SOLVED with Mark Manson

Make up or break up? Knowing when to call it quits.

If you’ve ever been through a rough patch, you know this is a painful question to answer. Do you stick it out? Do you cut the cord and run? Do you sacrifice more to make it work? Do you demand your partner give up everything and run away to Fiji and live happily ever after?

These are the hard questions we answer in this episode.

To help us figure this out, I’m going to be roasting viewers’ relationships with their partners. I’m going to go over five real-world examples sent in from you, fans struggling with relationships, and in the process I’m going to share the three questions we must all ask ourselves to figure out if it’s time to break up.

So get your hot sauce ready, because shit’s about to get spicy. Maybe even have your partner join you for this one. It could be fun… or it could ruin your marriage.

CHAPTERS

• 00:00:00 Introduction: The Most Painful Question in Any Relationship
• 00:02:08 Question 1: When Your Partner Won't Take Responsibility
• 00:03:57 The First Essential Question: Are Both People Putting In Equal Effort?
• 00:08:40 Question 2: When Personal Growth Disrupts the Relationship
• 00:10:30 Identity Formation and Growing Apart vs. Growing Together
• 00:15:34 Question 3: Living Your Partner's Dream Instead of Your Own
• 00:16:56 What Real Compromise Looks Like: Mitigating Misery, Not Maximizing Happiness
• 00:22:09 The Second Essential Question: Are Compromises Making Things Better or Worse?
• 00:23:30 Question 4: The Commitment-Phobe Who Found Someone Perfect
• 00:25:52 Don't Break Up Over Mirages: The Power of Individual Identity in Relationships
• 00:29:16 Question 5: Three Breakups in Two Years and the Guilt of Walking Away
• 00:32:38 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships: Feelings vs. Behaviors
• 00:35:27 The Third Essential Question: Are You Compromising Hoping They'll Change?
• 00:37:32 Final Takeaways: The Three Questions That Determine If You Should Stay or Go

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Everybody wants to get rich. But is the pursuit of wealth really about the money, or are we actually chasing something much deeper?

These are just a couple of the fun ideas I toss around in this episode with Morgan Housel, New York Times Bestselling author of the smash hit, The Psychology of Money, which has sold more than four million copies worldwide.

We’ll dig deep to uncover our relationship with money, answer the timeless question “Will getting rich make me happy?” and share some of Morgan’s best investing tips.

So put away your spreadsheets, step away from the credit card, and for god’s sake stop trading crypto for five seconds, and settle in for this one. We might just make you filthy fucking rich.

CHAPTERS

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Morgan Housel and The Psychology of Money
• 00:01:34 Why We Attach Moral Value to Wealth
• 00:02:58 The Relative Nature of Wealth and the Never-Ending Treadmill
• 00:03:55 Social Media and the Quantification of Status
• 00:06:49 Sustainability Over Short-Term Wins
• 00:09:14 Does Money Change You or Expose Who You Already Are?
• 00:12:11 The Hedonic Treadmill and the Pain of Losing Wealth
• 00:15:16 Learning to Handle Market Volatility and Panic Selling
• 00:18:11 Social Media, Meme Stocks, and the Death of Historical Evidence
• 00:19:57 The Velocity of Modern Markets and Why Individual Trading Fails
• 00:25:03 The Hidden Costs and Complications of Wealth
• 00:27:21 Money Doesn't Buy Happiness, It Buys Away Unhappiness
• 00:29:14 Social Debt: The Hidden Tax on Every Dollar of Wealth
• 00:30:38 The Quest for the Simple Life and Why Billionaires Divorce
• 00:36:00 Does Wealth Change Your Politics?
• 00:36:47 Raising Kids and Money: The Allowance System and Avoiding Spoiled Children
• 00:41:25 Nature vs. Nurture: Do Some People Just Have the Money Mind?
• 00:44:14 The Power of a Single Compliment and Finding Your Path
• 00:49:03 Same as Ever: What Never Changes in Human Behavior
• 00:52:53 Why Human Connection Will Always Trump AI
• 00:55:12 The Best and Worst Thing About You Are the Same Thing
• 00:57:54 Fuck, Marry, Kill: Investment Edition
• 01:02:02 Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Morgan

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Why is it that the most important truths in life are also the most painful to hear?

In this episode, I discuss five of the most uncomfortable truths that have changed my life and will likely change yours—from human suckage to the cheeriest truth of all… death.

So put your safety harness on, the ride’s about to get bumpy…

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Five Harsh Truths That Will Change Your Life
01:04 Harsh Truth 1: Humans Suck, Try to Suck Less
02:21 The Gorilla Experiment and Our Unreliable Minds
05:23 Compassion Through Shared Humanity and Flaws
08:53 Harsh Truth 2: Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional
11:49 The Two Arrows: Pain vs. Suffering
13:47 Modern Society and the Victimhood Olympics
16:48 Harsh Truth 3: Everything You Believe Will One Day Fail You
18:59 Good Stories vs. Bad Stories: Drew's Framework
21:53 Ego Death and Identity Crisis: Music and Grad School
24:18 Harsh Truth 4: You Don't Deserve Happiness or Anything
26:57 The Self-Esteem Movement's Fatal Flaw
28:08 Imposter Syndrome and the Cosmic Crapshoot
30:32 Harsh Truth 5: Everything You Love Will One Day Be Lost
33:13 Memento Mori: Remembering Death Makes You Happier
36:08 Recap and Closing: Welcome to the Pain Train

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Are you your own worst enemy? Ever think that your life would be so much easier if you could just change your mind about a couple things? Yeah, me too.

In this inaugural episode, I am joined by my old friend Derek Sivers, the one person I know who is better at questioning beliefs and changing his mind than just about anyone… and a bona fide grandmaster at not giving a fuck.

We dig into the most fundamental aspects of our psychology and happiness—our beliefs. We talk about how to change them, which ones should be changed and which ones should not, and the wide-ranging effects these beliefs have throughout our lives.

I believe you will get a lot out of this podcast… see what I did there? I did the believe—eh, never mind.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: The Man Who Gives Zero Fucks
02:04 Useful Not True: The Philosophy of Choosing Your Beliefs
03:40 The Psychopath Problem: Where Are the Limits?
06:58 The Kanye West Case Study: When Useful Beliefs Go Wrong
28:07 Changing Beliefs: The Journal Method
30:00 Evidence Accumulation and Quitting Smoking
32:11 Cognitive Flexibility: The Skill of Letting Go
17:24 Art, Fiction, and Useful Lies: Why Movies Feel More True Than Life
21:07 Religion: Judging by Usefulness Instead of Truth
37:22 Tragedy as Transformation: Congratulations on Your Breakup
40:50 The Last Third of Life: The Ultimate Procrastination Killer
42:57 The Meta Belief: Everything Is Negotiable
45:52 Fatherhood: The Priority That Changed Everything (and Nothing)
54:56 The Adaptability Problem: Molding Yourself Into a Pretzel
1:00:33 Fuck, Marry, Kill: Music, Writing, and Coding

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