The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

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I spoke to my Mum yesterday (miss her SO much!) she’s in the UK and I’m in The Netherlands. I’m not sure when I can see her again which is actually quite difficult to accept. But I practice what I preach so acceptance it is…and so it inspired me to write this love note today which I recorded as an episode about loneliness…

Mindfully meeting your loneliness can transform feelings of emptiness into possibility.

Back when I was in the thick of my dieting days, I used to envy thin people

I would think to myself, “How daaare you eat a whole pizza and still be thin

Envy like this doesn’t have to be bitter or counterproductive.

Obviously, I had a desire for pizza but I wasn’t letting myself have it because I labeled pizza as bad.

I was creating war between one part of myself (my body’s natural wisdom that asks for what it needs) against another part of myself (my brain’s desire to cling to rules and lose weight).

It’s a losing battle.

Once I finally let go of the food rules and gave myself permission to have

I got to eat pizza when I want pizza, and eat salads when I want salads.

My weight stopped going up and down and finally stabilized.

It started with permission to have whatever my body truly wants – and it

So, what are you envious of?

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Do you ever admire a confident person and wonder how they do it?

That, if I fit the ‘norm’ (which would require building a Frankenstein version of myself from various doll parts) I would feel sexy, be happy, wear jeans without worrying about a muffin top and eat like a normal person.

After fighting against my body for what felt like forever, I realized that accepting your body is something you create for yourself from the inside out.

Did you hear that?

Accepting your body is something you create for yourself from the inside-out.

It’s your attitude, your actions, your swagger and most importantly, it’s a

I use to get sucked into all kinds of beauty products, promising to make miracles happen with my skin, reduce cellulite etc etc.

I didn’t hesitate for a second to spend hundreds of pounds on a skincare regime that my friend recommended.

She said one sentence about how amazing such and such product was, and I immediately nipped into town and spent hundreds of pounds on only a few products that promised better beauty. I didn’t think twice, nor did I bat an eye.

I remember buying my Mum some face cream once and it was like 90 pounds for the smallest pot you’ve ever seen!

I thought this is just what women had to do!

And I know I’m not the only person that takes immediate action on things that bring the promise of better beauty.

This is why diets are sooo seductive. They promise that if you just eat X, Y, and Z, then you will lose 14 pounds in 14 days!

We immediately hop on diet after diet because they promise a thinner body

Despite our best intentions, these diets never work because they completely bypass your psychology and tolerance to discomfort.

While external validation is a powerful motivator, it simply doesn’t work long-term.

So, what if we flipped it around?...

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Wow, this was an epic talk with Gary Lane, psychotherapist and mental health expert. We talked about shame. That paralysing feeling that we all live through but some of us can't escape from. Listen to find out the difference between guilt and shame, what exactly shame is and where it comes from steps to take in order to move through this painful emotion. Visit Gary and his website: www.therealmetherapy.com and on Instagram: @gazzamentalhealth. The book he referenced was: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenburg.

Good question my friend and this is what my clients ask me a lot.

They come to me with the desperate want to stop binge eating but they are still clutching tightly to the hope that the road to recovery will lead to weight loss.

I can’t blame them for wanting this. They’ve desired weight loss for most of their life, hence the reason WHY they’re stuck in the diet binge cycle…

My answer to this question is both yes and no at the same time! 

Whilst we absolutely CAN strive and work towards health and body-related goals, this can only be done successfully AFTER we have learnt how to free ourselves from the dieting mentality which keeps us stuck IN the diet binge cycle.

My clients will tell you I must say the words; ‘This is a PROCESS’ a million times over, and for good reason...

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Gary is a psychotherapist and he works for a therapeutic fostering agency as a therapist. He is also a solution-based coach. He believes the most important part of therapy is the relationship, and that people are the experts on their own experiences. 

We have a deep and emotional conversation around mental health, anxiety, comparison, psychology and a lot more. Gary shares his wisdom on how to deal with anxiety-related conditions. He emphasizes the importance of always going that one step further to find out what is really going on in the brain and with the emotions. 

I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and learnt a lot from it. He will be back soon to talk specifically about shame. I'm excited.

You can find Gary at his website: www.therealmetherapy.com 

and on Instagram: @gazzamentalhealth

Enjoy!

What do you think will be different once you “lose the weight”?

Will you be more loved?

More liked?

More popular?

Take a second and actually answer this for yourself…

Now, how would you feel if you lost weight and those things didn’t happen?

What if you lost weight and your life didn’t get better — instead, it got worse?

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Ever wondered why you can't stop yourself from inhaling your favourite food the second you taste it? Desperately wish you could just quit sugar like Nancy from Instagram?  Then listen to this podcast! Get your free-5 day course to food and body freedom at www.victoriakleinsman.com