Sober & Lit Podcast

Have you ever looked in the mirror and whispered, “Why can’t I just stop drinking?”

I’ve been there. I tried AA meetings, white-knuckling, and beating myself up with shame… but nothing seemed to stick.

In this personal episode of Sober & Lit, I share what finally changed my relationship with alcohol and the inspiring story of my client Pam, who went from daily drinking to finding freedom from alcohol.

You’ll discover why willpower isn’t always enough, how self-compassion and curiosity can change everything, and three powerful coaching questions to help you begin your own journey.

Because you don’t have to hit rock bottom to change your life!

🧡 Ready to make alcohol small and life BIG? My 90-day Alcohol Freedom Academy begins in mid-November!

🧡 Sign up the Alcohol Freedom Academy wait list now!
https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/thank-you-afa-waitlist

Freedom feels better than wine ever tasted! 

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

Have you ever stood at a party, drink in hand, and quietly wondered...

"When did this stop being fun?"

For Coach Ruby Williams, it was a Halloween night with the kids out trick-or-treating, the parents pouring wine, and a twisted ankle she laughed off for years. But underneath the funny story was a harder truth, and a cycle so many women know by heart.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• How alcohol quietly became the "guest of honor" at every celebration
• The moment the fun fades: why it's rarely dramatic, and almost always quiet
• The morning-after cycle: the regret, the promise, and the 5 o'clock negotiation
• What alcohol promises vs. what it delivers: and why so many of us end up feeling worse
• One question that changes everything (it isn't "What's wrong with me?")
• Three simple steps for your very next party

What if the feeling that drinking isn't fun anymore isn't a problem... but a sign you're ready for something better?

🧡 Sign up the Alcohol Freedom Academy wait list now!
https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/thank-you-afa-waitlist

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

"I'll deal with my drinking in January."

If that thought has already crossed your mind this fall, you're not alone. But here's the twist: that promise might be the very thing keeping you stuck.

Because 'Future You', the one with all the willpower on January 1st? She's still you.

In this episode, Ruby Williams, who spent 20 years selling wine before becoming an Alcohol Freedom Mindset Coach, invites you to skip the waiting and start getting curious now. You'll discover:

• The January Trap: why "I'll start after the holidays" quietly costs you two more months
• The holiday drinking script: what's really creating the joy around the table (hint: it's not the champagne)
• The "just one glass" puzzle: why your morning plan rarely survives the second refill
• The Holiday Curiosity Experiment: three simple steps you can try at your very next party
• The one question that could change how you walk into the new year

No labels. No forever decisions. No rock bottom required.

Just one invitation: what if your fresh start didn't have to wait?

🧡 Sign up the Alcohol Freedom Academy wail list now!
https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/thank-you-afa-waitlist

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

What if the best chapter of your life hasn’t even started yet?

Whether you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or 70s, maybe you’re not winding down. Maybe you’re just getting going.

Maybe you’re here because:

• The kids have flown the nest
• You’re starting over after a divorce
• You’ve spent decades looking after everyone else, building a career, or trying to get your health back
• Somewhere along the way, alcohol took up more space than you ever meant it to

So let me ask you: are you really living the life you want, or have you quietly drifted to the sidelines?

Today I’m sharing:

• A bit of my own story
• Who I want to help in this next chapter
• Why it’s never too late to change your drinking, or your life

I’m Ruby Williams, your host of Sober & Lit, where we make alcohol small and life BIG. Step into the arena of life!

Let’s get Lit from the Inside! 🔥

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

After 143 episodes... Sober & Lit is changing.

Today, we're turning back the clock...

✨ The moments that changed us
✨ The guests we'll never forget
✨ The laughs and behind-the-scenes memories
✨ What three years of talking about alcohol freedom taught us
✨ And why we're now choosing two different roads

You'll hear what's next for Susan...

What's next for me... [spoiler: I'll be back next week as the solo host]

And, yes... what's next for Sober & Lit.

Because this isn't really a goodbye.

It's about having the courage to hear that little voice saying...

“It's time for something new.” 

Welcome to Sober & Lit with host Ruby Williams 🧡
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Episodes We Mentioned & Resources
• EP 31... Weight Loss Surgery and Alcohol
• EP 52... Live Naked with Annie Grace
• EP 33... Childless Not By Choice with Maureen Benkovich
• EP 128... How Anxiety Accelerates Alcohol Use Disorder
• EP 107... Sobriety Made Social with Chris Marshall
• EP 142... 20 Years Sober with Alysse Bryson

✨ Susan’s new podcast, Drink Less with Susan, is for sober-curious Christian women and women of faith who want to explore their relationship with alcohol and find greater freedom.
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

Imagine meeting yourself... 20 years after your last drink.

What would she tell you? That all your problems disappeared?

Nope. Apparently... They get classier.

Today we're talking with Alysse Bryson, founder of The Sober Curator, who's had a front-row seat to 20 years of sobriety AND the cultural revolution happening around it.

We're getting into:

• Why sober life gets bigger, not perfect
• The “whack-a-mole” of habits after alcohol
• Why Hollywood still gets sobriety wrong
• Reinventing yourself in midlife
• And what happens when simply “not drinking” becomes... “Now what?”

Because maybe sobriety isn't about finally figuring everything out.

Maybe it's about discovering how much more there is to become.

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Guest Resources for Alysse Bryson-
Website: https://www.alyssebryson.com/
The Sober Curator Website: https://thesobercurator.com/
The Sober Curator Podcast: https://thesobercurator.com/recovery-podcastland-network/sober-curator-podcast/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesobercurator/

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

He seemed pretty great in the beginning.

He helped you:

•  Relax 
•  Have fun 
•  Feel confident 
•  Celebrate 
•  Forget your worries 

Then things changed. Suddenly he was:

•  Wrecking your sleep 
•  Fueling your anxiety 
•  Taking more than he gave 
•  Leaving you with regrets 

If this were a man, your friends would probably say:

“Why are you still with him?”

Plot twist...

We’re talking about alcohol.

Today, we’re looking at the whole relationship:

•  The honeymoon 
•  The red flags 
•  The excuses 
•  The breakup 
•  And why we keep going back 

Because you may love wine...

But does alcohol love you back?
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✨ Here's the link to schedule a call with Coach Susan:
https://calendly.com/susanlarkincoaching/30min

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

He’s attractive. ✔️
The chemistry is HOT. ✔️
You’re already imagining date number two. ✔️

But…
--Do you actually LIKE him?
--Do you trust him?
--Are you compatible?

Or did two glasses of wine and a whole lot of chemistry just make those questions harder to answer?

Today, we're talking about dating alcohol-free with my own dating coach, Krysia Shaw.

And we're getting into:
❤️ Why chemistry isn’t compatibility
❤️  The Head, Heart & Heat dating method
❤️  How alcohol can blur red flags
❤️ What to say when a date asks why you don't drink
❤️ And why it is NEVER too late to find love

Because maybe getting alcohol-free doesn't just change how you date…

Maybe it changes WHO you choose. Let's get into it.
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Guest Resources for Krysia Shaw-
Website: https://dateyourdestiny.com/
Midlife Dating Reset (FREE GIFT): https://theleap.co/creator/DateYourDestiny/digital_download/dating-not-working-the-midlife-dating-reset
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachkrysia/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dateyourdestiny/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/krysias/

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

What happens when wine wasn’t just part of date night...
 it was part of your sex life?

Maybe it helped you:

•  Relax 
•  Feel sexy 
•  Get out of your head 
•  Forget about your body 

And then you get sober and think...

“Wait... how do I do THIS without alcohol?”

Today, we’re asking the questions women often whisper, but rarely say out loud:

 🔥 Where did my sex drive go?
 🔥 How do I feel sexy without wine?
 🔥 What if my partner still drinks?
 🔥 And... is sex actually better sober?

Our guest is Cindi Roberts, the Sober Sexpert, with 30+ years in sexual health education and nearly a decade of sobriety. 

Body confidence. Dating. Desire. Menopause. Intimacy. Sober sex.

Nothing is off the table today. Yep... we’re going there. Let’s get into it.
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Guest Resources for Cindi Roberts-
Website: http://www.cindiroberts.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobersexpert/

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...

I'll love myself when...

...I lose the weight.

...I stop drinking.

...I get my shit together.

...I finally become the woman I think I should be.

Sound familiar?

Here's the problem:

What if you don't have to change first... to deserve your own love?

This month on Sober & Lit, we're talking dating, sex, intimacy and relationships.

But we're starting with the relationship underneath ALL of them:

The one you have with yourself.

In this episode we're getting curious about:

• Why we give everyone else compassion... except ourselves
• How alcohol can quietly break self-trust
• Why alcohol doesn't actually “fix” what you're feeling
• How boundaries can be an act of self-love
  
  

💕 If you want to explore self-love in your sobriety journey, book a free discovery call with Coach Ruby.
🧡 Here's the link to schedule a call with Coach Ruby:
https://coachingwithruby.com/Chat

We Love Hearing From You

Take the "Worried About Your Drinking" quiz:
https://coachingwithruby.com/quiz

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit! 

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community! 

Connect with the Podcast Host:
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching
Website: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/
Email Ruby: [email protected]
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching
🧡 I invite you to book a clarity call with me and let's chat: https://calendly.com/williams-ruby/discovery-call

Looking for Susan's new podcast?
Drink Less With Susan Podcast: https://drinklesswithsusan.buzzsprout.com/

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological adv...