Speak Your Mind Unapologetically Podcast

If you come from a culture that values obedience, compliance, and respect to authority, speaking up can feel incredibly hard. In this episode, you'll discover that you are not alone and how to overcome this challenge.

As a second-generation Filipino American that has entered the professional world, Dr. Abby has observed her own journey from a compliant, obedient, submissive employee to a leader who brings value and inspires those around her. She recognized that there are factors related to the bamboo ceiling which involve her own Filipino upbringing. She says it is necessary to notice our cultural makeup and find ways to bridge the gap to develop leadership behaviors.

Dr. Abby has a PhD in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, a BA in communication, and master in science / management. She also has 2 TED Talks, a book SPEAK UP ANAK, and a youtube channel on assertiveness.

👉🏼Links:

Dr. Abby Hamilton's Linkedin Profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-abby-hamilton-02860721/

Dr. Abby's website: https://drabbyhamilton.com

Dr. Abby's Speak Up Anak Youtube videos: https://speakupanak.com

Dr. Abby's Speak Up Anak Book: https://www.amazon.com/Speak-Anak-Assertiveness-Strategies-Americans/dp/B0B7QR5BLY

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Find out how to compliment someone on their work. Discover how to praise someone for their talents or achievements. And get positive feedback examples.

Sharing good compliment is an art. There is a difference between a graceful vs. a sleezy compliment. When you give a compliment by saying "good job" or "well done" or "amazing" some people might:

• Not take your compliment seriously
• Think you want to take advantage of them
• Think you are being insincere
• Think you have favoritism
• Question the relevance of your compliments
• Disregard your compliment

In this episode you'll discover the secrets to a great compliment.

👉🏼Links:

5 Better Ways To Say Good Job: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-better-ways-to-say-good-job

What Is Your Appreciation Language At Work?: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/what-is-your-appreciation-language-at-work

Responding to Compliments You Hate (as a Woman): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/responding-to-compliments-you-hate-as-a-woman

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Non verbals are a key part of speaking up assertively. In this episode, you'll discover why.

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Do you feel like you're not taken seriously at work? That you have to prove your credibility over and over again just to be heard? Well, your challenge may not be with your competence, but your confidence. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ Why confident, not competent people get ahead

✔️ How the Dunning-Kruger cognitive bias works

✔️ 3 ways to project more confidence

👉🏼Links:

How To Boost Your Confidence To Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-boost-your-confidence-to-speak-up

Ladies: 10 Credibility Killer Mistakes That Undermine You At Work (And What To Do Instead): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/ladies-10-credibility-killer-mistakes-that-undermine-you-at-work-and-what-to-do-instead

Confident And Assertive Non-Verbals To Be Taken Seriously: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/confident-and-assertive-non-verbals-to-be-taken-seriously

Nine Questions To Decide When To Practice Speaking Up: https://www.forbes.com/sites/ellevate/2020/08/13/nine-questions-to-decide-when-to-practice-speaking-up/?sh=37584d2f4daf

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Discover a step-by-step approach to handle differences collaboratively with former conflict mediator and author of "The Collaborative Path", Patrick Aylward. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ A simple phrase that will improve your odds of successful hard conversations to 95%

✔️ Six steps on what to say for a collaborative approach to a conversation

✔️ Five steps on how to tell your boss that you have too much work on your plate

👉🏼Links:

The Collaborative Path Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1525557610

The Collaborative Path Services: https://www.collaborativepath.ca/

Conflict with Courage, Curiosity & Compassion: Making a Difference in Your Life (With Dr. Debra Dupree): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/conflict-with-courage-curiosity-compassion-making-a-difference-in-your-life-with-dr-debra-dupree

How To Disagree Respectfully Without Being Disagreeable: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-disagree-respectfully-without-being-disagreeable

Assertiveness free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertive & Liked 10-Day Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/10daychallengeoffer

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Ever heard the advice that you should focus on being a better listener? Are you sick and tired of listening to everyone but not being heard by anyone? Are you considered a good listener? Maybe it's time to ditch listening so much and start talking and speaking your mind more.

✔️ Why listening too much can hurt your relationships

✔️ How to find the balance between speaking and listening

✔️ How to find the joy in speaking about yourself

👉🏼Links:

How To Boost Your Confidence To Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-boost-your-confidence-to-speak-up

How To Speak Up At Work And Never Have To Fear Of Retribution Again: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-speak-up-at-work-and-never-have-to-fear-of-retribution-again

4 Reasons Why It Is Important For Leaders To Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/4-reasons-why-it-is-important-for-leaders-to-speak-up

Communication Equity: Balance Listening and Speaking To Connect, Problem-solve, And Build Trust https://www.udemy.com/course/communication-equity/

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Women are resigning because they feel ambushed if they stay in your company: they either don't speak up, stay miserable, and burn out or they speak up and suffer backlash. To make matters worse, even with the best gender equality leaders, 3 out of 4 women still don't feel like they can talk openly with their manager about challenges around their work-life balance, according to Deloitte study. That leaves talented women with only one choice: to leave. What can you do about it? In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ Why women are leaving your organization

✔️ Why poor communication is accelerating women's resignation

✔️ What you can do about it

👉🏼Links:

Future Of Work Post Pandemic – What You Need To Know Now (Part 1): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/049-future-of-work-post-pandemic-what-you-need-to-know-now-part-1

Future Of Work Post Pandemic – What You Need To Know Now (Part 2): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/future-of-work-post-pandemic-what-you-need-to-know-now-part-2

Employees Desperately Want An Assertive Boss: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/employees-desperately-want-an-assertive-boss

4 Reasons Why It Is Important For Leaders To Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/4-reasons-why-it-is-important-for-leaders-to-speak-up

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Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/

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There is a myth that hard work speaks for itself. I hate to break it to you, but it doesn't. You need to make your work visible. How do you do that without being a selfish, egoistical, bragging annoyance? In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ 5 ways to promote yourself at work without bragging or sounding arrogant

✔️ What to say when you self-promote

✔️ Why it's so important to self-promote

👉🏼Links:

7 Compelling Reasons You Need To Start A Bragging Ritual: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/7-compelling-reasons-you-need-to-start-a-bragging-ritual

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Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

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The hardest part about Diana's job is to manage peers and manage up. And she learned some successful strategies to deal with that. If you work in a male-dominated workplace and feel like you need to keep proving yourself constantly, Director Diana Dreyer shares what works best for her. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ How to respond to a coworker who says "You don't know what you are doing. You're wrong."

✔️ How to gain support for your ideas at the table and grow influence by building strategic workplace relationships.

✔️ The importance of regulating your emotions to successfully deal with difficult people.

✔️ Using empathy + disciplining combo to manage your team.

👉🏼Links:

Discover How To Make People Listen To You When They Try To Ignore You (With Guest Vishwaa Vaidya): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/discover-how-to-make-people-listen-to-you-when-they-try-to-ignore-you-with-guest-vishwaa-vaidya

How To Get The Upper Hand When A Jerk Disparages You Publicly: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-the-upper-hand-when-a-jerk-disparages-you-publicly

5 Steps To Respond To Dismissive Comments: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-steps-to-respond-to-are-you-on-your-period-and-mistakes-to-avoid

Assertiveness free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertive & Liked 10-Day Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/10daychallengeoffer

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/

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How can you aggressively grab people's attention, follow up on your requests in the office without coming across as aggressive? By chance I discovered the kind stalker move. It's extreme, but it got me results. Find out:

✔️ How to get higher in people's priority list

✔️ What's the kind stalker move

✔️ The importance of and experimentation to stand out

👉🏼Links

Episode 5 Reasons Why Being More Assertive Actually Makes You Kinder: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-reasons-why-being-more-assertive-actually-makes-you-kinder

Episode 6 Conflict Myths: Lies Teachers Like To Tell About Confrontation: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/029-6-conflict-myths-lies-teachers-like-to-tell-about-confrontation

Find out about our talks and workshops: https://assertiveway.com/services/

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/

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