Are you struggling to find common ground with your partner when it comes to parenting? This episode will shed light on this common dilemma as we discuss understanding behavior, creating a support plan, and cultivating authenticity and honesty within the family. We'll explore the reasons behind resistance to paradigm shifts and dive into the intricacies of the owl, watchdog, and possum metaphor. You'll learn how curiosity and connection can bridge differences with your parenting partner, even when they seem insurmountable.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• The importance of addressing underlying issues and supporting your partner with parenting struggles
• How having different parenting styles or philosophies doesn’t mean you can’t be a successful partnership
• About tools needed to navigate these challenges and strengthen the relationship with your parenting partner

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Has Trauma Informed Become A Behavior Modification Technique? {Ep 54}
• What if Trauma Informed…Isn’t? {Ep 134}
• But- What About A Consequence?!?! {Ep 56}
• When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
• Self-Compassion Will Change Your Brain {Ep 8}
• Q&A! What Do I Do When My Kid Gets Stuck And Ends Up Flipping Her Lid? {Ep 74}
• Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84} (Podcast)

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Ever found yourself struggling to understand and support a child who simply doesn’t fit the mold? Dayna Abraham's way to Calm the Chaos might be just what you're looking for.  Dayna's journey from being a sibling to a challenging brother, to teaching dysregulated kids, and then parenting a unique child herself, offers a wealth of wisdom and practical strategies. Dayna has taken everything she's learned from supporting her son and now helps struggling families all around the world. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How Dayna’s personal experiences have led her to develop her Calm the Chaos framework for parents
• The importance of seeing kids uniqueness as something to be celebrated, not changed
• Why parents deserve exactly what our kids deserve- safety and connection and understanding

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Lemon Lime Adventures
Calm the Chaos Book
Calm the Chaos Podcast

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/CalmtheChaos

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. But what if we told you that understanding the balance between enabling and co-regulation could be your guiding light? This week, we break down this crucial contrast, demystifying the term 'enabling', often misconstrued in the mental health field, and venture into the science behind lowering demands - a strategy that can bolster your child’s stress response system.

In this episode you'll learn:

• The importance of being self-attuned to whats hard vs. too hard
• How to determine between lowering demands for your own comfort and doing it because it is genuinely too arduous for your child
• The difference between enabling/codependent behaviors and co-regulation

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection or Protection??? {7}
What to do after We Mess up {80}
Stress Response System {94}

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/Enabling

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Ever wondered how to build resilience in children who have suffered trauma? Our guest for today's episode, Ginger, Program Director for the Attachment and Trauma Network, gives a fresh perspective on it. Ginger's personal journey is inspiring, and her experience as a former child abuse investigator, an adoptive parent, and a survivor of postpartum and postadoption depression has shaped her approach to helping others. She shares her road to recovery, and how she found her calling in assisting families and children dealing with trauma and attachment issues.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Transitioning from traditional behavior plans to focusing on the child's nervous system
• The importance of an adult's role in creating safe spaces
• Practical co-regulation strategies for educators and parents

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Regulation and Co-Regulation: Accessible Neuroscience that Brings Calm into the Classroom

The Attachment & Trauma Network

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/BuildingSafeSpaces

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

What if I told you that there's a revolutionary approach to parenting that's shifting the traditional power dynamics and nurturing stronger relationships of trust and understanding? My latest conversation with Amanda Diekman, author of the groundbreaking book "Low Demand Parenting", explores this very concept. Together, we tread into the challenging terrain of parenting children with highly sensitive nervous systems, sharing insightful strategies and breakthrough research work of Ross Green, Mona Delahooke, and Stuart Shanker.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What is low-demand parenting
• How to create a post-meltdown plan for parents

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Low Demand Parenting- Released July 21, 2023
https://us.jkp.com/products/lowdemand-parenting?_pos=1&_sid=b80ccd227&_ss=r
***For 20% off and free shipping, use code: BafflingBehaviors20

Find Amanda on Instagram: @LowDemandAmanda
Find Amanda online: https://www.amandadiekman.com
Post Meltdown Plan for Parents on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/Ctgv-B1OjtE/

Read a the full transcript at: https://RobynGobbel.com/lowdemand

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

In this podcast episode, Robyn Gobbel interviews Sarah R. Moore, the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior, and founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting.  Sarah was working a corporate job when as a new mom, a conversation with a pediatrician who discouraged her from responding to her baby's cries ignited a fire in her to research and understand the importance of responsive parenting. This experience led her to empower parents and caregivers by providing evidence-based information and support.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The basics of conscious parenting
• The importance of curiosity and grace 
• Sarah's HUG process (Holding reactions, Understanding perspectives, and Granting grace
• The power of story teaching

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Sarah's book: Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior
Website: https://dandelion-seeds.com/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/responsive

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Marna Pacheco, the creator of Capeable Weighted Products, started her journey due to the needs of her daughter.  Marna's devotion to her family and her relentless pursuit of research led to the development of SmartWeight-Technology, a different approach to weighted products, wrapped up in a sweet little pink cape - the first Capeable product.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The Three C’s of Smartweight Technology
  • Conform
  • Compress
  • Constant Contact
• How this innovation leads to such a positive impact on the nervous system
• How Marna was able to use her experiences to create change for thousands of kids and families

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Rising Tide Conference
• Capeable
• The Connected Therapist by Marti Smith

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/capeable

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Looking for practical strategies to nourish a fried nervous system?

Living with someone who has significant vulnerability in their nervous system can lead to a sensitized stress response system, resulting in unpredictable and sometimes unsafe behaviors. This can leave our own nervous systems in a state of distress. While we often discuss secondary trauma in parenting kids with trauma histories, the truth is that living with someone who has significant dysregulation is trauma in itself. Understanding this perspective allows us to acknowledge the challenges we face without criticizing ourselves or others.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The impact of parenting on your nervous system
• The consequences of burnout and lack of support
• Signs of a fried nervous system
• Practical strategies for nourishing a fried nervous system

FREE
One-page PDF infographic- what to do when your nervous system is fried!

CLICK HERE to begin the download

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Previous episode recommendations:

• Connection vs. Protection (7)
• Self Compassion (8)
• Understanding Behavior is Not Excusing Behavior (109)
• Grief in Parenting Kids with Vulnerable Nervous Systems (129)
• Scaffolding (82)
• When Parenting is Traumatic (95)

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/fried

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

An episode that explores the behavior of stealing and the underlying factors that contribute to it.

Stealing is a frequent concern among parents and professionals, yet there is a lack of comprehensive resources on the subject. The goal is to provide a single source that explores the behavior of stealing in depth, taking into account the underlying factors that contribute to it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The underlying causes of stealing
• What to do about stealing
• What it takes to help your child be successful at not stealing

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Previous episode on the Stress Response System: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/stealing

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

An episode that explores the behavior of stealing and the underlying factors that contribute to it.

Stealing is a frequent concern among parents and professionals, yet there is a lack of comprehensive resources on the subject. The goal is to provide a single source that explores the behavior of stealing in depth, taking into account the underlying factors that contribute to it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The underlying causes of stealing
• What to do about stealing
• What it takes to help your child be successful at not stealing

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Previous episode on the Stress Response System: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/stealing

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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The Club is opening our doors and welcoming new members starting Tuesday the 27th! Mark your calendar to go to https://robyngobbel.com/theclub. 

The Club is a virtual community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education just for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. 24-7 access, HUGE learning library, expert coaches, and amazing parents.

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