The Feminist Dating Show

Happy New Year, gorgeous friend! Today, Lily is bringing you an episode all about creating an intentional dating life that feels like self-care and leads to extraordinary love. More specifically, she is sharing how to even start.

Whether you've never gone on a date in your life, been in a romantic relationship, ended a long-term relationship or haven't dated very much, this episode will support you in starting your next dating chapter with power, confidence, and self-compassion.

Be sure to have your favorite note-taking tools handy as you listen. This episode has practical steps to help you attract a soul-quenching partnership and feel amazing about yourself along the way.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Notice what assumptions you're having about yourself, your decision-making, and how you're feeling. Be a loving witness.
• Get in the driver's seat of NOTICING
• Claim your essence-based preferences
• Start playing and ask for what you want

Links:The Brazen Breakthrough 121. Dating apps: Ask me anything124. The "Thank You, More, Please!" Challenge 135. How to create your essence-based preferences Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/where-do-i-even-start

This episode has been a long time in the making. It's all about how to claim your essence-based preferences. Lily is taking you on a deep dive into what essence-based preferences are, how they are helpful to your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode that you're going to want to listen to time and again!

Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode:

• How do you know if you're being too "rigid"
• Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want
• Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary

Links:The Brazen Breakthrough Brazen Coaching Party + Brazen Breakthrough Info SessionEpisode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/essence-based-preferences

Today we're going to be talking about the question, "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?" Lily shares some of her hot takes on this topic, including the productivity myth about dating, a reminder to practice self-compassion, and encouragement to try something else if pushing yourself hasn't worked thus far. This episode is full of massive permission and inspiration to be bold as hell in your love life and beyond.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• You don't have to go on dates RIGHT NOW to find an amazing relationship
• Productivity in dating prioritizes performing over caring for your body and nervous system
• When you stop to care for your nervous system, you will be more in alignment with higher decision-making AND better dates
• If you want to feel cared for in your love life, give that care to yourself

Links: The Brazen Breakthrough Course

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Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-can-i-stop-being-lazy

Here's my step-by-step guide to asking someone to be exclusive. Because you deserve clarity and it's time to be courageous!

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In this episode, Lily is sharing a resource straight from the Brazen Breakthrough vault, called The Pre-swiping Meditation! It's a meditation she created for Brazen Breakthrough clients to help them get centered before swiping, searching, or going on a date.

If you feel dread, confusion, anxiety, or any number of emotions when it comes to your dating life, this meditation aims to support you before you ever open a dating app or go on a date. It creates a safe place for you to land, ground yourself, gain awareness, practice compassion, and move forward with ease.

Our hope is that this meditation helps you gain alignment and insight before you do anything in your dating life. Bookmark this episode so that you can keep coming back to it again and again, anytime you feel the pull to do so.

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Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/before-you-swipe-try-this-meditation

This week, Lily talks about how to call upon your friends for help in your dating life. Perhaps, tactically, your friends don't know what to do and you've been too afraid to ask them for assistance. In this episode, Lily shares a how-to guide all about how to engage your friends so they can effectively help you. Our hope is that this episode encourages you to look upon your deepest desires and say, "I am open to creative solutions."

Hot-takes and how-to's from this episode:

• How to determine your essence-based preferences

• How to have hard conversations and set boundaries with your friends all while engaging them for help

• Hot-take: You are not asking for a lot, you are asking for what you want.

Links and resources:

The Brazen Breakthrough Course Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler

This week's episode is a re-air from last year's holiday season! Lily covers in-depth your holiday dating anxieties, including what to do when they bubble up to the surface and how to move through them. Please, she talks about how to respond to nosey dating questions from family or friends. Lily created this episode to offer you some support and normalize your experience during the holidays and beyond.

Links and resources:

The Brazen Breakthrough Course

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Show notes:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-move-through-your-holiday-dating-anxiety

This week Lily welcomes Blake Blankenbecler to talk about creating, building, and maintaining friendships in today's world. Blake believes that life is meant to be lived in connection and helps friends have more meaningful conversations and create more sustainable friendships.

Blake recently released The Friendship Deck, a conversation game for friends who are craving more depth and intimacy with each other that can be purchased at www.thefriendshipdeck.com You can also find her on Instagram @blakeblankenbecler and TikTok at @blakeblankenbecler.lpc

Hot-takes and how-to's covered in this episode:

• Lily and Blake share their definition of the phrase "better friendships"

• The feeling of abandonment and isolation in friendships is very intense

• Having honest communication with your friends

• Grieving friends or friendships you need to move on from versus deciding who getes to be in your friendship circle

• How to build new friendships as an adult: "The goal at the beginning is not to find a new best friend, the goal is to just show up."

• Having an "exhale" friend versus a best friend

Links and resources:

Friendship DeckBlake on Instagram @blakeblankenbecler Blake on TikTok @blakeblankenbecler.lpc Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen Date Brazen on TikTok @datebrazen

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/exhale-friendships-with-blake-blankenbecler

Lily welcomes three incredible humans to the podcast! Christine, Diana, and Trish were part of the in-person Main Character Energy retreat. In this episode, they join Lily to talk about what it was like to step fully into their main character energy within a room full of peers and share what it was like to own their power. We hope this episode inspires you to step into your main character energy in this season of your life.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• The benefits of doing this work in a community: A community provides encouragement around reimagining what your love life can look like
• "I can trust myself to make mistakes and not worry that it's not going to work out."
• "Dating can feel isolating, but as the main character, you do have a supporting cast."
• Enjoy the moment and acknowledge you are exactly where you want to be.

Links and resources: Follow Date Brazen on InstagramFollow Date Brazen on TikTok

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/bts-main-character-energy-in-person-retreat

In this week's episode, Lily addresses some of the questions you don't say out loud and helps you to unpack them. Questions like, "Did I miss the boat? Am I too late?" or "Is all of this work really worth it?" When you gently bring awareness to your innermost thoughts and feelings, you can begin to move forward with self-compassion, emotional safety, and courage.

Some of the questions that are addressed in this episode include:

• How do I even start my dating life? I feel like I am late to the party.
• When is it too late to keep trying? I am 50, single, and never married.
• Will the type of person I'm attracted to be attracted to me?

Links and resources:The Brazen Breakthrough CourseFollow Date Brazen on InstagramFollow Date Brazen on TikTok