What you will take away from today's episode:
* How to break the habit of binge drinking.
* Why emotional intelligence is the key to a joyful and alcohol free life.
* The best part about the worst day's of being alcohol free.
*Having a big WHY and intention for life is crucial if you want to live on purpose.
*Why drunk Mummying, is never the right choice.
*Being authentically you is ALWAYS the only answer toward freedom.
*Sobriety can be just as much of a story and limiting as alcohol.
*Why you must find the right support that works for you.
*How drinking as a full time job can transform into a rewarding life of a sober Mom.

Thank you Victoria Vanstone!
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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Why can some people can drink without problems?
Because they don't try to say no!
Most people have a made up story in their minds about how: she can just have one glass of wine and it's so easy. 

NO!!!

First, Why does this matter?

Second:  I just want to be able to have a little glass of wine.

Why?

There’s nothing wrong with having a glass of wine, or having five.

It also doesn’t change or make your life better in anyway.
That's not REALLY what you or the habit wants.
Part of you doesn't want it to be true that alcohol is habit forming. 
Sorry to break it to you, there is no way around it.
And second, the habit has no interest in a glass of wine once a week. 

The habit of alcohol fractures your inner resilience.

What your perception is and what the reality is.

Frequency and Duration, Circumstance , Adversity and Internal resources CAN play a role in persons journey away from the habit. 
But not always.

Your brain developed a pattern, a totally normal one that says:

When you experience this emotion, for better or worse, the answer is to drink. 

You will learn:
*Why other people’s drinking is none of your business.

*Why that story is holding you back from living your best life.

*The impact other peoples actions are  having in other areas of your life.

*The solution isn't simply, no alcohol, it's more of YOU.

*The role of emotional maturity.

*How labels limit.
 
Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Join me for a Free Monthly Live Call: Heal, Awaken & Evolve From Alcohol Monthly Connection Q&A 10:15 am- 11:15 am PST

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What are we teaching our youth about emotions, alcohol and habit forming behaviours?
What do they really see when you're drinking?
How are they making decisions about drinking or not drinking?
What role alcohol will play in their future?
How they are learning at this wild time in history of isolation, how to process emotions and not take the easy way out?
How they have REAL lasting fun without drugs and alcohol and what advise they have for you, so you can too.
From the perspective of one Coffee drinking, skateboarding 16 year old, listen and find out!

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Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How To Say No, and love it.

Planning ahead of time is the greatest honor you can give yourself.

But it's not just in the Action of what you will do or not. It's the Emotion and the Thought that create your success and drives your intention into fruition.

When you think about doing something, you think about HOW YOU WILL FEEL based on past evidence.

Our brains jump into fight or flight mode before the actual event has even take place.

We create a hypothetical situation that effects the body and creates emotions, even before it happens. 

Think about the anticipation of a drink: it is even more satisfying than the drink itself. 
OR that NOT drinking will be the worst thing ever.
These thoughts are so powerful you can FEEL IT now.

If these thoughts, before the event, are actually producing an emotion and sensations in the body,
why not think the thoughts that produce the emotion for SUCCESS?!?

This is how we do it during our 1:1 Coaching sessions.

The results: MIND BLOWING.

1st date Alcohol Free: Curious, charming, open.
1st Vacation Alcohol Free: Excited, adventurous clam.
1st Job Interview Alcohol Free: Confident, Neutral, Present....

Then we generate the THOUGHTS that create the EMOTIONS based on our underlying intention of why we are doing these things in the first place, it's never usually just to drink.

This list goes on...

Your brain is a POWER HOUSE!

Yet, we create the worst case scenario.

Until you start practicing thinking on purpose,  slowing down, growing your awareness,

your brain will go into default mode of NO drinking, meaning the worst thing ever.

Instead of dreading the evening, you can decide how to feel ahead of time, rather than HOW you think you will feel.

Game. Changer.

In todays episode learn:

How to say No to a drink without an excuse.

How to plan for social events without feeling deprived and have a great time.

Take control of your life by planning on purpose.

How to decide ahead of time how you will feel, instead of leaving it up to old thought patterns and circumstance.

Learn the difference between thoughts that are just the habit, and your own NEW future focused thoughts.

If you are ready plan your life on purpose and have an amazing life without relying on alcohol:

Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE.

This is how we do it,
Mary

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

When it comes to changing your relationship with alcohol, your Emotions and Thoughts directly impact the rate (the ETA) at which you achieve success. 
The very specific Emotion and Thought is what’s going to drive the Action to eventually achieve the goal or result you want in life. 

In today’s episode you will learn:
*The exact process I teach my clients to maintain emotional and mental hygiene.
*How our emotions and thoughts become habitual, just like drinking, how to identify and interrupt them.
*Learn HOW to manage your mind, honor your emotions and create the formula to inspire *Action, to achieve any goal, including, changing the habit of drinking.
*Understand the thoughts getting you stuck are creating low vibrating emotions.
* How inaction is also an action and a choice.
*How to self coach yourself in any situation to get one step closer to no longer desiring alcohol.
*How to spot and interrupt habitual thought patterning that is keeping you stuck and drinking.
*Learn how to create your dreams on purpose instead of reacting to the circumstances of life.

I use the term ETA as a double meaning. It really represents your Emotions, Thoughts and Actions.  
That combination will also determine your Estimated time of arrival to your destination. Habitual ETA’s that have become your routine are often negative and fear based. Intentional ETA’s are what you MUST generate in order to achieve NEW goals and get to NEW places in your life. 
Example: After work (habitual thought pattern that you are unaware of)
Emotion: overwhelmed
Thought: Work is so stressful
Action: Drink
Result: Numb the emotion (leave the work stress until tomorrow)

Example: After work (new ETA generated on purpose)
Emotion: calm
Thought: I'm so glad I am home to relax
Action: go to bed early
Result: Feel refreshed ready to respond with grace to life

The other option is: Why is work so stressful? Why is that a problem? Is that true? Does drinking solve the REAL issues at work? 

AND... there is also simply FEELING the emotion without changing it at all. Putting your legs up the wall and breathing the day away.

Reach out with any questions for the show! [email protected]

As a big THANK YOU for being part of my journey, I made you a special gift to love yourself more: Click HERE for instant access to the Compassion guided audio track.
If you don't know it: You are amazing and I LOVE YOU!

If you are ready to stop waiting for change and ready to make it happen:  Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

WE DID IT!!! One Year Of  Stop Drinking and Start Living Podcast! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I couldn't have done it without your support.
On today's episode I speak to all of the beliefs I had to learn, unlearn and my willingness to be wrong to create a successful business and consistent podcast with my heart at the center.
How my authenticity is really what has driven not only the success of the show, but what has made if fun, enjoyable and an act of true service to the world.
And how NONE of it would have been possible had I not been living an Alcohol Free Life.
I speak to the necessity of trusting your intuition. Staying true to who you are uniquely, and how everything you truly desire is available to you now and on the other side of the habit of alcohol.
It is a moment to reflect on my personal achievements and my humbled honor of being called to do this work. I hope today's show is an example of what's possible when you Stop Drinking and Start Living!

As a big THANK YOU for being part of my journey, I made you a special gift to love yourself more: Click HERE for instant access to the Compassion guided audio track.
If you don't know it: You are amazing and I LOVE YOU!

If you are ready to stop waiting for change and ready to make it happen:  Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you are ready to live into possibly,  Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Boredom and Loneliness: How to process emotional cravings. Nothing has gone wrong! These are the two biggest emotions people try to solve with alcohol. Why? We think they are wrong and bad. You make them mean something is wrong with you. Emotions are not problems to be solved, they are experiences to have. What are you making it mean about you and how is that compounding your judgement? What if is was day dreaming and alone time? Same thing, different perspective.

What you will take away from today's show

• How to stop disappointing yourself
• The underlying implications of loneliness and boredom
• why Your thoughts about boar dome and loneliness are what create the emotions that trigger the desire to drink
• How to combat boredom and loneliness (shift your desire for alcohol into something that creates lasting change.)
• Seeing beyond the veil of alcohol as a companion
• 3 step process to shift from resistance and avoiding of what is to allowing and compassion.

If you are ready to stop waiting for change and ready to make it happen:  Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Why does alcohol seem so important to you, even when it doesn’t add any real value or meaning to your life?

The experiences you are having are happening with or without alcohol, so what’s the deal?

From the day we are born, we experience trauma. We are set to become "socialized", told we need to be different than how we would naturally act. Some of this to protect our lives, some of it to preserve the power over model.  Alcohol is a way to numb what already feels so disconnected. Who you ARE and who you think you are "suppose" to be.  Alcohol will never be what you want it to be. It is a temporary illusion. The real solution lives inside of becoming more of you, without apology. 

What you will take away from this episode:
-How to see alcohol as neutral and choose on purpose from the place of nonjudgmental awareness.

-Ways to add more meaning and value to your life.

-how to override the narrative of the habit,  that alcohol is important.

-how to shift from the persecutive that life is happening to you, rather life is HAPPENING AS YOU.

-rise above the noise that alcohol is a problem that needs to be solved.

-how to process grieving the part of you that is attached to creating meaning out of alcohol.

If you are ready to stop waiting for change and ready to make it happen:  Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE. 

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

When you are examining your relationship to alcohol, it's important to stay open to what works for you, what resonates with you deeply. As my guest today, Tricia Lewis, of Recovery Happy Hour explains, as you grow from alcohol, the way you show up to your life and recovery will too. Don't get stuck in a box.  Tricia shares with us her story of perfectionism and having to detox from alcohol when she could no longer get away with functioning at the rate she was going. She discovered that you could be addicted to alcohol and look normal on the outside.  As she explored various modalities of recovery, the one thing she knew she needed and didn't want to loose, was community after being in the service industry for so many years. She created the amazing podcast, Recovery Happy Hour, to support those on the journey of recovery and share the diversity of stories and ways to seek support so all people can find a way to connect and know they are never alone on this road.
Thank you Tricia!

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Recovery Happy Hour Spotify

If you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE

Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me. 

Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink. Click here to get your guide.

• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.