The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Anger, Emotions, Mindfulness, Meditation, Breathwork, Self-Awareness

Summary:

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I’ve loved this quote from Viktor E. Frankl for a long time, and it speaks directly to the topic of today’s episode: mindfulness. Tune in as I explore with returning guest Manoj Dias what is possible when we commit to a practice of loving self-awareness. 

Born and raised in the Theravada Buddhist tradition, Manoj Dias is an animated speaker, humble teacher and always a friend. Once tethered to a life of self-management, instead of self-awareness, he now intimately understands what it means to be healed from the inside out. Through mindfulness and meditation, Manoj has helped thousands of people around the world trade mania for pause, so that they may live fearlessly in honor of a happier and more meaningful life. 

Discover:

Mindfulness and how developing a practice can quite literally change your life and relationships

The beauty of anger (and what’s often beneath this emotion)

Meditation as a tool for self-awareness and why we may resist it

Somatic mindfulness and how it can help you become more present and grounded

Breathwork as a powerful tool to cultivate more presence, connection and peace

00:00 Intro

01:38 Reconciling our feelings through wisdom

04:49 Choosing how we react

08:56 Why we continue to operate in unhelpful patterns

11:01 The beauty of anger & what’s often beneath it

20:06 Observing your mind

24:21 Somatic mindfulness

33:41 Developing a mindfulness practice

36:59 Breathwork

Links:

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Instagram | @manojdias_ & @op_e___n

Website | manojdias.com.au

Book | Still Together: Connection through meditation

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Themes: Food Systems, Nutrition, Health, Superfoods, Sovereignty, Environmental Health

Summary:

Join me for an epic chat with Darin Olien: co-host of the Emmy® award-winning docuseries, Down to Earth with Zac Efron, NYT best-selling author, chart-topping podcast host and passionate advocate for human and environmental health. For over 20 years, Darin has traveled the globe in search of ways to holistically heal our society through food, exercise, and mental health and I’m pumped to have had the opportunity to pick his brain in this episode.

Discover:

How Down to Earth with Zac Efron serendipitously came to be

The dire reality and consequences of ultra-processed foods and chemical agriculture

Why we need to return to ancient and indigenous agricultural practices for the health of ourselves and the planet

A strong argument for growing your own food

Darin’s tips for healthy living in a modern world

00:00 Intro

01:38 Down To Earth with Zac Efron

07:07 Hunting superfoods

13:27 Lack of integrity in the food industry

19:54 We’ve divorced nature

30:40 Lab-made foods

37:16 Food switches to make now

43:28 What’s really in your tap water

49:51 Why you should know about Barukas nuts

Links:

Website | darinolien.com & barukas.com

Instagram | @darinolien 

Podcast | The Darin Olien Show

Book | Superlife: The 5 Simple Fixes That Will Make You Healthy, Fit and Eternally Awesome

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Themes: Mental Health, Social Media, Self-Help, Breakups

Summary:

Meet Aaron Albert: my buddy, co-founder and the CEO of Mine'd — a digital platform we co-created to connect you with top emotional wellness experts and community through daily live and on-demand classes. Tune in as we explore the landscape of social media as it pertains to mental health for both consumers and creators, plus our idea to create a different way of orienting towards mental, relational and emotional health challenges.

A former child actor on the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon, Aaron has spent the adult part of his career in the health and wellness space, working with companies to build products and experiences that make people's lives better. As the co-creator of the largest chain of boutique spin studios in Southeast Asia, Absolute Cycle, Aaron was able to merge together two of his personal passions: fitness and motivation. Over the past four years specifically, Aaron really honed in on creating communities and products at multiple consumer, wellness, and tech companies, including Journey Live, Shine Text, Wave Meditation, Sweat with Studio, and Julianne Hough’s KINRGY. 

Discover:

Why we felt it necessary to create a new way for people to engage in mental health content outside of the social media platforms that already exist

Why it’s hard for us to get motivated to take care of our mental health

How we can be narcissistic in our pain when the truth is: you’re not alone!

00:00 Intro

01:00 Impact of the pandemic on mental health

02:33 Why don’t we treat mental health like physical health?

06:10 Mental health content on social media

14:06 People want accessibility

21:32 Heartbreak & the birth of Mine’d 

27:48 Creating authentic content 

34:26 You are not alone

41:05 Narcissism in our pain

43:23 What is Mine’d?

Links:

Check out Mine'd here!

If you’re an expert and interested in joining Mine’d, go here to apply!

Instagram | @doyoumined & @asalbert

LinkedIn | Aaron Albert

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Themes: Health, Nutrition, Diet, Transformation, Mindset

Summary:

This week I’m joined Shawn Stevenson, author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarter and the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. In this episode Shawn shares how he was able to heal himself from chronic illness and turn a dire diagnosis around through simple mindset and nutrition changes.

Shawn is also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S. with millions of listener downloads each year. A graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. Shawn has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, The New York Times, Muscle & Fitness, ABC News, ESPN, and many other major media outlets.

Discover:

How changing his internal narrative from “why me?” to “what can I do?” shifted his mindset and ultimately, his health outcomes

What’s happening in the body when you get a craving

Food as information

Why as a society we are more sick than ever, even though technology is advancing

00:00 Intro

01:17 Writing Eat Smarter

07:00 The link between diet and chronic disease

19:27 From "why me?" to "what can I do?"

23:31 Pain is a great teacher

25:00 Having someone who believes in you

31:43 What is epigenetics?

37:14 Post-ingestive feedback & cravings

40:41 Processed and artificial foods

47:15 Connection between food and relationships

53:47 Food is information

55:47 Eating sacred

1:00:24 Effect of innovation to our health

Links:

Podcast | The Model Health Show

Instagram | @shawnmodel

Book | Eat Smarter

How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind with Bruce Lipton, Ph.D

Sponsors:

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Themes: Entrepreneurship, Career, Transformation, Purpose

Summary:

If you’re a therapist, practitioner, naturopath or healer looking to build your biz online and cultivate more meaning, abundance and freedom in your life, then this episode is for you! Tune in for an insightful conversation with Dan Harrison; former certified financial planner turned course creator and online business mentor who specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership.

Discover:

The beauty of entrepreneurship and starting before you’re ready

The best place you can focus your time and energy as an entrepreneur

Selling the transformation vs. your time

Some of the most common challenges when stepping into entrepreneurship

00:00 Intro

02:14 Soulful Sales

07:25 From sales rep to empowering people

10:37 The beauty of entrepreneurship

21:10 Being of service

25:00 Sell the transformation

32:26 Free vs. paid information

36:52 Biggest challenges in entrepreneurship

43:46 Fall in love with the process

Links:

Book a free 15 minute insight coaching call with Dan here and be sure to mention that I sent you!

Instagram | @thedanharrison

Facebook | Private Practice Rebels

Website | Soulful Sales Co.

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Themes: Perfectionism, Excellence, Career, Authenticity, Self-Compassion, Self-Worth

Summary:

This week I’m pumped to be joined by my good friend, Vitale Buford Hardin who is a top leadership consultant, driver of leadership excellence, and CEO of The Hardin Group, a leadership consulting firm. Tune in as we unpack perfectionism, why it manifests, how it affects us in the workplace and within our relationships, and ultimately how to actually heal from it.

Vitale believes that “who we are is how we lead,” so the real leadership work begins with ourselves. Vitale brings her training and concepts to life in a fun and relatable way, empowering teams and companies to transform the way they work, produce, and relate. She is an iPEC-certified executive coach, trainer, award-winning speaker, and author. Featured in The New York Times, she is the author of the book, Addicted to Perfect, detailing her struggle with perfectionism and how she overcame it. 

Discover:

What perfectionism is and the different ways in which it can manifest

The root cause of perfectionism

The first step in detaching from the need to be perfect

How companies and leaders can actually benefit from addressing and healing perfectionism in the workplace

00:00 Intro

00:46 What is perfectionism?

02:55 Why we chase perfection

05:30 Detaching from perfectionism

07:37 Perfectionism in the workplace

12:06 How it affects innovation

17:47 Are men or women more prone to perfectionism?

21:27 Perfectionism in relationships

28:00 Compassion and perfectionism can’t coexist

30:34 Excellence instead of perfectionism

32:23 Vitale’s struggle with perfectionism

Links:

Book | Addicted to Perfect: A Journey Out of the Grips of Adderall

Website | The Hardin Group

LinkedIn | Vitale Buford Hardin

Sponsors:

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Themes: Self Inquiry, Ego, Liberation, Awareness, Mental Health, Spirituality

Summary:

This week I’m SO excited to be joined by a trailblazer and icon whose work has deeply impacted my life: Byron Katie. Tune in to discover the powerful method of inquiry born directly out of Byron Katie’s experience that allows you to release yourself from suffering and access the wisdom that always exists within you.

In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.

Byron Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, now in a revised edition, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself.

Discover:

Four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light

A powerful way to handle and reframe criticism

A simple tool to identify the cause of your stress and suffering

The profound freedom that comes with questioning and turning around your thoughts

00:00 Intro

00:56 What is “The Work”?

03:48 The four questions

09:05 Ego

13:54 Is it true?

22:19 The world is divided

24:58 Stop thinking

32:07 Self-realization, until it’s lived, has no power

34:12 It’s all perfect

36:04 Defensiveness

39:25 Judge your neighbor worksheet

50:46 Turning around your thoughts

Links:

Instagram | @byron.katie

Facebook | @theworkofbyronkatie

YouTube | @theworkofbk

Podcast | The Work

Worksheet | Judge Your Neighbour

Join her for At Home with BK on Zoom every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday from 9-10 a.m. Pacific Time.

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Themes: Attachment Theory, Conflict, Relationships, Intimacy, Parenthood

Summary:

Today I’m joined by John Kim and Vanessa Bennett for a wonderful conversation discussing the core themes from their new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You,” including how to navigate differences in your relationship. 

John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) and Vanessa Bennett are not only licensed therapists and relationship coaches but master plate spinners. Writing books, hosting podcasts, creating mental health content, and raising their toddler are just a few of those spinning plates.

Before their worlds collided, they each experienced the painful expiration of long term relationships which thrust them into their inner journeys, personal therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people relationship better. As a couple, they are committed to being transparent about their baggage, bullsh*t, and the slippery knots of their own imperfect relationship to help illuminate the surprising issues that hinder all of us from finding, enjoying, and sustaining love.

Discover:

How to navigate different love languages

Framing your differences as opportunities

Tips for navigating conflict with your partner

The difference between doing life with someone vs. doing life at or around them

00:00 Intro

04:00 Therapists are human too

07:20 Writing a book with your partner

10:03 Different love languages

16:55 The anxious/avoidant dance

19:07 Differences in relationship

23:33 It’s in the small moments

28:20 Handling conflict

35:11 Past relationships vs. now

39:00 Softness & vulnerability in relationship

41:00 Greatest challenges in couples

47:22 Being transactional

53:47 Clean anger is necessary 

 

Links:

Instagram: @vanessasbennett + @theangrytherapist

TikTok: @thecodayoga + @theangrytherapist

Pre-order Vanessa and John's new book, It’s Not Me It’s You, here.

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Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Relationship Coaching, Intimacy, Emotional Intelligence

Summary:

In today’s episode I’m joined once again by the insightful Jayson Gaddis. Tune in as we discuss some of the most common relational challenges we both encounter and how Jayson helps others both better understand relationships AND teach relational skills themselves through The Relationship School.

Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon.

 

Discover:

The most common relationship challenges we both see

A common root cause of unavailability 

One question to ask yourself when you don’t know whether to stay or go

The advantages of being a coach vs. a therapist

How Relationship School differs from other trainings

Our thoughts on why relationship skills aren’t taught in school

00:00 Intro

01:42 The problem of not having mutual partnership

03:28 The most common relationship challenges

05:10 Dating unavailability

06:35 Should you stay or go?

08:07 Ghosting

08:52 People transform their lives around their relationship pain

11:18 Becoming a therapist

16:45 Group beliefs influencing individual beliefs 

20:21 Breaking out of old systems

23:22 Challenging the client

29:18 Hearing feedback

33:46 Teaching how to handle conflict

35:19 Success of a relationship shouldn’t be measured by length

36:59 Movies modeling real life

40:02 Apologizing & conflict repair

 

Links:

Instagram | @jaysongaddis

Website | relationshipschool.com

Relationship Coach Certification Program | Visit this link to apply! Jayson's team interviews everyone that comes into the program. Once accepted, you will get a massive discount of $1000 at checkout when you use the promo code CREATETHELOVE

Book | Getting to Zero

I’m Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters with Dr. Harriet Lerner | Part 1 | Part 2 

Embracing Conflict with Jayson Gaddis - The Mark Groves Podcast

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Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory

Summary:

I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour.

Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health.

Discover:

Green flags to look for on a date

Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship

The best time to ask “what are we?”

When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else

Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else

00:00 Intro

01:48 Starting an online presence

05:05 Back to (relationship) basics

06:08 Blaming your parents

08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal?

11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex

13:15 Know your own red flags

16:44 Assuming good intent

20:20 Asking for reassurance

26:56 Actions vs. words

30:45 Having needs is sexy

35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment

37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship

51:07 Red flags when you have a crush

53:10 Thinking relationally

Links:

Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com

Instagram | @therapyjeff

TikTok | @therapyjeff

Patreon | @therapyjeff

Sponsors:

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