Understanding how your child's - or your - behaviors protect against re-experiencing toxic shame and what it looks like will help you along the way to healing toxic shame.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What behaviors might you see that are related to toxic shame
• How and why behaviors protect us from re-experiencing toxic shame
• How Internal Family Systems helps us make sense of these behaviors
• How toxic shame can protect us from experiencing the grief of aloneness

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Ilyse Kennedy's book: The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma through Internal Family Systems Therapy.

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame2

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
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Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame helps us understand how to begin to change this for our kids.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What is the difference between shame and toxic shame
• What is the neurobiology of toxic shame
• How does toxic shame develop?
• Why do good things trigger shame for some people?
• Robyn's book is available for pre-order!!!

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Let's stop playing behavior whack-a-mole with a (usually well intended) focus on behaviors.

Instead, if we focus on the nervous system (including our own!) we can invite our children's true self to emerge.

For 48 hours, I'm offering you the audio of my free webinar Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior.

To watch the FREE webinar and download the FREE eBook, head to https://robyngobbel.com/webinar

If you want to dive deeper, learning all about the nervous system, packing your toolbox full of tools that actually work, all while in community with other parents who GET IT, come join us in The Club!

We are welcoming new members from now until the end of the day Monday March 6, 2023.

https://robyngobbel.com/theclub

AND to pre-order my new book, head to https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook

The Club is currently welcoming new members and I know you have questions- questions that ultimately boil down to:

• Is The Club right for me and my family?
• How can The Club help?

I also answer very practical questions like:

• What’s Included in The Club? (so much!)
• How much direct interaction do I get with Robyn (lots!)
• Is it easy to quit when I’m ready? (YES!)

Welcome to the Friday Q&A series! I’m answering listener questions every Friday on the podcast.

For all the details about The Club and to join us, head to https://RobynGobbel.com/TheClub

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Robyn shares her personal journey with strengthening her own psychological boundaries.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Robyn’s experience as a client in a therapy setting
• Allowing others to have their own emotional journeys without interfering
• Caring for your watchdog and possum brains with your owl brain
• The title for Robyn’s book coming out September 2023!!! Pre-order HERE

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Being With Directory: RobynGobbel.com/BeingWithDirectory
Parent Course Directory: RobynGobbel.com/ParentCourseDirectory
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Podcast with Juliane Taylor Shore: https://robyngobbel.com/boundaries3/

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/myboundaries

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

My four-year-old is relentless in their demand for constant attention. But especially when I’m doing something like checking a text message, watching something on my phone, or talking to someone else- even just their dad! If I don’t pay attention immediately, he freaks out. How do I get this under control?

In this episode, I:

• Reassure you that the need for connection is totally normal!
• Describe the neurobiology processes that make a lack of connection feel like danger
• Recommend resources for how to help your child be able to tolerate disconnection

Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As!  I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.

Additional Resources:
Scaffolding Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/scaffolding
Bottomless Pit podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/bottomlesspit

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

In part 3 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, Juliane Taylor Shore talks us through how boundaries work in relationships with our children - relationships where we have to show up every day - and why it is so important for us to have good psychological boundaries when our children are verbally aggressive. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What are psychological boundaries
• How do psychological boundaries help us
• Why good psychological boundaries are important when a child is verbally aggressive
• How to create space between your mind and another's mind

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Juliane Taylor Shore's website: https://www.cleariskind.com/
Juliane's boundaries course: ​​https://therapywisdom.com/neurobiology-of-feeling-safe/
Jules' Relationship Podcast : https://whydoesmypartner.com/

FREE
One-page PDF infographic on Boundaries with Connection!
CLICK HERE to get the download sent to your inbox

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries3

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

I’ve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? I’m worried they’ll start using it as excuses.

I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like “My watchdog brain made me hit my sister!”

In this episode, I:

• Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots)
• Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuse
• Recommend resources for how to teach your child about their brain

Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As!  I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.

Additional Resources:

Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/changebehavior
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior FREE Webinar: https://robyngobbel.com/webinar
The START HERE podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/starthere

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

In part 2 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, we explore how to set boundaries that create success by providing structure and containment that offers safety, connection, and co-regulation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How boundaries can create physical and emotional safety
• How to create the kind of boundaries your child really needs for continued development
• How to set boundaries with the intent of increasing regulation

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Previous podcast episode https://robyngobbel.com/scaffolding

FREE
One-page PDF infographic on Boundaries with Connection!
CLICK HERE to get the download sent to your inbox

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries2

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

"I’m so confused about the RAD diagnosis. My son’s therapist suggested it but everything I read online is scary and hopeless. Help!"

When parents get a diagnosis of RAD (or it even gets suggested!) they head straight to Google.

What they find is terrifying!

That's the problem with RAD as a diagnosis!

In this episode, I give a new framework for considering what's underneath the behavioral symptoms that lead to a diagnosis of RAD- and why this reframe is crucial to treatment.

Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As!  I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.

Additional Resources

Brilliance of Attachment eBook by Robyn Gobbel

Developmental Trauma Close Up by Beacon House (this is an EXCELLENT resource on Developmental Trauma)

I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.

All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango

Register by December 19 for $75 off!

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Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)