The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Inner Peace, Mental Health, Purpose, Belonging, Self-Expression

 

Summary:

Today I'm joined by my friend and the host of The Mental Wealth Podcast, Kaylor Betts. In this episode, Kaylor shares what it means to be both mentally healthy and wealthy, and how to cultivate inner peace in an increasingly chaotic world. 

Kaylor Betts is a rising star in the mental health space; with a growing following and a hard hitting, buzzworthy podcast, The Mental Wealth Podcast. Kaylor is a contrarian and holds no punches when speaking out against mainstream opinion. He faced his mental health head-on, tackled his long history with anxiety and depression and has since taken a deep dive into studying human optimization to create a brand around what he calls ‘Mental Wealth’. Working with clients around the world, he is relentless in his passion to change lives and help us all understand how to live life beyond what we thought was possible.

 

Discover:

What mental wealth is and how to create it

Creating purpose in your life vs. discovering your purpose

What to do when self-expression threatens belonging

Getting comfortable with facing the uncomfortable

 

00:00 Intro

00:40 Having mental wealth

03:07 Discovering purpose

08:58 Belonging and being accepted

12:53 Handling hate and having inner peace

15:49 Beliefs you had as a kid affect you as an adult

19:17 Allowing people to accept a new version of you

27:26 Importance of humility

30:11 Becoming mentally healthy and wealthy

36:24 Living consciously 

42:13 Be the observer of your thoughts

44:20 Dealing with procrastination

48:12 Danger vs. fear

 

Links:

Kaylor Betts Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thekaylorbetts/?hl=en

The Mental Wealth Podcast | https://www.mentalwealthpodcast.co/

The Mental Wealth Academy | https://buildmentalwealth.co/

Why the Past 10 Years of American Life Have Been Uniquely Stupid by Jonathan Haidt | https://bit.ly/3tSbgDw

 

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Themes: Human Biases, Victimhood, Cancel Culture, Virtue Signaling, Morality

 

Summary:

Lately I’ve been feeling motivated to explore my own (and what seems to be the world in general’s) edge around having hard conversations. What shapes binary/black and white thinking, and what has created the inability to speak about subjects that have become so hypersensitive? How can can we disagree with love and curiosity?

It seems that more often than not, we cease talking about certain things altogether because it’s easier to avoid cancellation, the possibility of being critized, and conflict. But whenever we do this, we don’t actually serve our communities, our society, or the world as a whole.

I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation with Cory Clark and was blown away by the research she shares about human biases, victim mentality, and more. It gave me the opportunity to explore my own personal biases and to bring light to the things that I don’t even see about myself and the way I see the world. I hope it does the same for you.

Cory Clark is the Director of the Adversarial Collaboration Project at University of Pennsylvania and a Visiting Scholar in the Psychology Department. She received her PhD in Social and Personality Psychology and Quantitative Methods from University of California, Irvine and formerly worked as an Assistant Professor of Social Psychology at Durham University in the United Kingdom and the Director of Academic Engagement for Heterodox Academy. Among other things, she studies political biases (on both the left and right) and how moral and political concerns influence evaluations of science among everyday people and scientists alike. She writes a Psychology Today blog called The AntiSocial Psychologist and occasionally co-hosts the YouTube channel and podcast, Antisocial Psychologists. 

 

Discover:

How victimhood can be used for manipulation/to gain very real benefits

Why we tend to cancel other people for having different opinions

How research shows that being perceived as a victim can justify immoral behavior

 

00:00 Intro

01:27 Social media reinforces our beliefs

03:46 Competition in research

06:34 Being biased is human nature

11:14 The bias blindspot

12:52 Vicitmhood and the evolutionary benefits of playing victim

21:26 Justification of immoral behaviors

26:24 Emotional manipulation & victim playing

33:57 Victim and virtue signaling

39:46 Obsessive passions versus harmonious passions

41:56 Having a different opinion

43:32 Verbal versus physical violence

46:40 Extremist people

56:47 Participating in canceling by refusing to talk about it

1:00:50 Taking things to social media instead of talking about things privately

1:04:25 Being held accountable for what we say

1:07:20 Self-censorship

 

Links:

Cory’s Website | https://www.coryjclark.com/

Cory Clark’s Twitter | https://twitter.com/ImHardcory

Psyphilopod Podcast | https://bit.ly/3mUpeAP

The Antisocial Psychologist Youtube | https://bit.ly/3HsCgyY

The AntiSocial Psychologist Blog | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-antisocial-psychologist

 

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Themes: Self-Awareness, Trauma, Healing, Self-Love, Relationships

 

Summary:

Today I'm joined by my dear friend and founder of Rising Woman, Sheleana Aiyana. In this episode we explore the importance of becoming aware of your patterns in relationship, where they came from and ultimately, how to transcend them to become “the one” you seek. Have you ever felt like people leave you for the exact same reason or that you date the same type of person… Every. Single. Time? These patterns are something that need to be acknowledged if we want to understand ourselves better and call in the healthy relationship we crave – both with ourselves and with another.

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationships as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One.

 

Discover:

The effects of media on how we view relationships & how it encourages our addiction to chaos

Why we tend to numb our pain & how we can start being aware of it

Why we should normalize (and celebrate!) the mundane parts of relationships 

00:00 Intro

01:26 Becoming the One

03:30 Media affecting our views on relationships

07:41 Ignoring old beliefs and working on your own patterns

12:52 Why we numb our pain

21:19 Trusting love again & healing

24:59 How your childhood experiences affects your behavior now

27:38 Awareness of old patterns

32:00 How being vulnerable can inspire others

34:28 How we actually block love from coming our way

37:01 Learning how to love healthily 

41:16 Normalization of boredom in relationships

 

Links:

Sheleana Aiyana | Instagram 

Rising Woman | Instagram

Rising Woman | Facebook

Rising Woman | Website

Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself

 

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Themes: Marriage, Love, Relationships, the Cinderella Complex, Breakups

Summary:

Today I'm joined by the wonderful duo that is Beau Nelson and Shannon Heth, authors of Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy. In this episode, we speak about our society’s obsession with having a fairytale love story and happy endings. As kids, we’ve all heard the story of how Cinderella or other fairytale princesses found their prince charming, got married, and lived happily ever after, giving us unrealistic expectations of how relationships should be when we become adults. Listening to this episode will help you see the reality of a being in a relationship and how you can create the ending you desire.

Shannon Heth is a marketing and communications specialist who crafts creative strategy and stories for global brands. The president and founder of public relations agency Milk Creative Communications, her client work has appeared in The New York Times, Vogue, Bon Appetit, and the Los Angeles Times. An accomplished storyteller, Shannon has also penned a number of articles for newspapers and magazines. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her two young sons.

Beau Nelson is a creator. As an internationally recognized celebrity makeup artist he has worked with women like Kristen Stewart, Zoe Kravitz, Christina Hendricks, and Iman. As a photographer/director, he has collaborated with legendary brands like Chanel, Tom Ford, Dior, Violet Grey, and Chantecaille Cosmetics. And as a multi-passionate creative, he’s been involved in countless other artistic endeavors from fragrance development, to songwriting, to visual art. Beau has spent years studying and practicing principles of personal transformation and lives in Los Angeles, California.

00:00 Intro

01:30 Cinderella, You Bitch

05:56 The fairytale trap

10:01 Being responsible versus taking responsibility

12:19 Separating reality from fantasy

15:36 Stop finding happiness in other people

19:00 Sometimes breakups are a good thing

22:58 The problem with idolizing weddings & marriage

29:01 Problematic language used to describe love

32:57 Getting out of the fairytale trap

39:53 The magic of starting conversations with strangers

46:34 Acknowledging your feelings & celebrating yourself

 

Discover:

The reason why so many of us live with a “Cinderella complex” and how we can get out of this fairytale trap

Why Shannon and Beau think breakups are a good thing

The importance of celebrating your achievements and recognizing your feelings

 

Links:

Shannon Heth | Instagram 

Beau Nelson | Instagram

Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy

 

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Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Patriarchy, Individualism, Sexuality, Masculinity

Summary:

Today I'm honoured to welcome Terry Real back on the podcast. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression and his expertise on men’s mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others.

In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Terry's new book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple.

 

Discover:

How to move beyond your traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness - the consciousness of us

How patriarchy poisons our intimate relationships

What's happening in your body when you're activated in conflict — plus scripts to help you move beyond your knee-jerk reactions and into your wiser, more collaborative self

What's really behind defensiveness

How men are programmed to squash what is most needed in their intimate relationships: vulnerability

 

Links:

Check out Terry's first episode on the Mark Groves Podcast: The End of Women Caretaking Men

terryreal.com

US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

 

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Themes: Relationships, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, Sexuality, Communication

Summary:

The Multiamory Podcast was created by Emily Matlack, Dedeker Winston, and Jase Lindgren in 2014 to fill the lack of voices about polyamory who were young and accessible to a modern audience. They were also tired of hearing all the same old, traditional, sometimes toxic dating advice. After years of creating episodes, connecting with listeners, and growing an amazing community, they have broadened their own views on relationships and are now helping people in a wide variety of relationship formats from polyamory, to monogamy, to Relationship Anarchy.

Emily, Dedeker, and Jase believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. They value ethics over tradition, and believe that a healthy world is one where everybody has agency in their relationships. Today, with three and a half million podcast downloads and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to providing the best possible transformational information, including new research, practical communication tools, a diverse group of guest experts, and more. 

 

Discover:

Different types of monogamy (yes, they exist!)

The variety of ways that non-monogamy is practiced

How Emily, Jase and Dedeker came together as a triad and some of the challenges they faced

What do to if you’re in a monogamous relationship and want to explore non-monogamy

Links:

www.multiamory.com

Instagram: @multiamory_podcast

Twitter: @Multiamory 

Patreon: patreon.com/multiamory 

Polysecure by Jessica Fern

Multiamory Relationship Radar

 

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Themes: Relationships, Dating, Self-Worth, Attachment Theory

Summary:

So excited to have Violet Benson, aka the Meme Queen, on the show today! Violet hosts the incredibly popular podcast, Almost Adulting (previously known as Too Tired To Be Crazy) and is most known for her viral brand, Daddy Issues, which has caught the attention of many celebs and over 5 million followers over the years.

The Almost Adulting podcast is one of today’s most popular mental health podcasts, using humour and heartfelt advice to prompt candid conversations about mental health and wellness. It features public figures peeling back their personas to divulge their “inner demons," and I myself had the pleasure of being on the show recently. I enjoyed our conversation so much that I knew I had to have Violet on the podcast, so here we are! 

Discover:

How a toxic workplace inspired Violet to create her viral page, @daddyissues

How Violet transformed her relationship with her father

How we deal with haters and rude comments as public figures

Our thoughts on shows like Love is Blind and the Bachelor

Violet's attachment style and her personal dating struggles

Links:

Almost Adulting Podcast

Check out my episodes on Almost Adulting - Pt 1 and Pt 2

Instagram: @almostadulting, @violetbenson, @daddyissues

 

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Themes: Depression, Addiction, Fulfillment, Health, Healing

Summary:

Joe Sheehey is the Founder and CEO of the leading cannabinoid wellness brand, Cured Nutrition. As a former NASA contributing aerospace engineer, he led much of his life doing what he was “supposed to." Now, he is committed to pushing boundaries and changing the narrative around cannabis to contribute to a future of health that looks much different than the past.

Discover:

How the pain of misalignment and doing what he was "supposed to" led Joe down a path freckled with anxiety, depression, substance abuse and suicidal attempts

What gave Joe the push to leave his comfortable job and follow his passion

Joe's mission to de-stigmatize cannabis and educate users on its benefits

Links:

Instagram: @curednutrition

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Themes: Relationships, Monogamy, Polyamory, Communication, Psychedelic Medicine, Sexuality

Summary:

Today I'm honoured to be joined by the man, the myth, the legend: Aubrey Marcus. Aubrey is the founder of Onnit, a lifestyle brand based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. 

Aubrey also currently hosts the Aubrey Marcus Podcast, a motivational destination for conversations with the brightest minds in athletics, business, mindset and spirituality with over 35 million downloads on iTunes. He regularly provides commentary to outlets like Entrepreneur, Forbes, The Tim Ferriss Show, and The Joe Rogan Experience. He has been featured on the cover of Men’s Health, is the host of the Fit For Service Fellowship, and is the author of the NYT Bestselling book Own The Day, Own Your Life from HarperCollins.

 

Discover:

Being yourself at the cost of belonging

Aubrey's journey into polyamory and the lessons he learned from his experience in an open relationship

How Aubrey's relationship developed with his now wife, Vylana, and how they make monogamy work for them

Tips and practices for deepening intimacy and keeping the “honeymoon phase” alive

Aubrey's thoughts on marriage and 'til death do us part'

 

Links:

Instagram: @aubreymarcus

Aubrey Marcus Podcast | How To Prepare For True Love with Aubrey & Vylana Marcus

Fit for Service

Untrue by Wednesday Martin, PhD

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

 

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Themes: Relationships, Marriage, Divorce, Religion, Masculinity, Intuition, Health

Summary:

I met today's guests through my partnership with Organifi and upon hearing their story, I knew I had to have them on the podcast to share it with you!

Chase + Mimi were childhood sweethearts and married in their early 20’s. After 3 years they actually separated and divorced, never thinking they would see each other again. They both hit physical, emotional, mental and spiritual rock bottom in 2017-18. Call it Source, the universe or divine intervention — after 3 years of intense self development and personal epiphanies, their new lives crossed paths organically and six months later Mimi was officially moving in with Chase to start 'Part 2’ of their relationship. Now Chase + Mimi host The Medicin Podcast and are passionate about helping people proactively create deep, healthy, passionate partnership supported by healthy + conscious lifestyles.

Discover:

Chase and Mimi's journey from high school sweethearts to married couple, to divorced for three years and back together again

How Chase and Mimi's religious upbringing influenced their idea of how a marriage "should" look an ultimately contributed to their split

Why we get scared when our partners step into their full power and expression

The problem with having expectations whether they be in relationships, with health or at work

What to do when your partner isn't interested in growing

How to know if you should stay in a relationship or leave

Links:

themedicin.com

Instagram: @mimi_themedicin @themedicinpodcast @the_chasen_one 

Uplevel your immune system with Chase & Mimi's mushroom supplement, Immune Intel! 

What Femininity Wants with John Wineland - the Mark Groves Podcast

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