The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

What do you wish you could change in your life right now?  Why haven't you been able to make these wanted changes into reality yet?  What do you think you need to do in order to make the changes you desire?  What is in your way of change? The answer to this question is very simple: nothing!  Change is possible for everyone, even you! You know that binge eating that you just wish you could 'stop doing', or that habit you do every morning of constantly snoozing your alarm? Or even the way you always retaliate towards your partner...?  You know what I'm talking about right...?! Of course, you do! So then why can't you 'stop' doing these things?  That is a good question my friend (even though I asked the question, not you but anyhow...) and I'm going to reveal all...

Ever noticed that you find it easier to be compassionate and gentle towards someone else other than towards yourself?

What is it with that...?

Well, you know that little voice that lives in there with you...

Ya know, the one that always has a lot to say...

The one that is a bitch to you most of the time...?

Well, this is the main reason why you find it so difficult to show yourself compassion. Because she judges the hell out of you and others constantly. She scolds you as your parents used to. She tells you that you're never good enough.

She says to you, Try harder. Do it better. You shouldn't have eaten that. Who do you think you are... they won't want to hear what you have to say!

It can be like a war zone in there sometimes, no wonder you are exhausted.

I'm going to share with you 4 mythical beliefs about self-compassion and then 3 ideas on how to create self-compassion for yourself. Because no matter who you are, you are deserving of love and compassion, ESPECIALLY from yourself. Let's dig in shall we...?

Self-confidence - How to not care what other people think!

Imagine being worried about what others think about you all the time, what you look like, what you dress like, what you say.

Imagine constantly being stressed and anxious about future events worrying about what could go wrong.

Imagine not saying or doing exactly what you want because you are so bothered about what other people might think or say...

Imagine always being busy with wondering if people like you or if they are being 'off' with you.

Imagine analysing the time you spent with friends or work colleagues to make sure that you were funny enough, or whether or not you said the right thing at the right moment... blah blah blah

Sound familiar?

Unfortunately,  this is how most people think and what they deal with on a daily basis. There is another way to live that is the opposite of this and let me tell you, it is SOOO FREEE AND POWERFUL! It basically all boils down to not giving a sh*t about what people think and you doing you!

Easier said than done though right...? Let me help you reach this state of empowerment.

A lovely young lady @bell_fit on Instagram asked me for this episode, follow her if you are looking for fitness inspiration. 

I must have asked myself that question a million times over in my lifetime!

Whether you consider yourself a binge eater or not, at some point in our lives we’ve all emerged from some kind of binge. Perhaps surrounded by beer bottles, sweet wrappers, or shopping bags, and asked ourselves, “What the hell happened?” How can rational, functioning adults totally lose control of their impulses?

Oh gosh, where to begin.  How did liking who we are become an incredibly difficult daily struggle? When did self-criticism become the norm? How did we get here?  I know-how, MARKETING!  Companies have got really good at making us feel like something is missing. If we just buy their product, we will feel whole!  So the economy has boomed and our self-esteem has gone in the toilet.  Especially for women, we typically make the majority of buying decisions. We choose one brand of detergent over another. We choose one brand of toothpaste, peanut butter, and toilet paper and we stick to it!  If that sounds sexist, it’s not supposed to. It’s just true that women are doing more shopping than men when it comes to household items. Personally, I love buying new shampoo, toothpaste (why do I keep using toothpaste as an example?) and deodorant.  Billions of pounds/euros/dollars are spent on convincing us something needs to change. Something can be improved, we can be a little bit happier if we’re a little bit prettier and slimmer.  So it makes sense that it takes intentional effort to undo all the damage those messages cause on a daily basis.  Here’s how I would begin if I had to start my journey to body confidence all over again.

What the heck do I mean by this statement, The Amazon universe!..?! Well, I am talking about the Law of Attraction here which I talk quite a lot about. But there is a reason for this, it's so freaking amazing and it totally works!

The universe is like a huge Amazon catalogue, you can order what you want.

The hardest part is letting it come true for you because this takes challenging your inner beliefs which is hard as hell and having faith in the universe, a higher power, energy vibration or all 3. Here are the steps that you take to work with the Law of Attraction...

I decided to write this article after experiencing a hypnotherapy session where I visited my inner child. As a child, when I was around maybe 5, I remember crying myself to sleep at night because I was petrified of dying. I am not sure where this came from but it has left me pondering death the last few days so I thought I would share my thoughts with you. One of the best teachers in all of life turns out to be death

No person or situation can ever teach you as much as death has to teach you. Whilst someone can tell you that. you are not your body, death shows you. Whilst someone can remind you of the insignificance of the things that you cling to, death takes them all away in a second. Whilst people can teach you that all men and women are equal and that there is no difference between the rich and the poor, death instantly makes us the same. The question is:

"Are you going to wait until that last moment to let death be your teacher?"

So this episode idea came to me from someone reaching out to me and asking a question. The question was;

"Why do some food freedom accounts support eating whatever / whenever and eating as much as it as you want? Will this get me to my body goals?"

So this is a great question! I am going to share with you my story to food freedom and then what worked for me to find balance with food so that I could work towards my health goals whilst at the same time staying sane.

9 times out of 10 my clients and others that I talk to in my field of expertise want help with losing weight. My question to them is, "What has been stopping you from losing the weight so far and WHY do you want to lose weight." The answers I get are very similar and not surprisingly, I have been in this place  SO many times before that I have lost count. So the typical answer is: "I don't know why I can't stick to anything. I have no willpower. I always seem to self-sabotage."

As soon as you focus on how much you desperately want and need to lose weight and then put in place all of these regimented routines in an attempt to achieve this, it feels like you are constantly fighting against something... mainly yourself. You then end up binge eating, most of the time on purpose because you are ultimately saying 'screw you' to the diet police (which is you by the way!)

There is a way to overcome this, let me explain...