A conversation with Meredith Ethington, author of The Mother Load: Surviving the Daily Grind without Losing Your Ever Loving Mind about mental health and the mental load of parenting.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why authentic storytelling about parenting is so important
• Why being honest about mental health struggles in parenting matters
• How to hold space for our children's vulnerability and our own
• How the mental load impacts parents

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Meredith's blog: Perfection Pending
Meredith's new book: The Mother Load

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/motherload

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

What does this way of parenting look like with teens?

In this episode, I:

• Reassure you that teens want to be parented with playfulness and connection, too
• Explore what’s hard about realizing we don’t have control over anyone’s behavior- including our teens
• Remind you that the behavior you want to see from your teen are all owl brain skills, so keep using regulation, connection, and felt safety to grow their owl brain

This is a Friday Q&A episode, where I answer a listener’s question.

Additional Resources:
Parenting in the Eye of the Storm by Katie Naftzger
Brainstorm by Dan Siegel
How to Talk to Your Teen About Anything by Katie Malinski
Podcast episode with Katie Malinski: https://robyngobbel.com/talktoyourteen/

Read the transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/ParentingTeens

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

For the mom and dad or grandma or grandpa or caregiver who is worried they are making things worse because of how they are parenting.

You have tried so hard to be the parent you want to be.

You have tried so hard to break cycles. To not parent the way you were parented.

And I’ll bet that sometimes, you end up parenting or behaving in exactly the way you are trying not to.

And maybe sometimes it’s actually really bad.

This episode is for you.

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/ParentingFailure

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Should my child- who has a history of attachment trauma- be only doing family therapy? Or is it OK for them to do individual therapy?

In this episode, I:

• Reassure you that this is a nuanced decision with no clear answer
• Describe when individual therapy might be most appropriate
• Describe when family therapy might be most appropriate

This is a Friday Q&A episode, where I answer a listener’s question.

Additional Resources:
https://robyngobbel.com/childintherapy

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/IndividualOrFamilyTherapy

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

A conversation with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, authors of Reclaim Compassion: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith about blocked care- what it is, what causes it, and how families can begin to recover. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What is blocked care
• What are the symptoms
• How can you overcome blocked care

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Blocked Care Assessment: theadoptionconnection.com/parentingaftertrauma
• Website: Reclaimcompassion.com
• Book: Reclaim Compassion

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/blockedcare

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

What is a vulnerable nervous system and how do you know if your child has one? Understanding what is meant by "vulnerable nervous system" can help you support your child with big, baffling behaviors.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What do I mean by vulnerable nervous system
• How to know if your child has a vulnerable nervous system
• What causes nervous system vulnerability
• How to support a child who has a vulnerable nervous system

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
Attachment Series ebook: Robyngobbel.com/ebook
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/vulnerable

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Part 3 of a 3 part series on toxic shame discusses how toxic shame heals and gives parents a map for how to be with kids who experience toxic shame.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• There is no technique or tool to heal shame
• What toxic shame really needs in order to heal
• The role of memory reconsolidation in healing toxic shame
• Why holding the truth for our kids matters

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub

Previous Podcast Episodes:
Trauma, Memory, and Behavior Part 1
Trauma, Memory, and Behavior Part 2 (includes a F R E E download)
What Our Kids Really Need (and Us, Too): Moments of Healing

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame3

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Understanding how your child's - or your - behaviors protect against re-experiencing toxic shame and what it looks like will help you along the way to healing toxic shame.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What behaviors might you see that are related to toxic shame
• How and why behaviors protect us from re-experiencing toxic shame
• How Internal Family Systems helps us make sense of these behaviors
• How toxic shame can protect us from experiencing the grief of aloneness

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Ilyse Kennedy's book: The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma through Internal Family Systems Therapy.

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame2

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame helps us understand how to begin to change this for our kids.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What is the difference between shame and toxic shame
• What is the neurobiology of toxic shame
• How does toxic shame develop?
• Why do good things trigger shame for some people?
• Robyn's book is available for pre-order!!!

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and caregivers in Richmond, VA on September 21. 

RobynGobbel.com/LIVE

Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book

Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub

Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion

Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Let's stop playing behavior whack-a-mole with a (usually well intended) focus on behaviors.

Instead, if we focus on the nervous system (including our own!) we can invite our children's true self to emerge.

For 48 hours, I'm offering you the audio of my free webinar Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior.

To watch the FREE webinar and download the FREE eBook, head to https://robyngobbel.com/webinar

If you want to dive deeper, learning all about the nervous system, packing your toolbox full of tools that actually work, all while in community with other parents who GET IT, come join us in The Club!

We are welcoming new members from now until the end of the day Monday March 6, 2023.

https://robyngobbel.com/theclub

AND to pre-order my new book, head to https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook