Sex, Love, and Addiction

By Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW

On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatk... more

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Number 1: Surrendering to Sexual Sobriety Part 2
Dr. Rob and Justin Bridges, author and expert on sexual sobriety and healing, continue their discussion about the rigorous process of healing – what it takes to fully commit, realistic time lines, and the importance of embracing imperfections while seeking perfection. Their conversation is filled with advice for ways to flood an addict’s life with sobriety so that you can finally drown out the disease. TAKEAWAYS: [2:30] Radical change was essential for Justin’s recovery. [6:12] Realistic timelines in lasting recovery. [8:21] Accepting imperfections while seeking perfection. [11:30] Inexpensive tactics that supported Justin along the way. [16:10] Accessing your emotions when you stop acting out. [18:48] What is a recovery program? [23:00] Recovery after the loss of relationships. [26:25] Flood your life with sobriety. [30:22] Add more recovery to drown out the addiction. [32:01] Seeking validation in healthy ways. [35:00] Becoming a true gentle-man. RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES: “I started to focus my small wins into the belief that greater change might be possible.” “You’ll have more access to your emotions when you aren’t acting out.” “If I put myself in the middle of the recovery pack, I’m going to be safer.” “Find a meeting you can live for. You’ll know when you get there.”
September 17, 202638min
Number 2: Surrendering to Sexual Sobriety Part 1
Dr. Rob is joined by Justin Bridges, author and expert on sexual sobriety and healing. Together they explore the early experiences that led Justin to seek sobriety at age 17, the importance of support groups in recovery, and the healing journey that has led a sexually sober Justin to finally live the life that he has always wanted. TAKEAWAYS: [2:04] Seeking sobriety at age 17. [4:00] Justin’s rock bottom moment. [7:11] “I’ll show up and listen, but I’m not giving up anything.” [7:45] The power of support groups. [8:51] The role models that encouraged Justin’s destructive behavior. [11:00] Trying to bring his deceased mother back. [14:02] Rigorous, brazen behavior of an addict. [15:42] Justin’s life today, and how long it took him to get here. [19:00] What does addict father behavior look like? [22:45] Characteristics of a healthy relationship. [27:01] Finding balance and respect in attraction. RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES: “I was proud of my behavior, but I see now that I was just an addict.” “Now, I do not wish to be the arbiter of anyone’s sex conduct.” “Eventually, I had to surrender to new levels of sobriety.” “My healthy relationhip came from recovery, and it has evolved through recovery.”
September 17, 202633min
Number 3: Stop Setting Yourself on Fire To Keep Everyone Else Warm Part 1
Dr. Rob is joined by compatibility specialist Jena Jake. Together they discuss the power of feeling a pain so strong that you are finally ready to stop self-abandoning. They explore the importance of awareness and boundaries, what it looks like to build a life alone, and strategies for carefully choosing the self-talk and blaming that so many of us face in unhealthy relationships. TAKEAWAYS: [2:03] Jena’s transition from marital therapy to executive coaching. [3:35] What are we looking for when choosing a partner? [6:07] Identifying patterns that feel like love. [8:42] Jena’s ABA formula, including awareness and healthy boundaries. [12:24] Your inner self needs you to stop giving yourself away. [15:10] Facing your wake up moment. [17:00] Yes, you can build a life alone. [17:53] Seen, safe, supported, sought after and satisfied. [22:28] Rebuilding trust after betrayal. [27:55] Be careful about self-talk and blame. [29:50] Jena’s healing journey. RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES: “What feels familiar isn’t always what’s aligned or what’s good for you.” “Stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.” “You may not have gotten better, but you did deserve better.” “I don’t have to trust you, but I do have to trust myself.”
August 14, 202635min
Number 4: Stop Setting Yourself on Fire To Keep Everyone Else Warm Part 2
Dr. Rob and Jena Jake continue their conversation about finding healthy relationships that you can model, the role of grief in love and healing, and tactics to empower yourself today, no matter what your healthy or unhealthy relationships with a spouse, partner, child or parent might look like. TAKEAWAYS: [1:24] Pushing back against powerful but unhealthy attachments. [6:10] How could I not have know this was happening? [8:08] Making improvements within yourself. [9:56] The role of grief in love and healing. [12:32] When is it finally time to stop and say no? [16:10] Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. [19:26] Tactics to empower yourself now. [22:05] Identifying the patterns that create your actions. [26:15] Jena’s final advice for empowerment. RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES: “Change your familiar and your baseline for relationships.” “You’re not trying to get someone, you’re trying to become someone.” “It’s time to stop self-abandoning and start moving forward.” “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” “Empowering yourself empowers other people.”
August 14, 202637min
Number 5: Why Is My Addict Such a Liar?!
Dr. Rob and Tami talk about compulsive liars in this week’s episode and the reasoning behind someone who can’t seem to tell the truth. If you are a betrayed spouse to someone who regularly lies and deceives, it can be hard to understand why lying can be the go-to safety mechanism for protection. Dr. Rob explains further in this episode why some addicts just can’t stop lying. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Why is sex addiction not about sex? [3:35] I had a relapse and my partner is fed up. I want to build trust again, but she just doesn’t believe me. What can I do? [9:20] You have to want recovery because you’ll be doing it for a long time. [12:10] Does it make sense to have a marital absence if my partner has a porn addiction? [15:30] If you don’t feel safe with someone and if you don’t trust them, don’t have sex with them! [17:10] My husband lies about his recovery. He’s not doing the work! [22:45] Is your partner a lost cause? Dr. Rob can help. [23:00] I think he’s a compulsive liar. Is this connected to his addiction? RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss
February 02, 202628min