The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

What does food freedom even mean?

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Food freedom means to feel completely free around food  (no sh*t!🤣). But there's a reason why I titled this 'how to create food freedom'. Because you don't find it, you create it for yourself to fit you, your lifestyle and your idea of freedom.

So let me ask you a question...

"What does freedom look like to you?"

I'll share with you what it means to me:

And if I'm being honest, it means the same to most of my clients too. And the good news is that I now HAVE complete food freedom and so do my clients when they walk away form coaching with me!

So I invite you to write down what food freedom looks like to YOU and then to listen for how to create your own food freedom!

I LOVE THIS EPISODE SO MUCH! Martita Robinson was my coach when I first went on my healing transformation journey. She taught me SO much and after working with Martita, my life changed forever in the BEST way possible! Listen to hear Martita share nuggets of her wisdom around emotions, self-love and self-acceptance.  We talk about binge eating, intuitive eating, stress, anxiety and emotions. Such a great episode, enjoy! To connect with Martita visit her Facebook page:  Martita Robinson M.A.   https://www.facebook.com/martitarobinson

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You’re sat on the sofa after a long day. You’ve just eaten a healthy dinner. You worked out this morning, ate salad for lunch, snacked on fruit all day, you’re proud of yourself. You’re rocking this sh*t…

Then you hear something… it’s the cupboards calling your name. Pssssst, heeeeeyyyy we are full of cookies! You pretend to ignore them. They call louder. You start to ponder if there’s any way you can justify eating dessert. You consider it. You diet brain pops up:

“NO don’t even think about it! you CAN’T have anything else, once you start eating you won’t be able to stop. You’ll ruin your great day of eating. You’ll fall off the wagon! Don’t do it!”

Your desire answers back:

“Well, if I just ate everything that’s left in the house I could start again tomorrow. Then I won’t buy cookies in anymore. The kids can have fruit instead. We’ll all go on a health kick together!”

This conversation goes on for half an hour or so. But in the end your desire brain wins. It always wins. That’s why you feel like such a failure every day. You go to the cookies. So delicious. But before you know it, you’ve eaten the whole 2 packs. You’ve blown it now, may as well eat anything else left in the house that’s sweet.

You’ll start again tomorrow…

You go to bed feeling bloated, hopeless, annoyed, guilty, unworthy, unlovable. Not only are you in physical pain from your bloated tummy, you’re in even more emotional pain.  It hurts so bad.

Listen to how to help with this... I got you beautiful! 

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Is the constant jealousy of other women's bodies dragging you down? Do you just wish you could stop wishing you looked like someone else? Listen for 6 tips to soften jealousy.

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Listen in for oodles of helpful tips to stop stress and overwhelm in their tracks! You got this girl. Please rate my podcast if you like it and share with a friend so I can help others. 

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Sending love and positive vibes, Victoria x

9 times out of 10 my clients and others that I talk to in my field of expertise want help with losing weight. My question to them is,

“What has been stopping you from losing the weight so far and WHY do you want to lose weight.”

The answers I get are very similar and not surprisingly, I have been in this place  SO many times before that I have lost count. So the typical answer is: “I don’t know why I can’t stick to anything. I have no willpower. I always seem to self-sabotage.”

As soon as you focus on how much you desperately want and need to lose weight and then put in place all of these regimented routines in an attempt to achieve this, it feels like you are constantly fighting against something… mainly yourself. You then end up binge eating, most of the time on purpose because you are ultimately saying ‘screw you’ to the diet police (which is you by the way!)

There is a way to overcome this, let me explain…

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I’m sure we all know too well how worry feels. Stop for a moment now and just notice what you’re currently worrying about in your life… How does thinking about what you’re worrying about make you feel?

But what is worry? Worrying is a form of thinking about future events in a way that leaves you feeling anxious or uncertain.

When we worry we are attempting to mentally problem-solve an event that planned on happening in the future which has one or more possible negative outcomes. It’s an attempt at control.

Whilst future thinking is often helpful and can assist us with goal setting and planning, it becomes a problem when we ‘future think’ about events that leave us feeling anxious, uncertain and on edge.

Clinically, excessive worry is the primary symptom of generalized anxiety disorder (GAD).

As humans, we like to control. It’s how our brains work. We are wired to future predict because back in the caveman days if we didn’t plan ahead for potential danger, we wouldn’t survive.

So our brains are wired to constantly problem solve which of course is helpful but not so much if we find ourselves in a constant state of anxiety.

When we can’t accept that the said future event is completely out of our immediate control, we revisit that event in our heads and play the ‘what if’ scenarios out over and over again. We image every “what if” and how we might handle it—we’re trying to control an uncontrollable situation.

How can a mental state tied to so much anxiety be rewarding? Each time we worry and nothing bad happens, our mind connects worry with preventing harm:

And the takeaway is, “It’s a good thing I worried.” (We probably aren’t consciously aware of this thought process.)

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How to be yourself What a strange title you may be thinking… but I’m sure many of you can’t answer ‘yes’ to this question:  “Do you show up fully as yourself every day in every moment?”  Thought so…  Why is it so difficult to be ourselves? Take a look around you (like you didn’t need reminding) we are bombarded with sales of products and things we ‘need’ in order to improve ourselves, be better, do better, have more, lose the wrinkles, lose the cellulite, lose the flab… the list goes on.  This messaging has been learned by our subconscious minds since birth. The message of…  “You’re not good enough just as you are. You need ___ to be seen, to be heard and to matter in society.”  This is so normal to us that everyone around us is conditioned to think and act this way too. It’s normal to talk about what diet we’re on this month. It’s common practice to be working our ass off in the gym in order to be ‘beach ready.’ It’s expected to be comparing beauty products in order to find the one that gets rid of our wrinkles… because God forbid we age as our bodies go through life!  These media messages only add to the beliefs and values of our parents and those that raised us. And whatever our parents believed, we also took as our own beliefs. After all, as children we looked up to our parents to keep us safe and to teach us everything.  Most of us have been raised by parents that have sadly also been conditioned by society and so throughout our lives as we’ve grown up, we’ve adopted a deep belief that we’re just not good enough.  Our parents did the best they could. I’m blessed to have a mum who loves me unconditionally and shows her love in any and every way she can. So when I was a child and I saw my mum constantly picking fault with herself, grabbing her tummy fat and saying ‘look at this it’s disgusting!’, I was petrified of gaining weight to the point where I fell into anorexia. I’m not blaming my mum of course not, it wasn’t only seeing her act that way that caused my fear but she didn’t know any better either. She had been taught to believe that her beautiful perfect tummy that housed a safe place for me and my sister to come into the world, was ‘disgusting’. 🙁 I have tears writing this.  On top of believing that how we look isn’t good enough, we also believe that we need to achieve or have lots of money in order to be happy. And this is not our truth! So before I go any further, can we just take a moment to send ourselves some compassion? No wonder we feel this way. And that’s ok.  The fear of being judged The more I coach and the more people I help (including myself!) it’s clear to see that the fear of being judged is what keeps us from being ourselves.  It’s what keeps us from choosing to wear jeans over shorts and ‘just dealing’ with how hot we get. It’s what makes us say yes to a night out when all we really want is to have a night in our PJs with a good book. It’s what motivates us to start a new diet or join a gym because #bikinibody…  Our constant worry of what others may think, or say about us is what stops is from fully showing up as ourselves.  But what are we really scared of?  What IF people DO judge us?  Then what?  Truthbomb… people DO judge us. All. The. Time. And I’ll tell you what we fear…  We fear being rejected.  We fear being unloved.  And that fear is real for us.  So what can we do about it? I’ll get to that shortly...