In this episode, we dive into the concept of the “depressive position” and its relationship to development. We talk about the challenge of accepting the independence and separateness of others, and the struggle to let go of the need to control them. We explore how the depressive position involves facing the tough realities of loss, separation, and limitations — and why this process is crucial for our emotional growth. We also introduce the idea of “pathological organizations”, those defense mechanisms that can keep us safe BUT also leave us trapped. And finally, we'll give you a sneak peek into the next episode, where we'll discuss how to break down these defenses and start moving forward in life.

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