Comparison and accusation will kill your marriage. Telling someone they’re inadequate because you’ve done more will never build trust and intimacy in your relationship. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at why the tit-for-tat mentality can take over in a relationship and how to avoid all the negative consequences that come […]

Why do you say the meanest things when you’re fighting with your spouse? Why can’t you control your temper and your tongue? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll find out why it’s so hard to say nice things when you’re angry and why it IS possible to stop being mean and start […]

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re addressing a very real problem… having to deal with a spouse that has no desire (or ability) to change. Here’s just a few of the comments I’ve read in the last two days from people who are stuck in this type of relationship: “I’ve been fighting […]

Early in our marriage I didn’t know how to love my wife well. Because I never had anyone show me exactly what to do, I was guessing and making things up as I went along. Unfortunately, I was hurting Shannon and causing more problems. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re going to […]

Has your husband been pulling away emotionally? Does it feel like there’s a bigger and bigger gap growing between the two of you and no matter how much you pursue him, you continue to feel lonely? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we dissect the situation and show you one of the magical […]

The other day, I suggested to Shannon that we try a little experiment and see if we can be 100% honest with each other for the next 48 hours. The idea was, “Could we build enough trust where we don’t have to be afraid of being our honest selves and we could be fully vulnerable […]

I wish today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast was based on theory. Unfortunately, I, like a lot of other husbands, have the uncanny ability to spin problems to make myself look good and leave Shannon feeling like everything is her fault. This is not something I want to continue. We hope that as we […]

If you choose to be married and/or have kids, you are making the decision to no longer live your life for yourself. It’s inevitable that, at some point, your selfish survival brain is going to kick in and start reminding you of everything you’ve had to give up. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage […]

What do you do if you realize you haven’t been the kindest of husbands for the majority of your marriage and your wife tells you she’s no longer attracted to you? What can you do to change her feelings? Is it too late or are you going to be stuck in a loveless marriage? These […]