Dr. Anate Brauer and introduces her to the podcast.
• Importance of Understanding egg freezing [00:05:19] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of understanding the basis of egg freezing and how they work to help women make informed decisions.
• The Evolution of Fertility Conversation [00:07:57] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses how the conversation around fertility has evolved into a mainstream topic from 2013 to now.
• Increasing Access to Fertility Knowledge [00:09:24] Dr. Anate Brauer talks about the importance of increasing access to fertility knowledge, especially for young women, and shares her experience speaking at a college event.
• Age and Egg Quality [00:13:06] Dr. Anate Brauer explains how age affects egg quality and the decline in pregnancy rates with IVF population at 34, emphasizing the importance of considering egg freezing earlier.
• How many eggs do you need to freeze for a good chance of having a baby? [00:15:45] Dr. Anate Brauer explains the number of eggs needed to freeze for a good chance of having a baby based on age and shares data from her clinic.
• Balancing the number of eggs to freeze with personal goals [00:17:14] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the importance of balancing the number of eggs to freeze with personal goals and having open conversations with patients.
• The challenge of advising patients on when it's too late to freeze eggs [00:20:12] Dr. Anate Brauer shares the challenge of advising patients on when it's too late to freeze eggs and the potential harm of misleading patients with low success rates.
• Concerns about the fertility industry [00:23:53] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the potential for the fertility industry to change society and the responsibility that comes with it.
• Rules and lifestyle during egg freezing [00:26:09] Dr. Anate Brauer talks about the different beliefs and convictions in the industry regarding lifestyle choices during egg freezing, including diet, alcohol, caffeine, and exercise.
• Finances and coverage for egg freezing [00:30:04] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the financial barriers to egg freezing and the increasing options for coverage, including employer benefits and third-party fertility benefits.
• Financing and Egg Freezing Programs [00:31:56-00:35:37] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses financing and egg freezing programs, including the Ashore program and shared risk program, as well as programs for female physicians and cancer patients.
• Importance of Freezing Eggs for Cancer Patients [00:37:31-00:38:19] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of freezing eggs for cancer patients undergoing chemo, and the need for more education on the topic.
• Egg Freezing Abroad [00:38:41-00:39:43] Dr. Anate Brauer shares her thoughts on egg freezing abroad due to cost, and mentions her involvement in a musical about egg freezing.
• The Importance of Choosing the Right Lab [00:39:43] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of choosing the right lab for egg freezing and warns against choosing a lab solely based on cost. She also discusses the importance of finding a lab with thaw data and the risks of freezing eggs internationally.
• Accepting Eggs from Other Centers [00:41:49] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the process of accepting eggs from other centers and the rigorous risk management process that SGF has in place. She also explains the reason why most labs in the US will not accept eggs coming from outside the US.
• Freezing Eggs Internationally [00:43:19] Dr. Anate Brauer advises against freezing eggs internationally due to the risks involved in transporting them and the importance of ensuring the technology is sound. She emphasizes the need to be able to thaw the eggs and make babies from them in the US.

In episode 35 of Quiet the Clock, Emma Wilson, the Turning 30 Coach, joins the show. Beth and Emma discuss societal pressures and expectations that surround women who turn 30. They discuss navigating dating, motherhood,egg-freezing, societal pressures, and timelines. Emma shares how she helps her clients to feel more confident, embrace their unique journey, and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle, and more.

Emma shares her own journey of entering and navigating her 30s and how she found life coaching as a support, eventually becoming one herself. Emma specializes in helping women embrace this incredible decade free of expectation and pressure. She helps women reframe this decade as a time for growth not judgment and comparison. They discuss the importance of shifting mindset, accepting one's unique journey, and differentiating between societal expectations and personal desires.

During this episode they discuss finding love when you least expect it, the value of self-awareness, and the importance of community and connection.

We Also Talk About:

• Navigating Societal Pressures [00:00:00] Discussion on the societal pressures and expectations surrounding turning 30, challenging societal timelines.
• Uncertainty in Dating, Motherhood, and Egg Freezing [00:00:32] Exploration of navigating uncertainty in dating, motherhood, and egg freezing, feeling limited by time to build the desired partnership, marriage, and family.
• Emma's Journey and Becoming a Life Coach [00:02:31] Emma shares her personal journey, including her turning 30 crisis, leaving her law career, discovering coaching and therapy, and becoming a life coach specializing in helping women in their 30s.
• Shifting out of societal pressure [00:09:52] Helping women embrace their journey and accept where they are, moving out of waiting and living their lives now.
• Acceptance and self-discovery [00:10:44] Encouraging clients to accept their current situation, explore their emotions, and build a strong foundation before pursuing new milestones.
• Letting go of time and pressure [00:15:24] Slowing down, embracing gratitude, and being open to different paths, leading to a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment.
• The belief in meeting someone when least expected [00:19:09] Discussion on the annoyance of societal narratives about meeting someone when least expected and the quickness of meeting a partner after letting go of pressure.
• The impact of freezing eggs on mindset [00:20:00] Conversation about how freezing eggs opened up the speaker to a mindset shift, letting go of the rush and pressure to find a partner.
• Challenging the need for instant butterflies [00:21:30] Exploration of the expectation for instant butterflies in relationships and the realization that building a solid foundation on friendship can lead to a fulfilling partnership.
• Egg freezing journey and advocacy [00:28:10] Emma discusses her own experience with egg freezing and her advocacy for challenging societal timelines and the fear surrounding fertility decline.
• The impact of stress and lifestyle on fertility [00:31:46] Emma shares how her fertility levels actually improved over time due to decreased stress and changes in her diet, challenging the notion of a fertility cliff at a certain age.
• Normalizing different timelines and sharing personal stories [00:35:43] Beth praises Emma's work in normalizing different paths and timelines, and the power of sharing personal stories to create a safe space for women to embrace their own journeys.
• Emma's community and connection [00:37:44] Emma discusses the importance of cultivating a community and connection, and the significance of normalizing experiences.
• Thanking Emma for her time [00:38:02] Beth expresses gratitude to Emma for joining her in the episode.
• Promoting Emma and the podcast [00:38:04] Beth encourages listeners to check out Emma, the Turning 30 Coach, on Instagram and promotes future episodes. She also mentions a free guide on handling differing timelines with a partner.

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In the 34th episode of Quiet The Clock, the focus shifts to dating and the road to recovery from love addiction. Jackie Simek, Mindset and Leadership Coach candidly shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of owning one's experiences and challenging societal timelines for partnership, marriage, and motherhood.

Jackie discusses her path to recovery from love addiction, highlighting the benefits of taking a break from dating to gain clarity and self-empowerment. She opens up about her struggles with accepting the addict label and how love addiction affected her past relationships.

The conversation underscores the significance of self-reflection and taking charge of one's choices in relationships. Jackie's story serves as inspiration for those on similar journeys.

Key Points:

• The importance of taking a break from dating [00:07:08] Jackie discusses the benefits of taking a break from dating and seeking validation from men in order to gain clarity and personal power.
• Working through the steps of recovery [00:08:09] Jackie talks about her struggle with accepting the label of being an addict and her progress in working through the steps of recovery.
• The journey of addiction recovery [00:08:56] Jackie shares her personal experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
• Understanding attachment styles [00:10:41] Jackie and Beth discuss attachment styles and how they can impact relationships and dating.
• Dating with self-awareness and intention [00:13:14] Jackie talks about her dating experiences after going through the recovery program and how she approaches dating with self-awareness and a different mindset.
• The journey of dating and recovery [00:17:40] Jackie shares her experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
• Different dating experiences [00:18:23] Jackie discusses how her dating experiences in New York were formulaic, while her current relationship progressed differently.
• Recognizing the need to end the relationship [00:19:31] Jackie talks about realizing that her current partner wasn't the right person for her and making the decision to end the relationship.

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In the 33th episode of "Quiet the Clock," we are joined by Jackie, a Mindset & Leadership Coach. To hear her remarkable journey of egg freezing at the age of 41. Jackie's decision to freeze her eggs without a partner is a poignant story filled with challenges and personal growth.

They explore the societal pressures that often weigh on women, urging them to build partnerships, marry, and start families within predefined time frames. Jackie's courageous decision to defy these timelines is a testament to the importance of challenging societal norms.

This episode sheds light on the hurdles women face when pursuing fertility options in their 40s and the discouragement they may encounter from fertility clinics. They emphasize the significance of sharing personal stories, offering inspiration, and fostering hope.

We Also Talk About:

• The decision to freeze eggs at age 41 [00:00:00] Jackie discusses the risks and heartbreak associated with freezing eggs at an older age.

• Connecting with Beth Gulotta and sharing egg freezing journeys [00:01:56] Jackie and Beth discuss how they connected through a shared article on egg freezing and the importance of sharing personal stories.

• The importance of considering egg freezing at a younger age [00:06:10] Jackie emphasizes the importance of considering egg freezing at a younger age to minimize the risks and heartbreak associated with fertility issues later in life.

• The psychic reassurance [00:08:47] Discussion about seeking reassurance from a psychic about becoming a mother.

• Importance of external messaging [00:09:40] Exploring the impact of external messaging on our beliefs and choices.

• Jackie's egg freezing journey [00:10:27] Jackie shares her atypical egg freezing journey, including challenges and medical issues.

• The hematoma scare [00:18:22] Jackie experiences a hematoma scare and the impact it has on her health and fertility journey.

• The cyst discovery [00:21:26] Jackie's doctor discovers a cyst during her egg freezing process, leading to a delay in starting the injections.

• The cyst disappearance and meeting someone new [00:24:44] The cyst disappears, allowing Jackie to continue her egg freezing journey, and she meets someone new in her life.

• The importance of mindset and narratives [00:28:11] Discussion on the power of mindset and narratives in shaping one's experience and the need to shift negative narratives.

• The decision to continue with the egg freezing process [00:31:06] Jackie's decision to continue with the egg freezing process despite setbacks and doubts, and the faith she had in the outcome.

• The impact of diet on fertility and overall health [00:34:42] Stephanie's guidance on the importance of diet for fertility, including the need to adjust the ratios of fats, carbs, and proteins, and the benefits Jackie experienced from following the recommended diet.

• The importance of fertility knowledge [00:37:57] Discussion on the importance of understanding fertility and tangible tools to help improve fertility.

• Taking care of your body and environment [00:38:11] Tips on avoiding endocrine disruptors and using natural products to improve fertility.

• Recovery and hope after egg retrieval [00:39:33] Discussion on the emotional journey of egg freezing and the importance of sharing personal stories to inspire hope.

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In episode 32 of "Quiet the Clock" podcast, we are joined by Kate Semeniuk, a RTT Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist to discuss societal timelines and pressures that often don't coincide with the pursuit of individual happiness. Through their discussion we learn that often, it can create unhappiness, comparison and self-judgment. Kate and Beth discuss the relentless pressure women face to conform to predefined life milestones and the detrimental effects of comparing one's journey to others'. Kate brings forth invaluable tools and techniques to break free from this comparison trap, helping listeners discover their genuine desires and values.

The conversation takes a deeper dive into the realm of subconscious beliefs and the pivotal role of hypnotherapy in unraveling the mysteries of these deeply ingrained notions. They both explore the fears of missing out, making mistakes, and facing solitude while on a quest for happiness. As well as delve into topics around the corrosive effects of blame, guilt, and shame, shedding light on the importance of self-reflection and positive self-talk. " The episode wraps up with Kate generously sharing two powerful tools aimed at boosting self-confidence and altering negative narratives – a voice recording exercise and an NLP practice.

We Also Talk About:

• The pressure of meeting societal milestones [00:02:32] Kate and Beth discuss the societal pressure to meet milestones and how it can affect happiness and fulfillment.
• Comparison and idealization on social media [00:07:26] They talk about the tendency to compare ourselves to others, especially on social media, and how it can lead to feelings of sadness and depression.
• Getting clear on personal desires and values [00:09:34] Kate shares techniques to help people get clear on what they truly want, separate from societal expectations and comparisons.
• The importance of questioning deep-rooted beliefs [00:13:28] Exploring the role of hypnotherapy in accessing and shifting core beliefs that are resistant to change.
• Understanding blame and shifting out of it [00:17:57]
• Examining how blame, guilt, and shame are socially imposed feelings and discussing techniques to help clients release them.
• Embracing the present and letting go of guilt [00:21:35] Encouraging gratitude for the present moment and understanding that past decisions were made with the knowledge and understanding available at that time.
• The importance of self-love and self-care [00:24:40] Kate talks about the importance of loving and taking care of oneself, including leaving messages from one's happy self and using tools to shift out of sadness or doubt.
• Discovering one's true desires and values [00:25:38] Kate discusses how many women are influenced by societal expectations and feel pressure to conform to certain milestones, but emphasizes the importance of finding one's true nature and what brings them joy.
• Shifting mindset and embracing uncertainty [00:28:30] Beth and Kate discuss the need to differentiate between internal desires and external messaging, and how releasing expectations and embracing curiosity can lead to a more fulfilling vision and journey in life.
• Loving all parts of you [00:38:57] Kate discusses the importance of accepting and loving all parts of oneself, including one's voice, and shares an exercise to record and listen to one's own voice as a way to boost confidence and self-acceptance
• NLP practice for shifting negative scenarios [00:41:14] Kate explains a decades-old NLP practice to replace negative scenarios with positive outcomes by visualizing and repeating a happy scenario in one's mind.
• Closing remarks and promotion of Kate's guide [00:42:43] Beth thanks Kate for her insights and encourages listeners to subscribe to the podcast. She also promotes Kate's guide, "Balancing the Biological Clock," which offers expert advice on navigating differing timelines in relationships.

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In Episode 31 of Quiet The Clock, we are joined by Julie Newman and Lauren Milo to discuss the intricacies of modern dating, relationships, and the societal pressures that accompany women in this process. The conversation delves into various facets of modern dating, touching on subjects like the burden of responsibility placed on women, the exclusion of men from empathetic conversations, and the disappointment in the lack of accountability for men while dating.

The conversation also explores the importance of clear communication in relationships, the potential dangers of reinforcing anxious attachment styles, and the often-overlooked art of courting in today's dating landscape. Lauren & Julie share valuable insights and perspectives that challenge societal norms while encouraging women to seek self-discovery and make meaningful connections.

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In Episode 30 of "Quiet The Clock," we are joined by therapists Jessi and Lauren to discuss the unique challenges and societal expectations for women at age 30, along with the pressure many women face concerning marriage, motherhood, and fertility.

Jessi and Lauren openly share how they plan to approach this decade as they newly enter their 30's and how they are doing it on their own terms and their own desires. Their conversation focuses on embracing uncertainty, shifting personal mindsets and the potential importance of egg freezing. They highlight the importance of getting really clear and grounded in what you want and when so that you don't feel the pressure of external voices or expectations.

Their conversation is a deep dive into the burden of responsibility placed on women, fertility health, and the role of partners in modern dating. Jessi and Lauren offer incredible advice on how to hold space for all the things you are feeling and how to get comfortable with the unknowns and your own anxieties as you navigate your 30's.

We Also Talk About:

• Approaching the age of 30 and societal expectations [00:02:07] The guests discuss how they are approaching turning 30 and the societal expectations around marriage, motherhood, and fertility.
• Navigating uncertainty and redefining timelines [00:02:43] One of the guests shares her uncertainty about motherhood and her decision to consider freezing her eggs. They discuss letting go of societal timelines and redefining their own paths.
• Shifting mindset and embracing the unknown [00:08:33] Both guests share their shift in mindset, embracing the unknown, and focusing on their own journeys rather than conforming to societal expectations. They talk about prioritizing other aspects of their lives, such as career and personal growth, over motherhood at the moment.
• Approaching 30 and societal expectations [00:09:29] Discussion on the pressure and challenges women face when approaching their 30s and feeling the need to meet societal expectations.
• Staying in a positive mindset [00:10:19] The importance of staying positive and not comparing oneself to others on social media, and how to focus on one's own feelings and desires.
• Embracing uncertainty and finding joy [00:12:26] The mindset of embracing uncertainty and finding joy in one's own journey, even if certain milestones like marriage and motherhood are not yet achieved.
• Navigating Uncertainty in Relationships [00:17:26] Discussion about embracing uncertainty in relationships and the importance of conscious decision-making in timelines.
• The Burden of Responsibility on Women [00:18:23] Exploration of the pressure on women to think about fertility health and the role of partners in conversations about fertility.
• The Impact of External Expectations [00:19:11] Reflection on the external pressures and expectations around marriage, engagement, and having children, and the need to set boundaries.
• The pressure to conform to societal timelines [00:26:27] Discussion on staying in a relationship for the sake of the partner's desires and societal expectations.
• Pausing and reflecting on personal desires [00:26:54] Importance of taking moments to pause and question one's motivations and alignment with personal values.
• Embracing uncertainty and the unknown [00:29:23] Encouragement to embrace discomfort and anxiety as indicators of strong desires, and to trust the timing of life's unfolding.

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