The Gender Knot

The author of hit book ‘The subtle art of not giving a fuck’ talks to Dan about how pornography and the way it’s impacted men’s interest in sex, and tips on how to have more fulfilling sex. Also check out Mark’s upcoming book ‘Everything is fucked’ and his speaking tour by heading over to https://markmanson.net/speaking-tour

Dan and Nas also have a quick talk about expectations on women due to the increasing use of pornography. We’d love your experiences and to talk about this topic more so please write to us at [email protected]

Guest:
Mark Manson, author https://markmanson.net/

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Kasia Urbaniak’s masterclass at The School of Life in London on June 22nd 2019, get tickets here https://www.theschooloflife.com/london/classroom/a-masterclass-with-kasia-urbaniak-ruben-flores/

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This episode we discuss the line between courting someone and stalking. What can often start off as something innocent looking can very easily turn into a frightening situation. Laura Mucha, author of the book Love Factually, joins us to discuss this and more!

For help with stalkers, abuse, etc visit www.thehotline.org in the US, or https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/ in the UK.

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

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Welcome to Season 5! We’ve re-branded the podcast, and going to be focusing on trying to get men and women to get along. We chat about this new direction a little and catch up on some of your mail from over the hiatus period.

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!
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Write to us at: [email protected]

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All female episode this week, Nas and Sam chat about self care and ask if it’s bullshit. Self care has become very popular among women, especially on Instagram. Does self care empower women to take care of themselves or is it just another thing to add to our to-do lists and stress us out even more?

We are on hiatus until 15th April, when we’ll be back with a new season.

Sponsor:
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Hosts and producers:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Sam Baker

Additional links:
Buzzfeed article: ‘How Millennials became the burnout generation’ by Anne Helen Peterson https://bit.ly/2YAAIfi

Nas’ BBC documentary about women and wellness https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3cswrkn

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As a man, who do you talk to about sex? What about feelings? How about everything else? This week Dan and Jonny are hosting a Men Only episode with guest German Villegas to discuss who men can talk to about what’s going on in their lives. And yes, we make sure to plug mens groups! Be sure to check out German’s podcast Modern Manhood https://modernmanhood.org/ and his organization Next Gen Men https://nextgenmen.ca -- Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season.

Sponsor:
Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot

Hosted by:
Daniel Carroll and Jonathan Blackwell

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!
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Write to us at: [email protected]

The Gender Knot podcast
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So, you’ve hurt someone or done something bad and want to make amends? We run through our experiences on the best ways to do this. We also revisit last week’s topic of emotional labour and hear from our audience on what is a very messy, very difficult and very real dilemma. Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season. We'll be back in 3 weeks with a mini-episode.

Sponsor:
Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Interview about emotional labour with Arlie Hochschild in The Atlantic https://bit.ly/2DPkpUd

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What exactly is emotional labour? Nas talks about it all the time, Dan is still unclear about what it is, so he speaks to Gemma Hartley, Author of ‘Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward’, to find out more.

Guest:
Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward http://www.gemmahartley.com/

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:

Sign up to our newsletter via our contact page https://www.thegenderknot.com/contact/

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Last week we talked about the importance of men being allies even if they haven’t been perfect in their behaviour towards women, but is there a line to this?

Today’s guest tells us of a time he was called out and ended up having to question his role as an ally to women, and we hear from author and educator Jackson Katz on this dilemma.

Guests:

Omar Aziz, co-host of The Samovar Network podcast http://www.thesamovarnetwork.com/podcast/

Jackson Katz, author and educator, TED talk on 'Violence against women, it's a men's issue' https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue?language=en

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Write to us at: [email protected]

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
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https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

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We brainstorm a list of things men can do to be allies to women, and how women can best encourage men trying to be allies. And we want to hear from you on what has or hasn’t worked in your own lives.

Sponsor:
Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Write to us at: [email protected]

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
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White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism https://robindiangelo.com/ and New Yorker essay https://bit.ly/2JNOEdj

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Why are meltdowns gendered? Do we ever talk of men having meltdowns? If not then why not, and what does this mean about our expectations of how women and men can express themselves? We get some help from our friends at the hit podcast A Gay and a NonGay to figure this out.

We’re off to rest over the festive season and will be back on 7th January 2019 – speak to you then.

Guests:
A Gay and a NonGay podcast hosts James Barr and Dan Hudson
http://www.gaynongay.com/

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

The Gender Knot podcast
https://www.thegenderknot.com/

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