Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from an addict who has also been betrayed by his spouse. They have both hurt each other with their addictions/infidelities, however, it seems unfair that he’s in treatment for his demons and she is running around scot-free. Dr. Rob and Tami explain how you can move forward and focus on your own recovery despite experiencing a betrayal from your partner.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:45] I’m absolutely DONE with my addict. I can’t move out yet, so what can I do for my own safety?

[5:00] I feel like I’m repressing my sexuality when I’m sober. Because of this, I can’t seem to be sober for long periods. How do I become healthy?

[8:50] Recovery is all about doing things; positive and good things for you.

[9:45] How can I communicate to my separated spouse that I’m on a good recovery path now?

[12:25] My SA is just not taking recovery seriously. How long does it take to stop messing up and get serious about this?

[18:20] My wife has had a sexual affair. I'm not innocent either, but I feel like I’m the punching bag in this whole situation. Why am I the bad guy here?

[21:50] My addict is just a mess. How can I safely disengage from all this pain?

[25:15] When does it make sense for me to go back to dating as an addict? 

[27:20] Is it common for terrible people to try and get “honorable” jobs to look good/better on the outside?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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