A new friendliness towards life,  leads to waiting a new relationship with alcohol, but unfortunately, the habit gets in the way.
You may realize that you are not interested in the dramas and judgements of life anymore.
You are identifying with life in a new way, but alcohol isn't changing with you and it's won't.
The struggles come when you belive, this time will be different.
When you think the act of drinking will change, you set your self up for disappointment.
You have to know this time I"M DIFFERENT, so I don't need to drink.

What’s really in the way of changing your relationship to alcohol, is admitting you are a different person.
That what you once lived you don't anymore.
You must give yourself permission to change your identity if you want to change your life.

The reason there is so much conflict is because you keep trying to create something new in your life, but the identity associated with alcohol keeps over riding that.

To find out more about the safe container of 1:1 alcohol coaching with Mary, schedule a call  HERE. 
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In today's episode I go beyond the cognitive dissonance (inconsistent beliefs) of alcohol that keep your mind in the daily mental friction, to drink or not to drink.
Beyond the habit of alcohol, the learned behavior, lives a deep need for self acceptance.
If you turn it into a LOVE/LOVE relationship, it cancels it's self out.
You give yourself permission to be WHOLE.
To be authentically YOU.
To change your mind.
The resistance to change your mind about alcohol, is your resistance to accept that alcohol is not the solution.
You can not find happiness outside of your self, anywhere.
However, you can strive for wholeness, and that can create the sense of Fulfillment, and satisfaction.
I am my WHOLE true self.
This is a statement alcohol inhibits you from making and thus creating the love/hate relationship.
What can happen to your beliefs and desires around alcohol when you strive for WHOLENESS vs. HAPPINESS?
When you let the solution be beautiful?

To find out more about the safe container of 1:1 alcohol coaching with Mary, schedule a call  HERE. 
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you know alcohol is the one constant in the way of fully stepping into your power, but you aren't sure the next best step, this show is for you.
I talk to intuitive eating coach, Tara Whitney about her  journey away from alcohol via the wisdom of the body.
This inspiring conversation Tara shares how she used the powerful and practical tool of choice through the lens of mindfulness.
Tara discovered the key to success wasn't about simply not drinking,  but answering the INVITATION to dive deeper into the journey of self discovery and sacred embodiment.
I loved every minute of this conversation and I know you will too. Thank you, Tara!

Please check out Tara's amazing work through her podcast and her transformative intuitive eating coaching program: Website |Podcast |Book | Facebook | Instagram
Tara's 3-Week Body Image Group Coaching and Yoga Program that begins Wednesday, June 2nd 2021!

To find out more about the safe container of 1:1 alcohol coaching with Mary, schedule a call  HERE. 
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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

The relationships we have for a life time, can be the one's most challenging to navigate when it comes to alcohol.
They are also the one's that hold the greatest opportunity for self inquiry and personal growth.
Sometimes alcohol is a big part of connecting to the other.
Othertimes the other is "why" you drink.
Familial relationships are the hardest to navigate because although it's still a choice, they are the constant in our lives.
Today I share a story of my own emotional triggers involving a recent interaction with my own Mother and the steps I took to gain control of my own inner boundaries and to continue my healing journey of awakening to unconditional love for myself and for the other.

We can get new results not by changing the circumstance or even seeing the "bad circumstance" as positive, but by bringing the circumstance to neutral and becoming the compassionate witness, for yourself first, then the other will follow.

To find out more about the safe container of 1:1 coaching, schedule a call  HERE. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

People drink for a lot of reasons.
Most of them go unexamined.
When you say alcohol makes me more...fill in the blank, you are denying your true self.
How you are in this very moment.
You are saying I am not enough.
When you are stressed, the message is, I don't have your back.
You are not giving yourself an opportunity to be who you are.
To grow. To build inner resilience.
The process of changing your relationship with alcohol, is also the process of becoming yourself.
Accepting who you are in this moment and deciding what you would like to embody more of.
First you must have your own heart.
You must find a place to feel safe enough to explore the inner landscape of the emotional self.
No one will do it for you.
Find out why the specific language you use is so important when it comes to creating a new life for yourself, when alcohol is no longer at center stage.
Then alcohol becomes a neutral, irrelevant part of your day to day life.
You must offer yourself deep, motherly love and compassion to feel safe enough to explore the depths of being human.
Sometimes the Mother is Fierce, sometime she is soft, but she is always here for us, unconditionally.
You can be that for YOU.

To find out more about the safe container of 1:1 coaching, schedule a call  HERE. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What packs the biggest punch in changing our relationship to alcohol is the language we use.
If we think: life will for sure be miserable without alcohol, it will.
If we think: alcohol's not a necessity of living, it creates a more NEUTRAL emotion.

Every action we take is driven be EMOTION.
That is why Big Alcohol is so good at marketing, they pull on our heart strings at every turn and we believe it.

If you think new thoughts, you get new results.
Of course it takes time, practice and the willingness to see things from a new perspective.
My clients are creating the Impossible one thought at a time.
Learn the 3 steps it takes to create the Impossible: Freedom from alcohol without deprivation.

Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE. 

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• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In today's episode, we explore a scared journey of dismantling alcohol, as unique as one's own spirit.
My guest today, friend, health coach and client, Erin Vanderkooy, brilliantly exemplifies that there is no ONE PATH to finding freedom from alcohol when explored thought the lens of love, curiosity and mindfulness.
She speaks of her personal journey and the daily burden of what it means to be a "normal drinker", in light of challenges she was facing physically and mentally.
And the social implications of making the rules up as you go, in alignment with your LIVED experience, not a guide book.
She shares, practical tools she is applying to her continued exploration of alcohol from our 1:1 coaching.
What it takes to ask for help and how the process expedited her results.
What Permission to NOT be broken looks like.
Health implication, tips and signs to watch for in light of drinking from Erin's expert opinion as an expert health coach and herbalist.

Please reach out to Erin to explore her brilliant Health Coaching Work and the POWER community.
https://erinvanderkooy.com
https://powercommunity.co
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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

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Although we are a culture obsessed with alcohol, an epidemic that has been normalized, the story that there is a "normal" way to drink and you will be shunned if you can't do it that way, is what needs to change.
Does anyone know what that is?
There is a trap of: if I don't drink I won't be normal.
Other people will wonder what's wrong with me.
I hear this from too many people.
There are now enough people who don't believe in : drinking is a normal story, so we can drop it.
Not to mention, peer pressure as an adult?
No thanks.
When you dismantle the beliefs around alcohol you have to go DEEPER.
You have to interrogate, with compassion, your own self and values.
WHO is everybody?
WHAT is normal?
WHEN is this happening and WHERE?
Are people really thinking this or is a just what you are creating in your head?
You're decision to drink or not drink will be interpreted differently by everyone.
Someone might think your a hero, someone might think your a buzzkill, but most people will be worried about themselves, not how much you are drinking.
Another persons enjoyment is NOT dependent on your actions.
It is dependent on THEIR thoughts and emotions about it.

Show up like the life of the party and no one can say a thing!
Show up like you and have your own back.
More power to you, Sister. It's time to throw a better party and take responsibility for your own health and livelyhood. Caring what other people think is no longer a necessary part of our survival.
When YOU do YOU, you will attract the same.
Be you, all the way.
If there is a collective STIGMA, it's well worn and out of date.
xxoo Mary

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

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The reason you think you can’t change your relationship to alcohol is the solution to success.

The perceived obstacle are ALWAYS the reason to say YES!
You have to be willing to be resourceful to get the result you want. 

The human brain makes decisions based on the past.

Part of your brain feels good about the decision of drinking. 

Not drinking creates Thoughts that create Emotional Discomfort.

When you are not use Feeling the sensations of emotions, making a decision to change and embrace feeling, signals danger to your brain. 
Your job is to move to the other side to prove that objection false.
This is how to weaken the habit.

Today you will learn:

How to spot your objections that are getting in the way of creating lasting change.

How you move from impossible to possible.

Common objections for why people never start the process and how their objection is the reason they need to.

The difference between passive and massive action.

What thoughts to think NOW to take the ONE next step. 

Common Objections To Say NO To Changing Your Relationship To Alcohol.
Remember, these are all SUBJECTIVE THOUGHTS, not FACTS.

+It’s not the right time. 

+ I’m too busy to do the work

+ It’s too hard

+ I’ll never have fun again! 

+ I’m afraid of what people will think. My relationships will change.

+ Iv’e tried before and it didn’t work. 

+ It’s not a good time to invest. (time, money, energy)

+I don’t know If I want to say no forever.

Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Problems are unexpected or undesirable results in the circumstances of your life, yet rather than move towards them, the typical response, is to run. 

The mind thinks there is a threat and avoids the sensations of the emotion at all costs.

It looks to blame, avoid or run. 
Anything but take a wider view of where your intention may have got lost in the pattern of reactivity and emotion. 

Nothing has gone wrong. It is normal to see change as a problem and their for a threat to survival. 
However, in our modern world, change is a good thing. 

It indicates growth and opportunity.

If you are willing to feel a new emotion, it can become a portal for possibility.

In this episode you will learn:

• Why the power of pause is so important in solving “problems”. 
• Understanding the facts that alcohol is a circumstance out of your control.
• Acceptance is the key to making space for possibility. 
• Understand what’s beyond an emotion or urge.
• How fear doesn’t support lasting change.
• Why it’s hard to see beyond the collective story and how to tap into your who creative genius.
• Why Leading with your heartfelt intention will help you reinterpret any situation.
• How alcohol will ALWAYS be contradictory to your intentions thriving.
• Finally, that you can CHOOSE to believe anything you want about alcohol, even that you don’t like it.

Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE. 

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.