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Host Chelsea and incoming coach Kris explore why shame might be holding back your healing after infidelity in this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife. Together they unpack the difference between productive guilt and paralyzing shame, showing you how to write a new story - one of self-compassion and growth instead of self-judgment."
Kris Haraldsson MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.
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Tired of your boundaries turning into group discussions? In this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie expose the trap of 'collaborative communication' and provide practical tools to transform your requests into powerful statements. Learn why being 'demanding' might be exactly what your relationship needs.
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Join host Chelsea and our returning guest Luke Shillings as they explore how gender stereotypes influence both the experience of infidelity and the recovery process. They examine society's expectations of how men and women 'should' process pain, and discuss how breaking free from these stereotypes can lead to more authentic healing. If you’re seeking to better understand the complex dynamics of affair recovery, this episode offers fresh perspectives and practical insights for moving forward.
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
In this illuminating episode, Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva, a licensed clinical therapist joining The Other Woman and The Wife coaching team. They explore the crucial differences between therapy and coaching, helping you understand which path might be right for your healing journey after infidelity. Whether you're considering professional support or looking to make a change in your current therapeutic relationship, this episode provides valuable insights to guide your decision-making process.
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Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.
Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.
Chelsea and returning guest Luke Shillings bring their personal experiences to challenge common stereotypes about infidelity. As a former other woman and betrayed spouse respectively, they examine which stereotypes rang true, which missed the mark, and whether these labels help or hurt healing. A raw, honest conversation about moving beyond societal assumptions to find understanding.
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
TOW&TW kicks off the year with a journey down memory lane. In this encore episode, we revisit an episodes that deeply resonated with our longtime listeners – and offers our new audience a powerful glimpse into some of our previously aired compelling conversations. From our carefully curated archives, this raw and honest Q&A with Chelsea explores the questions that keep affair partners awake at night.
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This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie are once again joined in the studio by Luke Shillings. Together they retell and explore the emotional story of a woman torn between her role as wife and mother to her family and a rekindled connection with a man from her past. As relationship coaches, they delve into the roots of infidelity, unresolved trauma, and finding constructive paths forward when in complicated relationships.
Whether you’re seeking understanding or guidance, this episode offers a compassionate look at the nuances of love, betrayal, and self-discovery.
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome Julie, the Chief of Knowledge at TOW&TW, to the studio. Julie has been working tirelessly to create an all-inclusive, transformative retreat for women in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This retreat is designed to foster connection, empowerment, and personal growth in a supportive and inspiring environment.
If you've ever wanted to meet Chelsea and our team while building lifelong friendships with like-minded women, this is your opportunity! Don’t miss the chance to join this life-changing experience. Visit our website or click the link to sign up: https://towtw.com/retreats.
Give yourself the gift of transformation—you won’t regret it! Walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and connected like never before.
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This Week on The Other Woman and The Wife: Ann Marie and Luke Shillings continue unraveling the gripping story of infidelity shared by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias "Mark." In Part 2, we uncover the twists and turns of Mark’s journey in the aftermath of his affair and divorce, exploring how his decisions shaped the years that followed.
If you haven’t listened to Part 1 episode #54 yet, catch up here:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBxKxAaErZc&list=PLT72S-uJEtmDtVZ2xI4FnVOWGE9fXuDaZ&index=4
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QrOvLH2Gpj4y4xwTjOGUU?si=dlrhd4uOREq4yW2GIbkQjg
Apple Music: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/54-marks-affair-story-pt-1-luke-shillings/id1685932363?i=1000676389597
Don’t miss this raw conclusion to a story that’s both deeply personal and universally resonant. For Tim’s full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.html
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Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
In this week’s episode of The Other Woman and The Wife, Chelsea sits down with Olivia, a cherished member of the TOW&TW team as Olivia holds a special place in Chelsea’s journey, not only as one of the first members of her thriving online community but also as her very first coaching client.
Join Chelsea and Olivia as they reflect on Olivia’s transformative journey—from navigating life as an affair partner to building one of the healthiest relationships she’s ever experienced. Hear Olivia’s story of growth, resilience, and where she stands today in her personal evolution.
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Welcome to The Other Woman and The Wife, where we navigate the complex terrain of affairs with radical honesty, deep compassion, and zero judgment.
I'm Chelsea, and I've…
This podcast isn't about right or wrong, good or bad. It's about the messy, beautiful, heartbreaking reality of human connection and what happens when we find ourselves loving outside the lines. Whether you're currently in an affair, navigating its aftermath, or trying to understand your own capacity for love and desire, this is your safe space to explore without apology.

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