It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

REBROADCAST: Let a Win Be a Win in High Conflict


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This is a rebroadcast. This episode originally aired May 11, 2023.

The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite different can inadvertently escalate conflict or take a few steps backwards. 


In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about:

  • defining what it means to “win” in high conflict
  • do you need to reach an expected outcome to have success
  • temptation to keep going when you should stop
  • when do you know if you’ve won
  • choosing your battles
  • avoid opening up emotions 
  • focusing on keeping people focused on thinking and doing


Links & Other Notes

  • BOOKS
    • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
    • Calming Upset People with EAR
    • It’s All Your Fault!
  • ARTICLES
    • Tips On Offering Mediation To A High Conflict Employee
  • Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.


Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (03:18) - How to Avoid Sabotaging a Successful Interaction
  • (04:26) - Definition of a Win in High Conflict Situations
  • (07:03) - Choosing Your Battles
  • (08:58) - Praise vs. Opening Up Emotions
  • (11:18) - Making Progress, Not Perfection
  • (14:05) - Fuhgedaboudits
  • (19:34) - Blame as Indicator
  • (22:23) - Coming Next Week: Exposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy

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