Everyone experiences mental health challenges. Yet, wading through these difficult times can feel isolating or as if there is something wrong with you. The truth is, you’re not alone; many people struggle in the exact same way. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael lift the shame of mental health issues and discuss how to reframe your assumptions in order to overcome shame and hopelessness.

“I think we need to embrace a messy life. And a messy life means there’s no room for perfection. That word is not even in your lexicon. That means each day you can have a plan—if it happens, great. If it doesn’t, then just embrace it. It’s probably going to be better than the one you had anticipated. There’s true freedom and joy in being the creator of your life.”

– Monica Berg 

Every single one of us experiences challenging moments or times when the spotlight is on us. These times can amplify the drama of our experience. Yet the truth is, almost nothing in life is a catastrophe. And most of the time, everyone else is busy with their own lives and their own drama. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael discuss how to practice objectivity in light of life’s speed bumps.

“When something happens, even when you are right to be disappointed by it, in the true perspective of life, of history, or reality, it’s a tiny speed bump. It is not the end of the world.” – Michael Berg

When was the last time you felt awestruck? Was it last week? Last month? It’s not our nature to hold a space for daily appreciation and gratitude. However, consistent recognition of life’s little miracles leads to deeper fulfillment in life. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael discuss how to find beauty in the ordinary and shift our thoughts so we can increase the level of appreciation we have for our tiny blessings.

“It’s not human nature, but it is something we should fight extremely hard for every single day. Have at least one moment each day in which you are overwhelmingly appreciative, not of something great that just happened, but of the normal workings of life.” – Michael Berg

Further Readings:

The Comfort Book by Matt Haig

It’s not uncommon to say yes to things without really considering whether it is aligned with your priorities. Saying no can leave us feeling guilty, like we’ve let others down. But if we don’t learn how to say no to others, we won’t have the time, energy, or space to say yes to ourselves. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael discuss how to get clear on your boundaries, so you can spend more time on the people and things that really matter.

“We only have so much time on this earth; it’s impossible to do all the things that interest you. Pick the ones that interest you the most in order to spend time with the people you love the most, including yourself. That’s the hard part: that balance.” – Monica Berg

We each experience trauma in unique ways, but one thing is certain: it forever changes us. Processing trauma comes with grief, disappointment, and a fundamental shift in how we exist in the world. However, we ultimately get to choose how it changes us. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael discuss how to weather life quakes and become softer and more open because of them.

“We can either be hardened by things that happen to us, or we can know that we are changed and choose growth and transformation.” – Monica Berg

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

How do you know you are loved? Whether you are in a relationship or not, it’s helpful to know when you most feel loved, as well as the ways you enjoy showing the people in your life that they are important to you. In this mini-episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica & Michael discuss Gary Chapman’s pivotal book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, as a tool to better understand the important people in your life.

“The Five Love Languages is a way to be empathetic and put yourself in your partner’s shoes, so you know how to give love to them in the way they want to receive.” – Monica Berg

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary Chapman

One of the most important aspects of a relationship is the work each person puts into it. When both partners are making the effort to focus on and elevate the other, a true, lasting relationship blossoms. Tune in as Monica and Michael take questions from listeners on common relationship issues and share practical advice for growing your emotional intelligence and becoming ever closer to your partner.

“The reason you are in a relationship is because there’s something for you to learn from your partner in order to change and grow.” – Michael Berg

When couples decide to create a life together, they often approach the relationship with unrealistic expectations. Strong relationships are built on connection and communication. Listen as Monica and Michael answer questions from listeners that address some of the most common issues couples face as they navigate responsibilities, roles, and respect in a partnership.

“When you come together and decide to create a life together, build a home together, and perhaps have children, couples can have these expectations that are never discussed and aren’t really fair, and it doesn’t create connection. It’s not about right or wrong. It has to work for the couple.” – Monica Berg

We fail and make mistakes because we are all works in progress. Life is messy. But we are not supposed to be perfect. Our flaws are the aspects of ourselves we are meant to focus on and correct. Listen in as Monica and Michael explain the deeper purpose of imperfections and why they are so important to our soul’s work in this lifetime.

“What one might call the ugly parts of themselves are actually the work that their soul has taken upon themselves for the betterment of the world at large. Our imperfections are the part of the world we need to correct.” – Michael Berg

This week, Monica and Michael continue their conversation about sadness and unpack more fascinating ways we can use our emotions to learn and grow. Recent studies show that being sad can unlock clarity, generosity, and motivation. Join us for part 2 of Monica and Michael’s illuminating conversation about feeling our feelings.

“Inviting sadness to be your teacher is a sure way to start transforming it.” – Monica Berg