The Aware Parenting Podcast

In this episode, we talk empathic and effective alternatives to punishments and rewards.

We discuss the cultural background of punishments and rewards.

We share about compliance and the impact on children of punishments and shaming, and the ‘good girl and good boy’ syndrome.

We offer how we can help our children want to cooperate, contribute, apologise and repair because they feel those things from the inside.

We also explore the long term effects of punishments, and how punishment in childhood leads to inner punishment in adulthood - the harsh thoughts, the shame, the guilt and the judgment.

We ask, "How would you like your child’s inner dialogue to be?"

Books:

Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter

Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn

In this episode, we talk about toddlers and tantrums, but what we share is also relevant to children of all ages.

We discuss the importance of listening to a child's feelings, and what can be required from us as parents to be able to do that.

Resources:

Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/

Intro to Aware Parenting Webinar with Lael

https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/webinars/51777/register

Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter

Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter

Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen

Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore

In this episode, we talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective.

Aware Parenting offers a third way with sleep - a way for babies and children to be securely attached AND to sleep restfully.

We explain what gets in the way of sleep, the three things needed for restful sleep, and how as parents we can often be fighting our children's natural relaxation mechanisms.

Books: The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums and Attachment Play - all by Aletha Solter, Ph.D.

Free intro: https://www.soundasleep.me/

Course: http://www.soundasleep.me/invitation/

In this episode, we talk all about guilt in motherhood.

We look at why guilt is so common, the cultural cause of guilt, and what we can do to get free from guilt without spending all day on the sofa watching Netflix!

https://www.cnvc.org/

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/

In this episode, we talk about the short term and long term effects of listening to a baby’s feelings.

Books: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter.

Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter.

Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter.

Babies have real feelings ebook: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/

In this episode, we discuss why birth matters and its impact on our lives. We explore how birthing mothers birthing can feel as well as what babies may feel.

We look at prenatal psychology and the awareness that babies are born with.

We discuss why birth can often play out the way it needs for the baby for healing and learning from a bigger perspective. We also talk about honouring the mother's journey and feeling fear in pregnancy.

We talk about birth trauma and healing for mother and baby as well as why babies may cry and how we can meet their needs.

We also discuss how babies and children know what they need to do to heal.

Book: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter

www.stanislavgrof.com

www.aboutbirth.com.au

www.calmbirth.com.au

In this episode, we introduce ourselves and our journey with Aware Parenting. You can find out more about Lael at: www.laelstone.com.au and Marion at: www.marionrose.net

For more info on Aware Parenting and Aletha Solter take a look at :

http://www.awareparenting.com/