Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer is joined by co-authors of "Defiant Dreams: The Journey of an Afghan Girl Who Risked Everything for Education," Sola Mahfouz and Malaina Kapoor. What would you do if your education, autonomy, and freedom was stripped from you in an instant? Activists and friends, Sola and Malaina, share Sola's story of self-educating behind closed doors in the face of devastating threats, finding refuge in the United States to attend college, and becoming a quantum computing researcher despite all obstacles, odds, and fear. You will leave this episode with a shift in perspective, overwhelming gratitude, motivation to keep fighting for the life you want, and a desire to make an impact.

Plus:

+ What Sola told herself in times of intense fear and discouragement

+ THE quote that will forever change your relationship with education

+ How Sola and Malaina practice self-care (and what they do for fun!)

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This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed therapist, Anna Aslanian, to discuss how to identify, and work through, feelings of jealousy in our relationships. Anna shares why jealousy comes up, what it’s telling us, and how to approach it.

Plus:

+ The 2 root causes of jealousy

+ Which unlikely behavior is linked with this emotion

+ 3 simple tips for processing feelings

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This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Jessica Frew, co-host of The Husband In Law Podcast -- where she shares stories of marriage, infidelity, coming out, remarriage, and co-parenting alongside her co-hosts, Steve (her gay ex-husband) and Matt (her current husband). Yes, you read that right. Jessica shares about her first marriage, which included discovering that her then-husband is gay, the pain of betrayal, and reinventing herself after divorce. This episode will absolutely make you feel less alone if you're navigating deceit, separation, or loss, and offers some great steps for reconnecting with your gut, rebuilding your confidence, and nurturing new life and relationships.

Plus:

+ How Jessica's Intuition Led To A Huge Reveal

+ Handling Criticism When Sharing Your Story

+ How To Reframe Betrayal To Aid In Healing

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This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed clinical psychologist and leading expert on narcissism, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani shares guidance for identifying and healing from narcissistic relationships, including the first steps for leaving or reestablishing boundaries, health issues that may arise due to enduring this kind of toxicity, how long you should stay single after a narcissistic relationship ends, what co-parenting with a narcissist can look like, why not everyone may be supportive of the changes you’re making in your relationship, the range of guilt you may experience, and so. much. more.

Plus:

+ The 3 Groups of People You’ll Meet on Your Road to Recovery

+ Why Status Quo Relationship Advice Does NOT Work For Narcissistic Relationships

+ How To Keep Your Good (And Bad) News To Yourself Around A Narcissist

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This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Codependency and Addiction Expert and Author of “Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns,” Heidi Rain. Heidi describes the different styles of codependent attachments, the relationship between addiction and codependency — including codependency being an addiction in itself, why holding onto control doesn’t work (and how to relinquish it), and what we need to let go of in order to break away from, or transform, damaging relational dynamics. If you're experiencing similar, undesirable outcomes in your work, life, or relationships on loop, and you're ready to make some changes, do NOT miss this episode.

Plus:

+ The difference between expectations vs. standards in a relationship (and how to face reality)

+ Recognizing codependent behaviors — even when they've been normalized for you

+ Heidi's #1 quote for building unshakable confidence in the face of criticism and rejection

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This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by her cousin and professional softball player, Sam Fischer. Sam shares how she feels about leaving her dream job, what she's considering for her next career move, the biggest challenges, blessings, and sacrifices she's experienced, and what's aided her longevity over 10+ years as a professional athlete. Failure, starting over, grief, recognition, and identity are just a few things covered during this discussion - if you're amidst a life or career transition, this episode is packed with takeaways for you.

Plus:

+ How Sam is approaching her last season

+ The #1 value she ascribes to her success

+ How she crafted a plan for starting over

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This week, we have a stacked compilation episode for you filled with life-changing relationship advice from some of our brilliant past guests. NYT bestselling author, Greg Behrendt, Relationship Therapist from Married At First Sight, Dr. Viviana Coles, Sexologist, Goody Howard, Comedian, Ken Garr, Communication Expert from Married At First Sight, Rachel DeAlto, Licensed Therapist, Kati Morton, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Dr. Alex Katehakis, and Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Kate Balistrieri are sharing their best tips for breaking toxic patterns, cultivating healthy relationships, and healing trauma.

Plus:

+ How The 4 Intimacy Styles are different from The 5 Love Languages

+ 4 simple (and free) tips for boosting excitement with a long-term sexual partner

+ Why you might be stuck in a pattern of getting "the ick" and what to do about it

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12 ADHD Life Hacks With Em Schulz 

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Em Schulz, New York Times bestselling author and co-host of the hit paranormal and true crime podcast, And That's Why We Drink. Em shares about their personal experience with ADHD, the feelings that can coincide with receiving this diagnosis as an adult, and fantastic hacks for jumpstarting motivation, getting chores done with less rumination, and prioritizing self-care. Whether you're neurodivergent or not, these tips are brilliant for creating more ease, accessibility, and fun in your life.

Plus:

+ Em's #1 tip for keeping a tidy space 

+ Advice for neurodivergent entrepreneurs

+ Em's favorite thing about having ADHD  

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This week, we have a jam-packed compilation episode for you filled with delicious nuggets of wisdom from some of our incredible past guests. Tan France, Brian Regan, Whitney Cummings, Michael Buble,' Pete Holmes, Preacher Lawson, Nikki Glaser, Freddie Prinze Jr., Gad Elmaleh, and Mike Birbiglia are sharing their favorite quotes, books, philosophies, pivotal moments, and self-care practices.

Plus:

+ Find out which guest never wanted to be famous

+ Why, "yes, thank you," will be your new favorite mind-hack

+ What we can all learn from a pack of wolves (it's BRILLIANT)

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This week is a tearjerker as it’s Kelsey’s last episode as a co-host of The Self-Helpless Podcast. We’re sharing stories about the beginning times, the huge life and career transitions that we’ve experienced while recording the podcast for almost 7 years, how this experience has impacted us, and what’s next for everyone. Self-Helpless will live on, but let’s give Kelsey a proper send-off!

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