The Aware Parenting Podcast

In this episode, we talk about the importance of our own ReParenting whilst practicing Aware Parenting.

[1:35] Why it is so important and how our kids show us what we need

[6:25] Marion’s processes around healing our own painful stories and how they came about

[9:10] How this process helps us bring a deeper quality to our parenting

[11.15] How you can identify when your own story is present

[13.48] How our children can present our own hurts to heal - mirror projection

[16.20] Seeing our stories becomes so empowering

[18.45] Why compassion matters so much

[20.10] Steps to looking at the feelings and the cartography of the psyche

[24.14] Quick hack to help you get to the core of the feelings

[25.11] Flooding and how to help ourselves

[28.22] Steps and questions to ask ourselves when we have painful feelings arising

[33.30] What we want to hear and how we repair

[34.30] Lael shares how she did this process with a situation with her daughter

[42.00] Owning our calm, compassionate space

[44.00] Accessing help to support you on this reparenting.

This week’s invitation:

1. Tune into what happens for you when you feel like you are losing your power or needing to explore stuff. Ask yourself how old am I now?

2. If you are feeling flooded or overwhelmed, reach out to an empathy buddy, professional counsellor to support you.

Resources:

Marion’s course: Inner Loving Presence Process Course: 

www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com

Lael’s Aware Parenting Facebook events page: https://www.facebook.com/pg/laelstone/events/

or sessions via Skype - [email protected]

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.

Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey.

Lael and Marion

Episode 16: Hitting and Biting by Marion Rose, PhD.

In this episode, we talk all about powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting, politics and partnering.

We discuss the differences between authoritarian, permissive and democratic parenting, and how much we've been affected by the domination paradigm.

We also share our own experiences around powerlessness and power-with in parenting and partnering.

Resources:

Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter.

Lael's webinar on Aware Parenting for Teens and Tweens: https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register

Marion's Power and Powerlessness offerings:

Free intro to Power and Powerlessness in Parenting: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/

Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/

Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course:

www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation

In this episode, we talk about attachment play, which is a term coined by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. to describe the 9 types of play that can be used to help children cooperate, feel connected, heal from painful past experiences, release fear and powerlessness, and express feelings that otherwise lead to hitting, not sleeping and repressing feelings.

We explain how attachment play works, why it’s the opposite of behaviourism, how we can use it to help children cooperate, and we give examples of how it can be used in really specific ways.

Most of all, it brings more connection, joy and fun into family life!

Further resources:

Attachment Play by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. http://www.awareparenting.com/attachmentplay.html

Attachment Play Course by Marion Rose, Ph.D. http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in

Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen

In this episode, we talk about the importance of us having emotional support as parents in order to increase our capacity to parent in this way.

We include:

Presence;

The power of listening;

Empathy buddies; and

Professional support.

Listening Partnerships - Carolina Valenica Coleman

https://www.facebook.com/groups/2562318203992646/

In this episode, we talk about repression mechanisms - what they are, how our children acquire them, how they're passed down in families, and how we can help our children have fewer of them!

Books:

Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

In this episode, we talk about relationships within the context of Aware Parenting, including:

co-parenting, divorce, intimacy, and long term relationships.

We talk about one parent practicing Aware Parenting when the other parent isn't on board and navigating Aware Parenting with a wider family who don't understand or don't resonate.

We also talk about the importance of our inner relationships and doing our own Inner parenting work.

In this episode, we talk about our very different experiences of learning and education as parents.

Lael's three children have all been to school, and she has been developing a new school in Victoria, Australia, which is based on Aware Parenting philosophies.

Marion's two children have never been to school.

What we both love about Aware Parenting is that we can apply it to whatever our choices are around eduction, to support our children in their unique learning journeys.

Resources:

Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter

The Homework Myth by Alfie Kohn

The Element by Ken Robinson

Woodline Primary School - www.woodlineprimary.com.au

In this episode, we talk about how different life can be, practicing Aware Parenting with tweens and teens.

Further resources:

Lael’s webinars - Aware Parenting with tweens and teens & How to Talk to your Kids about Sex, both at: https://www.facebook.com/laelstone/

Brainstorm - Dan Seigel

Sex ed rescue - https://sexedrescue.com/.

Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

In this episode, we talk about: saying no, choice, cooperation, wilfulness and consent.

We also share how this is relevant to tantrums and the expression of rage and powerlessness.

We invite you to connect with your yeses and no’s and to support your children in expressing these too.

More information:

The Wonder of Willingness Course https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com

Are you Willing? ebook: www.bit.ly/are-you-willing

Lael’s webcast on How to talk to your kids about sex on Lael’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/commerce/products/1680233788762249/