The Feminist Dating Show

Over the last few weeks, we've re-aired episodes that covered the three pillars of Main Character Energy. This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to courageous action.

In this episode, Lily shares how you can go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to courageous action. It all starts with the question that you need to ask yourself to define meaningful success and begin to root out scarcity thinking. Tune in to hear more. Stay tuned: Lily will return with new episodes in November!

Download The Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-Care: https://date-brazen.ck.page/c651f5218e

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/badass-dating-action-plan

Over the next few weeks, we're re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy, while Lily recuperates from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat! This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to self-trust.

In this episode, Lily shares strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life. Self-trust is built in small steps. There is no "arrived" point, there is only the next stop. Yes, you are whole right now. But there is still growth to be had.

Brazen Breakthrough Course: https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/brazen-breakthrough-course-sales-page

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/giving-yourself-permission-to-trust-what-you-desire

Over the next few weeks, we're re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy: Permission, Self-Trust, and Courageous Action. While Lily is recuperating and re-charging from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat; we thought this would be a perfect time to share some episodes from the Date Brazen podcast vault!

This week's episode focuses on permission and boundaries. You'll hear the dating boundaries Lily recommends as well as learn how to craft boundaries to invite in more self-care, how to protect your heart, and find people who are right for you.

Brazen Breakthrough Course: https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/brazen-breakthrough-course-sales-page

Show Notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/boundaries-for-abundance-in-your-dating-life

"Will I die alone?" This might be a question you've thought about but were too afraid to say out loud. Or, if you did say it, a well-meaning friend has replied, "No, you won't!" Today, Lily addresses this question and helps you unpack it so you can come out to the other side feeling more compassionate and connected to yourself. When you ask, "Will I just die alone?" you negate the magic, unknown, and awesomeness that is in store for you. Tune in to hear more!

Episode hot-takes:

• A thought is not a fact
• Step off the mental see-saw with self-compassion and feel your feelings
• Unpack why you are afraid of dying alone
• Lily provides strategies to help neutralize the question, "Will I die alone?"

Links and resources:

The Brazen Breakthrough Course69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol

Show notes: https://datebrazen.com/blog/will-i-just-die-alone

Danielle Prescod is on the podcast this week. She is the author of, "Token Black Girl," and co-founder of 2BG Consulting, which offers anti-racism seminars and resources with the aim of fixing the fashion industry. This week, Danielle joins Lily in a conversation about writing her memoir, the trap of perfectionism, and the role white supremacy plays in the pursuit of perfectionism in love and in life.

Links:Danielle's new book! Danielle's websiteDanielle on TikTok Talking Body Image, Diet Culture, and Your Dating Life with Chrissy King Date Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/releasing-perfectionism-with-danielle-prescod

We have two bad-ass podcasters and thought-leaders on the show this week. Nicci Nunez and Alex Stewart, hosts of the Swipe Fat podcast, join Lily for a conversation about dating as a plus-sized woman. In this episode, they talk about their recent decision to take a dating app detox, share the story of how they became friends and then podcast hosts, and talk about life as plus-sized women in the dating world.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Thin privilege in dating versus overcompensating in other areas because you are plus-sized
• Creating a safe space with other plus-sized women at Swipe Fat events
• You can't be right for everybody, all of the time
• What self-care looks like in the midst of difficult times
• Alex and Nicci's decision to take a dating app detox, why it felt difficult and, yet, important to do

Links and Resources:Swipe Fat Podcast Swipe Fat on InstagramSwipe Fat at TikTok Alex on Instagram Nicci on InstagramDate Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTokSwipe Fat Podcast Community on FacebookSwipe Fat on Patreon

This week's episode is all about the "Thank you, more, please!" challenge. This challenge is a powerful tool for those of us who were taught, "What you want, does not exist." Listen in as Lily dares you to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist, in your love life, in your professional life, and beyond. Tune into this short episode to hear how to implement this challenge into your life, today.

Links and resources:

• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

Show notes: https://datebrazen.com/blog/thank-you-more-please

Chrissy King is on the podcast this week! She is an author and the Creator of The Body Liberation Project. In this episode, we talk all about body image, diet culture, and your dating life. Chrissy has a new book coming out called The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom, which we discuss too.

Chrissy shares some of the ways she empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. This is an amazing conversation and we are thrilled to be able to share it with you today!

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Chrissy shares her experience going from yo-yo dieting to re-evaluating her relationship with her body

• The work of body liberation is never done, it is a lifelong journey

• Shrinking into a space that doesn't feel built for you versus taking up space

• There is a real distinction between having body issues versus having a body that causes systemic oppression in the world

• Practicing compassion, kindness, and grace in your body

• We talk about mindset and dating while being in a bigger body

• Decolonizing fitness: What Chrissy would like women of color to know and what she would like white women to know about effective allyship

Links and resources:

How the Hell to Meet Someone In-Person Workshop is THIS Thursday!

Pre-Order Chrissy's Book, The Body Liberation Project HERE for our Main Character Energy Bookclub!

Chrissy's Website

Chrissy's Instagram

The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, Sabrina Strings

About Chrissy:

Chrissy King is a Writer, Speaker, Fitness and Strength Coach, and Creator of The Body Liberation Project. She has a passion for creating a diverse and inclusive wellness industry. She empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. Her book, The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom-- MARCH 14, 2023

In this workshop, I'm going to give you my playbook to ditch the dating app and start meeting awesome people in-person!

The tickets are donation based, and 100% of the proceeds go to local abortion funds in the U.S.

Get your ticket right HERE!

Thursday, Sept 8th, 2022

6pm EST

See you there!

Today we are throwing it back to Episode Four of the Date Brazen Podcast. Why? Because it's all about in-person dating. The episode featured a coaching session with Date Brazen client, Amelia, who didn't want to use dating apps anymore. Sound familiar? We thought so and that is why we decided to re-air it! Lily and Amelia talk about how to start dating in person, what that might look and feel like, and also explore what fears come up - yes, all of that juicy stuff. You don't want to miss this one!

Hot takes from this episode:

• Why it's okay (and sometimes healthy) to not be on a dating app - these apps can be distracting, discouraging, and depleting
• Lily gives Amelia some tools to listen to her intuition, which can be a revolutionary act in a world that tells women how to behave, especially in dating.
• Dating confidence is built in person - being brave enough to engage with someone you find attractive and start a conversation is a challenge

Links and resources:

• ALL NEW - Coming Sept 9th, 2022!!! How the Hell To Meet Someone In Person. Get your tickets here!
• Show notes with resources and links
• Download The Friendly Guide to Setting You Up
• Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
• Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-four/