The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Trusting Yourself, Intuition, True Liberation, Self Love, Authenticity, Transformation

Summary: 

Comin’ at ya with a quick espresso shot of love on embracing change and trusting our internal guidance system. I hope my reflections inspire you to gain insight into your own circumstances and ways of being in the world.

Discover:

Why you need to trust yourself when you say yes to change 

How we’re being asked to orient ourselves from intellectual/logical to intuitive/heart centered 

True liberation and how can we find it

00:00 Intro 

00:17 Trust your intuition

03:00 True liberation

03:49 Orient through your sensations

05:37 Start asking the right questions

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Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict

Summary: 

Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship. 

In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart. 

Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below!

Discover:

Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to

How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships

The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners

The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships 

The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples

00:00 Intro 

02:12 How we have historically approached couples work

06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture

10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen

18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer

25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships

26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently

29:56 The power of fear

34:54 The struggle is normal

41:47 Ways to ask for what you want

48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do

50:35 The Developmental Mountain

57:32 The Relationship Reset

Links:

Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50

Website: www.nicksolaczek.com

Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick

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Themes: Relationships, Connection, Health, Mental Health, Transformation, Belonging, Purpose

Summary: 

Today I’m nerding out with Dr. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) who teaches meditation worldwide.

In this episode, we explore Dr. Waldinger’s fascinating research on what makes a “good life” based on the longest study of adult life that has ever been done - the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He shares his insights on the power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health, practical tips for improving our happiness, and how to create and nurture thriving relationships. This is a pod you won’t want to miss!

Discover:

The power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health

The types of relationships we need to thrive

The impact of conflict and how to use it to nurture relationships

How to improve the quality of our relationships

Ways to build resilience and cope with conflict

00:00 Intro 

01:55 What is the happiness study?

04:34 Relationships help us live longer

09:26 Impacts of life events

11:03 High-conflict relationships

12:27 Stress and the body

14:11 Attachment styles and relationship longevity

17:21 Relationships and the body

19:26 Social fitness

21:20 Be curious

24:30 Stratifying the data

27:42 Effects of the study on participants

31:39 Being in Zen

33:28 Religion and spiritual practice

36:39 Rituals and habits

38:38 Study results and expanding the research

Links:

Website | Harvard Study of Adult Development

Book | The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness

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Themes: Self Worth, Self-Love, Health, Sustainability, Rituals, Human Behaviour, Wellness, Rituals, Purpose

Summary: 

Join me in this captivating, gem-filled conversation with Chervin Jafarieh, founder of Cymbiotika and one of the most respected and influential health experts in the world. Chervin combines studies in Eastern and Western medicine, orthomolecular medicine, epigenetics, physiology, nutrition, detoxification, biodynamic agriculture, and philosophy to wake people up to their highest potential. He is committed to seeking knowledge, revealing the truth, and exercising keen discernment in all areas of life. In this episode, Chervin guides us on an engaging journey that touches all of these topics and opens our eyes to the symbiotic states of being that our minds, bodies, and souls are craving right now.

Discover:

Current energies of the collective of humanity and how it affects our wellbeing

The importance of grounding, hydration, and finding equilibrium for optimal health

Technology today and how it’s affecting the health of our community

The importance of discipline and rituals in achieving wellness, and the value of being part of growth-minded communities

Important foods and supplements and designing a food & fitness system that fits your lifestyle

00:00 Intro 

01:23 Where is humanity at this time?

04:45 Social media is the ultimate paradox of our time

10:28 AI vs. epigenetics

20:02 The internet of eyes - AI and surveillance hidden in plain sight

24:28 Technology’s effect on our health and nature

33:00 The power of discipline

36:11 Programming and energy exchange on a cellular level

39:19 What humans desire most

39:52 Our body is an ecosystem with a specific set of instructions

50:50 The greatest source of addiction

53:02 What we all crave the most

1:02:43 Victim mentality & virtuosity

1:09:19 It’s time to reconnect to our intuition and our body

1:11:08 Practical supplementing of food and vitamins for better health

1:14:31 Tend the garden

1:18:43 Food is a merging of worlds

1:24:50 Follow the synchronicities

Links:

Website | cymbiotika.com - use code GROVES for 15% off sitewide!

Instagram | @chervin333 + @cymbiotika  

TikTok | @realcymbiotika

Podcast | Wake The Fake Up (listen to my episode with Mark here!)

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Themes: Parenting, Ego, Social Media, Child Development

Summary: 

Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Shefali to the podcast. I have been a longtime fan of her work, and as I step into parenthood myself, this episode comes at the perfect time! In it, we dive into concepts from her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and explore the traditional parenting paradigm (and why it’s not working anymore), plus how to develop awareness around your behaviours to foster a deeper connection with your kids.

Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books, The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

Discover:

The traditional parenting paradigm and why it’s not working anymore

Why shifting from control to connection is key in conscious parenting

How to nurture your child’s essence, so they develop resilience and self-worth

Why our children trigger us (hint: it’s about you, not them)

How your past pain influences the way you parent

How social media impacts your child’s self-worth and self-image

How to identify your child’s ego pattern

00:00 Intro 

01:05 The traditional parenting paradigm

05:28 Conscious parenting

11:28 It’s not your kid; it’s you

12:52 Parents are not aware that their love is conditional

16:43 Parenting from ego & parenting as spiritual growth

26:08 Recognizing your ego patterns

28:56 Projecting onto your kids

34:40 The impact of social media on parents and kids

42:37 Repairing parenting mistakes

44:13 Dismantling the ego

48:40 It’s a difficult time to raise children

Links:

Website | drshefali.com

Instagram | @doctorshefali

Book | The Parenting Map

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Themes: Freedom of Speech, Censorship, Social Media, Cancel Culture, Mental Health

Summary: 

Join me for an insightful conversation with Greg Lukianoff: attorney, New York Times best-selling author, and President and CEO of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE). Greg co-authored one of my all-time favourite books, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, with Jonathan Haidt. This New York Times best-seller expands on their September 2015 Atlantic cover story of the same name and is an absolute MUST read. In this episode, we discuss some main themes from the book, including free speech, why it matters, the dangers of censorship, and more.

Discover:

The importance of free speech and why diverse viewpoints are essential for growth, peace and a thriving democracy

The dangers of censorship and why diverse thought, even when offensive, is necessary to develop critical thinking

Why society tends to put someone in a box based on an opinion or belief (and why it’s lazy)

00:00 Intro 

01:09 Why Greg is passionate about free speech

05:10 When is censorship okay?

08:15 Handling pushback to free speech

13:08 Being placed in a box for your beliefs

17:39 Moral certitude

19:54 Free speech and private companies

24:59 The noble lie

27:21 Lack of viewpoint diversity on campuses

29:52 The benefits of free speech

37:40 Disagreement and diverse thought

42:45 Biases in mainstream media

47:31 Conservative = evil?

53:38 Group polarization

56:39 Talking back to the voices in your head

1:00:34 Interpersonal trust

1:02:56 Conflicts and disagreements in relationships

1:08:01 How to be advocates of free speech

Links:

Website | thefire.org

Book | The Coddling of the American Mind

Instagram | @thefireorg

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Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth

Summary: 

I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being.

Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023.

Discover:

How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours

Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing

Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives

How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back

00:00 Intro 

02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today

13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds

18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing

29:23 Examples of origin wounds 

32:35 The belonging wound

36:53 The prioritization wound

45:15 Safety and trust wounds

55:42 How to begin healing 

Links:

Website | viennapharaon.com

Instagram | @mindfulmft

Book | The Origins of You

6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna

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Themes: Career, Purpose, Media, Divorce, Breakups, Parenting

Summary: 

This week I’m honoured to welcome the master mechanic himself, Ant Anstead, to the show. Ant and I met serendipitously a few years back when he took my Breakup Recovery Course, and I’ve been blessed to call him a friend ever since.

Ant is the CEO and co-founder of Radford Motors and is responsible for overseeing the build process of every single bespoke, hand-made vehicle to meet exacting customer specifications. For many years, Ant built bespoke cars for elite clients and collectors all over the world and is best known for hosting car-centric television shows such as Celebrity IOU: Joyride, Radford Returns, For the Love of Cars and Wheeler Dealers, the number one most distributed show on The Discovery Channel. 

Join us as we chat about Ant’s career journey, life (and divorce) in the public eye, parenthood, and more.

Discover:

How Ant transitioned from being a police officer to playing football to building cars

How he turned his passion for cars into a career

His journey into television

How he deals with the media, clickbait and life in the public eye

Ant’s perspective on parenting in the social media generation and his top advice for fathers

00:00 Intro 

02:31 Ant’s police career

11:13 Flipping and building cars

16:05 Turning your passion into a career

21:19 Starring on a television show

27:27 Being in the public eye

31:34 Clickbait & the media

35:02 Getting hate for hosting Wheeler Dealers

43:01 Social media trolls

47:30 Divorce

54:50 Fatherhood

1:03:55 Upcoming works

1:06:48 Radford Racing School

1:12:29 Mark as a father-to-be

Links:

Website | ant-anstead.com + radford.co

Instagram | @ant_anstead + @radfordmotors

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Themes: Boundaries, Regret, Awareness, Appreciation, Self-Love, Victim Mentality, Community

Summary: 

Today I’m comin’ at ya with a short but sweet solo episode and sharing some things I’ve read lately that have blown my mind and brought some newfound awareness to my behaviour. I hope sharing these reflections offers insight into your own circumstances, behaviours and ways of being in the world so we can all move together towards creating a more loving, open, boundaried and secure space!

Discover:

Boundaries: how they’re medicine for both you and those around you

Having reverence and appreciation for new awarenesses instead of feeling shame and regret for past decisions

Saying no (and sitting in the discomfort of a no) in order to make space for your yes

Appreciation for our parents and their struggles

The grief of not having the village

Creating what you crave

00:00 Intro 

00:57 Boundaries

03:17 Awareness and regret

05:50 The tension of our no

08:42 Appreciating our parents

11:05 Medicalization of birth

13:29 Presence

16:49 Removing martyr energy

Links:

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Facebook | @createthelove

ReBloom: Archetypal Trauma Resolution For Personal & Collective Healing by Rachael Maddox

The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller

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Themes: Grief, Loss, Transformation, Resilience, Anger

Summary: 

Today I’m chatting with Dr. Neeta Bhushan, a world-renowned emotional health advocate and expert in the areas of grit and resilience. In this episode, we talk about her new book That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess, embracing the suck, and how to get back up after life inevitably knocks us down.

Neeta has shared her thought leadership on international stages, is the host of her popular podcast The Brave Table, and has authored best-selling books such as Emotional GRIT: 8 Steps to Master Your Emotions, Transform Your Thoughts, and Change Your World. She’s also been featured on Forbes, Entrepreneur, NBC, Verve, Tatler Magazine and more. Talk about a powerhouse!

Discover:

The stoic practice of Amor Fati and how it changed Neeta’s perspective on the hardships she experienced as a young woman

Using the pain of a rock bottom as fuel for transformation

Actionable tools for building resilience

00:00 Intro 

01:09 Neeta’s story of loss and grief

13:30 Finding magic in the mess

18:00 Amor Fati

26:00 Moving beyond the suck

37:20 The pain of a breakup

39:18 Taking action

44:01 Validation 

46:11 Integrating all parts of yourself 

54:03 Big ignite vs. small ignite moments

56:25 Spend time with a child

1:02:25 Healthy anger

Links:

Website | neetabhushan.com

Instagram | @neetabhushan

Book | That Sucked, Now What?

Podcast | The Brave Table

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