The Feminist Dating Show

This week's episode is all about feelings. Lily talks about how you can feel your way through any of your feelings, why it's important to do so, and how it is going to change your life, especially your love life.

This episode is a practical guide for feeling your emotions, even the hard ones. Our hope is that this episode will shift the relationship you have with yourself in a juicy way.

Some hot takes from this episode:

• Feelings are a bodily function, feeling them does not mean you'll get stuck in them, feeling them is a means for moving them through your body (7:15)

• You are not going to miss out on life when you slow down to practice self-compassion or feel your feelings - you are going to experience a more meaningful depth of life (15:53)

• How to actually practice feeling your feelings with emotional safety (25:49)

Links and resources:

• 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care

• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram

• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

• 6: How to curb your freak out with self-compassion with Megan Saxelby

• 69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol

• Kristen Neff and self-compassion

• The Feelings Wheel

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/feel-your-feelings-when-rejected/

Today we are bringing you a dating app ask me anything episode! Lily is going to share all of her dating app hot-takes with you. This episode was inspired by a survey posted on her Instagram account (@datebrazen). She received over 300 responses with your questions and thoughts about all things dating. We hope you enjoy the episode!

Some of the questions answered include:

• "It seems impossible to meet anyone in the wild. Help!"

• "How do you get someone to talk to you?!?!"

• "What do I do when I am asking qualifying/disqualifying questions and the response I get is simply, 'You're pretty.'" 🤨

• "How honest should we be on our profiles? Should we try to be witty or flirty?"

• "How do I respond to my family about why I don't use dating apps?"

• "Are apps better for queer or straight relationships?"

• "Can Tinder be used for finding long-term partners and not hook-ups?"

Links and resources:

• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram

• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

• 58. How Maddie built a dating action plan and found love

• 75. Stephanie's radical transformation (and the long-term impact of the Brazen Breakthrough)

• 114. Brazen Client Story: Jenny's Self-Compassion Journey

• 113. Brazen Client Party: How Kate and Julianne stepped into their best "Hell, Yes!"

• 115. Brazen Client Story: How Emily Lived Her Self-Worth and Main Character Energy

• Las Culturistas

Show notes:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-ama/

Lily is bringing you another AMA (ask me anything) episode this week! The Date Brazen community has grown by thousands over the last month with members joining us from TikTok and Instagram. Lily loves hearing from everyone! She is taking the time to answer more of your questions about mindset work and your dating life.

The intention of Date Brazen is to provide tools for change and encouragement to integrate what feels good for you - in your love life and beyond.

Questions answered in this episode include:

• How do you regulate your nervous system when dating?
• How long does it take you to start a mindset change once you start working together on the Date Brazen journey?
• I am viewing dating apps as the only way to meet people. How do I reframe my mindset?
• How do I not let my fear of rejection in dating spill over into rejection in a professional setting?
• I am almost 30 and never dated. How do I get started?

Links and resources:

• 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care
• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
• Burnout, by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA

Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/ama-dating-mindset-edition

The Queer Confidence Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) joins Lily on the podcast this week! We are obsessed with what Alex is putting out into the world and excited to share the conversation. Lily talks to Alex about how LGBTQ+ individuals can create their own universe complete with confidence and freedom; and can step into their next powerful phase of life. Join us for this amazing episode!

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Stepping into both your divine masculine and divine feminine energy (2:50)
• Unpacking the stories that have shaped our confidence (12:39)
• Owning your sexual liberation and agency as a member of the queer community (18:57)
• Alex shares some of her favorite clients' breakthroughs about self-permission (27:46)
• Confidence means allowing discomfort and having your own back (31:05)

Links and resources:

• Alex Ray's website
• Follow Alex on Instagram
• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
• The Queer Confidence Podcast

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/a-conversation-about-confidence-with-alex-ray

I'm answering all your questions in this AMA

Questions like:

- Is it intuition or fear?

- Do I DM a guy I met last year??

- How to approach people IRL

- How to create Qualifying and Disqualifying questions.

All will be answered in this episode:)

We are getting vulnerable on the podcast this week. Dr. Juliana Hauser returns to the show to talk more about sexual agency. After Dr. Juliana's last podcast appearance, Lily participated in Revealed, Juliana's program about sexual agency in a community setting. This episode is an opportunity to be in the room while Lily talks to her coach about what it was like to dive deep into the experience of sexual agency, what it is, and how it can affect your life.

"When you get to reclaim who you are, excavating your story and understanding it on your own terms, then you really gain a different level of confidence in knowing who you are; so that you can make decisions with purpose, intention, and agency moving forward." Dr. Juliana Hauser

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Dr. Juliana and Lily share their experiences about being a part of each other's work (4:31)

• Excavating your stories and how doing so encourages owning your sexual agency (9:55)

• The first place to be in discomfort is with curiosity (14:15)

• Lily shares the most powerful lessons learned from her time in Revealed (16:49)

• All of the fears that came up for Lily when doing work toward sexual agency (23:31)

• What is the value of knowing your sexuality and understanding your sexual story? (26:13)

• Agency is the headliner of the essence of who we are (29:17)

Links and resources:

• Limited Spots Available for the Main Energy Mastermind - Apply Today!

• Dr. Juliana's website

• Dr. Juliana on Instagram

• 80. Reclaiming your sexual agency with Dr. Juliana Hauser

• Date Brazen on Instagram

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/a-conversation-about-sexual-agency/

Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

Follow Date Brazen on Instagram

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We've been talking a lot about main character energy around here. What is it? Having main character energy means taking center stage in your life, owning what you want, and asking for it out loud. This week client Emily is on the show to share how she embodied the spirit of main character energy when she went through a Date Brazen program and shares how she was able to master self-worth in all areas of her life.

If you are interested in learning how to become the center of your permission-filled, self-trust-fueled, bold-as-hell love story, apply for the Main Character Energy Mastermind today.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• How Date Brazen taught Emily to understand her worth is NOT related to whether she was in a relationship or not (5:45)

• Emily's desire to be in community to work on her dating life (12:33)

• What it looks like to get in your own way around dating (25:40)

• Healing from past relationships and learning to move forward with courage, self-worth, and honesty (28:04)

Links and resources:

• Apply for the Main Energy Mastermind!
• Date Brazen on Instagram

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/emilys-self-worth-and-main-character-energy/

This week, Date Brazen client Jenny is on the podcast. Jenny embodies main character's energy in a beautiful way. In this episode, she shares what it felt like to bet on herself (and her dating life), embrace self-trust, and practice self-compassion.

We hope you are loving the stories from women who are taking massive courageous action to become the center of their permission-filled, self-trust-fueled, bold-as-hell love story.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Practicing self-compassion in a space of learning and growing (5:33)

• Jenny shares about the bad dating advice she bought into including the number game and using dating apps. Hot-take: If you don't know another way of dating, you'll continue to follow the advice that doesn't feel intentional (9:12)

• Why Lily thinks dating is a portal to greater well-being (10:05)

• The ripple effects of working with an intersectional feminist dating coach (20:13)

Links and resources:

• Apply for the Main Energy Mastermind!

• Date Brazen on Instagram

• Kristen Neff

Show notes:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/jennys-self-compassion-journey/

This week, we are continuing the podcast series which showcases women who are embodying their main character energy. Last week we heard from Maggie and this time, we welcome Kate and Julianne to the show. They share how they stepped into their best, "Hell, yes!" and learned to practice radical self-trust.

If you've listened to the podcast recently, you know there are big shifts happening here at Date Brazen. Kate and Julianne were a direct influence on the energetic shift so the work we do is deeper and more impactful in all areas of life.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Julianne shares her story of why she felt the need to find a new approach to her love life (2:09)
• Kate opens up about why she began working with Lily, to "figure out why dating sucks"
• What it's like to be a feminist woman who wants a relationship (6:06)
• Being secure in yourself for not settling and living your authentic life is a radical act of self-care (28:00)
• What self-trust looks like for Kate and Julianne now that they have embraced this new way of approaching their love lives (50:57)

Links and resources:

• Date Brazen on Instagram
• 111. Big vulnerable exciting news (aka what self-trust will do)
• 112. Brazen Client Story: Maddie's Main Character Energy
• Date Brazen on Instagram

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/stepping-into-your-best-hell-yes