Soul Gum

What actually makes us feel drawn to someone—and what makes us cling to situationships long after we can see the glaring red flags of emotional unavailability?

In today's episode, I’m joined by my first-ever guest (!!) and one of my favorite podcasters of all time, Jemma Sbeg—host of the wildly popular Psychology of Your 20s podcast and the author of Person in Progress. If you’ve ever screamed-cried in your car after someone you weren’t even officially dating ghosted you, this one’s for you.

A few things we dive into:

• A research-backed formula for attraction (and how to use it without playing games)
• The role of the “spark” in attraction
• The psychology behind common dating pitfalls in your 20s
• The stigma of being single

• The commitment-readiness scale (and why it can land you in situationship after situationship)

Jemma also shares insights from PERSON IN PROGRESS—a roadmap for surviving the chaotic, confusing, deeply transitional decade that is your twenties—and offers advice to her younger self that made me tear up a little. Whether you’re trying to understand your patterns, make sense of someone else's, or just feel a little less alone in the dating trenches, this one will stick with you.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro
02:51 The formula for attraction
04:21 1. Proximity
07:10 2. Similarity
11:43 3. Familiarity
14:03 The 3 month rule
16:55 The curse of comfort
19:31 The sunk cost fallacy
21:06 The fear of starting over
22:37 4. Reciprocity
23:13 The harm of playing games
26:36 5. A spark
27:19 The psychology of common relationship pitfalls
27:31 1. Repetition compulsion
31:04 2. The stigma of being single
36:45 3. Situationships
38:23 The commitment-readiness scale
40:21 Permission slip to grieve your situationship <3
42:09 Lightning round recap
43:26 Last question: what would you tell past you?

PERSON IN PROGRESS

If you liked this episode, you will love PERSON IN PROGRESS. Out now and available everywhere you buy books. Get your copy today!

PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG

PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG

PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG

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PS - This is the study I mentioned that found that single women are one of the happiest demographics on Earth. And an article about it here!

What if the things you believe about life, love, success, and happiness are backwards? In today’s episode, we’re diving into 10 paradoxes: the little plot twists, contradictions, and life surprises I wish someone had warned me about. Learning these the hard way cost me a lot of time and heartbreak, and my hope is that sharing them now saves you some of yours. Hit play for a big, juicy reality check.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

01:23 1. The likability paradox

03:12 2. The paradox of choice

06:09 3. The paradox of knowledge

06:52 The Dunning-Kruger Effect

08:22 4. The paradox of failure

09:12 Not choosing is a choice (Jean-Paul Sartre)

10:33 5. The paradox of tolerance (Karl Popper)

11:03 James Baldwin on agreeing to disagree

12:20 6. The paradox of moving on

12:46 Ironic process theory

14:19 7. The paradox of pleasure

15:37 Aristotle's virtue-based happiness

16:08 Viktor Frankl on happiness

17:07 The dopamine trap

18:03 8. The paradox of freedom

18:33 Self-determination theory

20:02 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard)

20:52 9. The paradox of shadow sides (Carl Jung)

22:54 10. The paradox of the comfort zone

24:46 Lightning round recap

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Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and psychology of making a comeback stick. 

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback

03:22 1. Believing you're behind

06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want

07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence

08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging you

10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind

10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation

12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too

14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why

14:47 Nietzsche's will to power

15:20 Chasing superficial whys

17:14 5. Underestimating the power of small changes

19:38 Results are a lagging measure of effort (James Clear)

21:30 6. Focusing on what you can't control

21:55 Amor Fati: loving your fate (Nietzsche)

23:22 PS: My book MAKE BELIEVE is out now

24:05 Stop feeling bad for yourself for not figuring it out sooner

25:58 7. Waiting until you're ready to start

26:30 Hiding in the planning phase

26:51 The confidence-competence loop

27:50 8. Using self-hate as fuel

29:56 Lightning round recap

30:56 Give yourself some credit

EPISODE LINKS

Michigan State Study on accountability⁠

Mind Magic by Dr. James Doty

Study using fMRI showing impact of visualization on motor cortex

The Gay Science by Friedrich Nietzsche

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The tariffs won’t just affect your wallet—they’ll also affect your soul. In this episode, we walk through 5 spiritual side effects of an economic downturn (per Abraham Maslow, Karl Marx, and Simone Weil). Then we’ll talk through 3 philosophically-rooted tips for tending to your soul during (yet another) unprecedented time. Are the people wearing milkmaid dresses to the club a recession indicator? What would Karl Marx think about you hating your coworkers who won’t stay late at the office? How can we prioritize spirituality at a time like this without being navel-gazey? Let’s talk about it.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

03:16 5 spiritual impacts of a recession

03:45break

06:39 1. Accessing spirituality gets harder

06:52 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

08:37 Simone Weil and Simone du Beauvoir clash

11:05 Everyone’s an existentialist until the rent is due

12:31 2. Resurgence of traditional faith systems

12:39 Hemline index

13:36 Moral panics during recessions

13:52 Today: trad wives, homesteading and Catholic core

14:28 The link between economic security & decline of religious affiliation

16:33 3. Disconnection from nature and each other

16:58 Karl Marx’s 1844 paper on alienation of labor

21:23 4. Escapism becomes more tempting than ever

21:44 Lipstick index

22:40 TikTok restock videos as a recession indicator

23:10 Alcohol sales during recessions

23:54 TikTok shop dupe culture as a recession indicator

24:35 5. We’re ripe for spiritual expansion

25:42 The god shaped hole (Pascal)

26:27 3 practical tips for spiritual health during a recession

26:42 1. Other people are not your competition

27:28 “Be kind to people and ruthless to systems”

27:40 2. Tactile hobbies and reconnecting with the fruits of our labor

29:38 3. Spirituality during hard times is best served pragmatically and people-focused

31:58 Challenge: noticing me versus them moments

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We all want to be happy—but so many of the ways we chase happiness actually leave us more disconnected, burnt out, or empty than before. In this episode, we’ll walk through five of the most common happiness traps: the things we do to feel better that often make us feel worse. Along the way, we’ll explore what Nietzsche, Marx, and modern Slovenian philosopher Slavoj Žižek have to say about the pursuit of joy. Then, we’ll turn to one of the longest-running studies on happiness to ask the big question: when it comes to feeling good, what actually works?

No one has the secret to happiness. But a lot of smart people have said a lot of smart things that might help you feel better and access a little more joy. Let’s talk about it.

EPISODE OUTLINE 

00:00 Intro

01:18 Break

03:22 5 happiness traps 

03:27 1. Overconsumption 

06:00 Overconsumption starts with scarcity programming

07:11 Nietzsche & overconsumption as a way to fill the void 

10:37 2. Chasing achievements 

11:46 Slavoj Zizek and the duty to enjoy the grind

13:26“Don’t be ridiculous, Andrea. Everyone wants this.”

14:18 Superego injunction: “a million girls would kill to have this job”

15:22 On using a lack of happiness as fuel to grind 

15:56 3. Comparison 

18:11 Downward social comparison 

22:12 4. Self- and symptom-focused spiritual practices 

22:55 Marx on how economic systems shape values 

23:28 Self-centered spirituality in the West 

24:41 Spirituality as a bandaid vs a root cause solution (Zizek)

25:45 5. Isolation 

27:03 The hyperindividualism crisis

28:00 We owe each other stuff

28:17 We want things from each other, and we should

28:23 Harlow’s monkey study on attachment 

30:13 We’re living in our own worlds

31:28 So what DOES work? 

31:57 Harvard happiness study 

35:13 Challenge 

36:19 Lightning round recap

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I’m thinking of someone. Guess who? They’re a trailblazing artist. LGBTQ-adjacent. A Gemini from Long Island. An artist trying to make sense of rapid technological change and political division. No, not Lady Gaga. Not RuPaul. Not Frank Ocean. Think older. Centuries older. Today we’re talking about the great American poet, Walt Whitman.

Walt Whitman was born in 1819, but his world feels eerily familiar. His New York was reeling from technological change and caught in a web of political division. Sound familiar? In this episode, we explore Whitman’s life—from his roots as a Brooklyn typesetter to his rise as the great American poet. We’ll unpack his most famous work, Leaves of Grass, and the ideas in it that scandalized entire towns. We’ll talk about the beauty of contradiction, the divinity of the mundane, and the radical interconnectedness of all things. We’ll ask: what does it mean to write about hope and unity at a Time Like This? If you’re questioning how your art (or your heart) fits into a collapsing society, this episode is for you.

EPISODE OUTLINE 

00:00 Intro 

02:56 Life Update: Tour! USA Today Bestseller! Bali?

05:32 Walt Whitman: a Long Island Gemini  

06:03 1800s NY: Nationalism, populism, manifest destiny

07:52 Sound familiar? 

09:02 Walt Whitman’s early life

10:11 Walt Whitman, the reluctant teacher

11:05 Walt Whitman, the starving artist 

12:27 Walt Whitman does a social media detox

13:00 Walt Whitman emerges with a first draft

13:14 Leaves of Grass: not like other girls 

14:00 1855 Walt Whitman is giving Woodstock 

14:14 Publication expert level: just like us 

14:44 Walt Whitman gets left on read   

14:48 Enter: Ralph Waldo Emerson

15:54 Walt Whitman is his own cheerleader 

17:47 Walt Whitman is as petty as the rest of us

18:22 Leaves of Grass starts to get legs 

18:41 Leaves of Grass gets smuttier 

18:57 Walt Whitman is not an angel 

21:02 The Civil War changes everything 

22:21 Leaves of Grass, an OG banned book

23:01 Walt Whitman’s legacy 

24:03 Walt Whitman quotes that will change your brain chemistry

24:18 1. “Every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you”

25:07 My ego nap

25:59 2. “I am large, I contain multitudes” 

26:39 The categorification of the human experience

27:10 you are not a cottagecore coastal grandma clean girl mob wife u are a spiritual being having a human experience  

28:48 3. “The smallest sprout shows there really is no death”

31:09 4. “Do you guess I have some intricate purpose?”  

EPISODE LINKS

• Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman

• Stuff You Missed in History Class episode

• Comedy by Bo Burnham

• My Writer’s Digest article on writing about hope

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When was the last time you felt genuine awe? Not just happiness, not “that’s cool,” but deep, childlike wonder? In this episode, we explore 7 five-minutes-or-less practices that can help you feel more present, more alive, and more connected to the quiet magic all around you. 

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro 

01:28 MAKE BELIEVE is out now

02:50 Come hang with me on tour?   

03:51 7 tiny ways to cultivate awe

03:54 1. Look closely at ordinary nature

04:20 The goggles of habit 

04:41 Walt Whitman: what is the grass?

05:27 Thich Nhat Hanh’s tangerine meditation

07:31 Rumi & the blurriness of separation 

09:14 2. Look up

10:00 The benefits of tree gazing

10:29 Mary Oliver’s When I Am Among the Trees

11:48 3. Unitask music 

11:55 Music used to be the main course

13:06 One song no multitasking challenge

13:29 Make an awe playlist 

13:40 4. Make unsmall small talk 

14:19 Martin Buber’s I-Thou vs I-It

15:50 Challenge: be aware during small talk

16:17 The sacred ground of connection

16:50 5. Remember pale blue dot 

17:08 The Voyager photo

17:36 Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot 

19:10 Pondering our tininess 

21:04 6. Make an awe signal

22:21 7. Keep an awe list 

22:43 The Zeigarnik Effect

24:53 Lightning round recap

EPISODE LINKS

• @boywaif post on the goggles of habit

• Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman

• Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh

• Sometimes & When I Am Among the Trees by Mary Oliver

• Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot

• I and Thou by Martin Buber

• Rumi (Coleman Bark’s Essential Rumi) 

• The Zeigarnick Effect 

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We romanticize big life changes—quitting the job, moving to the dream city, chasing the thing we’ve always wanted. But big changes have big side effects. And if you don’t see them coming, they might just send you running back to the life you were trying to leave behind. In this episode, we’re breaking down six warnings I wish someone had told me before I changed everything. If you’re craving a big shift, let’s make sure you’re ready for it.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro 

01:45 Life update + tour!  

05:52 6 warnings about changing your life 

06:14 1. It will not automatically make you happy

07:44 Harvard happiness study

08:34 The hedonic treadmill 

9:54 2. You will have an identity crisis  

10:12 Ship of Theseus 

11:40 3. You’ll probably feel stuck

12:04 Diamond Example 

13:12 Change happens at tipping points 

15:31 4. It never stops feeling vulnerable

15:55 Asch conformity study 

17:18 The neuroscience of fear & hope

19:43 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

22:33 5. There’s no magic pill 

24:32 6. You’ll feel torn between who you were and who you’re becoming 

24:52 Janus, the Roman god of transitions

27:18 Lightning round recap

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EPISODE LINKS

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Ship of Theseus 

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Harvard happiness study

⁠⁠⁠⁠• The hedonic treadmill 

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Digging for diamonds cartoon

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Janus: the god of doors, gates and transitions

Don’t press play unless you’re ready for big change. This isn’t a normal  podcast episode—it’s a guided practice designed to help you step into the next chapter of you with clarity and intention. Maybe you’re on the brink of a big life change. Or maybe you feel stuck and just know it's time for a shift. This episode will walk you through the five-step practice that completely changed my life. In it, we'll learn about the neuroscience of manifestation, do a guided meditation, journal, and come on the other side of the episode with a clear plan routing towards our dreams.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

08:13 Agenda

09:25 Plato's Cave Allegory

13:22 The neuroscience of manifestation

16:14 The reflection practice that changed my life

16:36 Step 1: Define your current chapter

20:37 Step 2: Define your next chapter

22:53 Step 3: Guided visualization meditation

37:32 Step 4: Journaling

38:26 4a. Reflect on the chapter that’s ending

40:56 4b. Set intentions for your next chapter 

43:29 4c. Set SMAAART* goals 

47:33 4d. Plan your trust-building week 

52:23 Step 5: Believing

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Admit it: you’re still thinking about that cringey thing you did 6 years ago. Maybe it was something you said. Something you did. Something that haunts you at 2 AM when your brain decides to rerun its most humiliating blooper reel.

Today, we’re breaking down exactly how to move past an embarrassing moment in 5 steps. We’ll talk about why your brain refuses to let things go, how the spotlight effect makes you think people care way more than they actually do, and the five fastest ways to shake off the cringe and move on with your life.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro 

02:06 Preorder Make Believe! Come see me on tour!

02:44 Why do we feel embarrassment? 

03:50 Embarrassment scale 

03:57 Tier 1: slight cringe

05:07 Tier 2: mild cringe

07:07 Tier 3: proper humiliation 

11:09 Tier 4: deep humiliation 

13:29 Tier 5: existential humiliation

15:45 Jean Paul Sartre’s the gaze 

17:50 The spotlight effect

18:44 Social media and the spotlight effect

19:30 5 tips for navigating embarrassing moments

19:3 6 Break - Book! Bali! Tour! 

25:25 1. Remember the spotlight is not real

29:51 2. Call it out as it’s happening 

32:49 3. Tell someone 

34:27 4. Figure out the root

35:58 5. Own it and then move on 

40:07 Challenge 

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EPISODE LINKS

Spotlight Effect Study 

Spotlight Effect and Social Media Study 

Jean Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness