Everyone’s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it’s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist’s office. But here’s the truth: if you’re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it’s keeping you stuck.

In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you’re looking for real love.

If you’re a smart, self-aware woman who’s done the work but still isn’t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn’t more information—it’s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.

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00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single

02:21 Information Doesn’t Equal Transformation

04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love

06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself)

08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like

09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You

If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.

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You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates?

Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you.

Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.

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00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men

03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding

04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love

05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability

08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside

10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love

11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing

12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently

There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them.

Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real.

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Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy?

In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think.

For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.

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00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag

If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.

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You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed.

If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “How did I miss that?”, this episode is for you.

Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts—not because they’re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn’t that bad… until it was.

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00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags

02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship

04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions

06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People

08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself

09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships

Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what “being a good person” actually means.

Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one?

Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently. 

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If you’ve been told to "just be more feminine" to attract a high-quality man—this episode is your permission slip to roll your eyes and delete that advice forever.

In this episode, Hilary unpacks the real meaning of feminine energy for strong, high-functioning women who are tired of being told to play small. She’s calling BS on the idea that you need to be more “demure,” wear more pink, or act helpless so a man can feel useful. (Spoiler: You don’t.)

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Ready to stop playing damsel and start sitting on your damn throne? 

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They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why?

In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it.

The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within.

If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it.

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Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why.

Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her — and no, it wasn’t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.

It’s not about money. It’s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don’t.

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This is the episode to press play on if you’ve been “doing the work” but not seeing the results.

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 – Watch the free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/

 – You’ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days 

 – Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It’s not luck, it’s energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by… and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday’s leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.

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If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let’s shift into the energy of your next-level self.

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3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg

You don’t need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer—you just need you. In this episode, Hilary  is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they’re all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel.

From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We’re talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.

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Because turning heads isn’t about getting attention—it’s about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room.

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We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?

In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.

From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.

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Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.

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