The Gender Knot

Nas often feels like she’s walking on eggshells on this show; she has to be honest with men but also keep them engaged and not annoy them so much that they tune out of the show, and these conversations, altogether. Dan and Nas try to figure out this delicate balance.

We also hear more from Kasia Urbaniak, the former Taoist Nun, former Dominatrix and women’s power coach who told us how women can ask for what they want a few weeks ago. Kasia fills us in on the ways in which women silence each other in a bid to survive and how telling a man the truth is an act of love.

Guest: Kasia Urbaniak , women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academy https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/

Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host: Daniel Carroll

Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Former Gender Knot episode: How can men best help feminism? https://radiopublic.com/the-gender-knot-Wk23py/ep/s1!b623b

White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism https://robindiangelo.com/ and New Yorker essay https://bit.ly/2JNOEdj

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You’ll have noticed we’ve been changing the direction of the podcast over the past few weeks, with there being fewer abstract explorations of ideas and more delving into the nitty gritty of how men and women can actually better relate in these confusing times.

As such we’ll have having more audience participation, so send us your thoughts.

Men’s coach David Lion helps us to help an audience member with a dilemma, and tells us about his online summit called Evolving Men, which is all about helping men figure out how to live more wholeheartedly. The summit features exclusive talks from 25 expert men and runs until 8th December.

And we also delve back into the topic that keeps on coming up: disenfranchised men.

Guest:
David Lion, men’s coach and founder of the Evolving Men online summit, running until 8th Dec 2018
https://summit.evolving-men.com/

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Write to us at: [email protected]

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

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Porn is pervasive in today's internet culture. But does the typical male gaze leave women out of the viewing audience? And what does this one-way perspective do to our real-life sexual and personal relationships? 

As Nas and Dan take a break this week, co-producers Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell tackle the subject of porn and real world sex and how we can make online content for everyone. We talk to sextech entrepreneur and pioneer, Cindy Gallop from MakeLoveNotPorn and education and psychology lecturer, Sam Carr, from the University of Bath

Guests: 

Cindy Gallop, Consultant & Founder/CEO of Make Love Not Porn https://makelovenotporn.tv/

Sam Carr, Senior Lecturer in Education and Director of Studies for Education with Psychology, Department of Education, University of Bath, UK https://theconversation.com/profiles/sam-carr-156110/articles

Hosts and co-producers: Sam Baker & Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links: Patreon page – [support the podcast](https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot) for the cost of a latte!

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Our listeners are annoyed! Many of you were unhappy with our take on disenfranchised men last week after we interviewed former New York Times reporter and author Andrew Yarrow, who has written Man Out about men on the sidelines of American society.

We read out some of your emails and invite one of our audience members to figure out: what do we do about disenfranchised men? Should we do anything at all, and exactly who should be getting involved?

Guest:
Alex, listener of the podcast

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

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Former New York Times journalist Andrew Yarrow joins us to talk about why so many men in America feel disenfranchised, and how this is impacting everyone else.

Men around the world have seen their position shift drastically over the past few decades. Some of the key reasons given include the rise of women and big changes in the global economy, leading to some of the political unrest and upheavals of the past decade. So, what do we do with disenfranchised men?

Guest:
Andrew Yarrow, journalist and author of ‘Man Out: Men on the sidelines of American life’
https://www.andrewlyarrow.com/

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

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A few weeks ago Dan tried to convince us that the stereotype of men having commitment issues was exaggerated and false, and he made a good case for this. But Nas was still left wondering where these assumptions come from and realized that Dan had evaded the key issues entirely! So this week we come back for a second round to delve in further.

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

Sponsor:
E-squared Fitness – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.
https://www.esq2.com/

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It’s a year since allegations against Harvey Weinstein broke, leading to a real opening of conversation about sexual harassment and assault against women, be it at the hands of powerful men or in day to day life.

We speak to a Hollywood insider about the situations and we also dig into the mixed messages men have been getting over the past year: what exactly do women want from men during these sensitive but important times?

Guest:
Steph, works in the film and entertainment industry in Hollywood

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

BBC documentary on why women have taken to wellness, mentioned in the episode https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3cswrkn

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Hit podcast Slow Burn just spent their second season looking at the saga around Bill Clinton’s impeachment. They revisited Bill Clinton’s affair with then 22-year old unpaid intern Monica Lewinsky, and looked at the varied reactions from feminists, as well as Juanita Broderick’s allegations that the president had raped her.

The season went out at while Brett Kavanaugh’s senate confirmation hearings were happening, which made for especially timely and important listening, and allowed the audience to compare current events to those of the recent past, with often some of the same politicians and political operatives being involved in both situations.

We wanted to know about how making this season affected Leon’s own perceptions of gender in US politics, and how he looks back on President Clinton as a result.

Guest:
Leon Neyfakh, host of the podcast Slow Burn and journalist https://slate.com/slow-burn

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

Sponsor:
E-squared Fitness – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.
https://www.esq2.com/

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Former dominatrix and Taoist nun Kasia Urbaniak teaches women about power and influence at her school The Academy.

She walks us through this unique time where women are finally speaking openly and honestly and expressing their rage, and how we can best get men and women to support each other through the necessary but transformative mess ahead.

Guest:
Kasia Urbaniak, women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academy
https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!
https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot

Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot

The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group
https://www.thegenderknot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/

Sponsor:
E-squared Fitnes – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.
https://www.esq2.com/

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The love, sex and relationship guru and host of the Savage Lovecast gives us his thoughts and tips!

Note: this episode is very Not Safe For Work – save for later if that’s relevant!

Also, co-host Jonathan Freeman is leaving us and signs off!

Finally, The Gender Knot is on hiatus until 15th October. We’ll be back with a new season then.

Guest:
Dan Savage, sex and relationship advice columnist and Savage Lovecast host

Host and producer:
Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Co-host:
Jonathan Freeman

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic
The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group

Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)