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"The 'Why, What, How' technique encourages us to understand why someone is behaving a certain way, determine what we want to teach them, and find the best way to deliver the lesson."

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In today's episode, we delve into the concept of discipline and teaching. Drawing inspiration from Stoic philosophy and insights from parenting, we discover the power of the "Why, What, How" technique in building constructive relationships and fostering personal growth.  This episode aims to teach you how to navigate and resolve disagreeable situations from a place of calm, curiosity and centeredness. 

What's included in this episode:

1. The True Meaning of Discipline: Exploring its origins and debunking misconceptions.
2. Discipline as Teaching: Recognizing the profound connection between the two.
3. Optimal vs. Suboptimal Self-Teaching: Wanting to do something vs forcing yourself to do it.
4. Introducing The "Why, What, How" Technique: A practical framework for understanding behaviour and delivering lessons.
5. Parenting as a Framework For Conflict Resolution: Learning to respond to the world in the same way you do to your child.

Relevant Links:

• Stoic Scroll newsletter: stoicism.substack.com
• No Drama Discipline by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson.

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"Instead of trying to be everything to everyone, Stoic Role Ethics encourages us to focus on the role we have to play right now and give it our utmost attention and dedication."

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Today we delve into the concept of Stoic Role Ethics, a branch of Stoic philosophy that explores the interconnected roles we play in our lives and how we can navigate them to achieve fulfillment and well-being.

We'll discuss the importance of understanding our duties and expectations in each role, while focusing on the four cardinal virtues: wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance.

Join me in learning to embrace the roles we play and accepting the boundaries of our control.

What's Included in the Episode:

1. Understanding Stoic Role Ethics: Explore the core principles and concepts of Stoic Role Ethics, emphasizing the interconnectedness of roles in our lives and the duties associated with them.
2. The Four Cardinal Virtues: Learn about the four cardinal virtues of Stoic philosophy—wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance—and how they can guide our behaviour within different roles.
3. Embracing Essentialism: Discover the benefits of focusing on playing our immediate roles well and avoiding the urge to take on everything at once, allowing us to concentrate on what is within our control.
4. Recognizing What's Not Within Our Control: Reflect on the aspects of our lives that are beyond our influence, such as genetics, upbringing, and external circumstances, and understand how Stoic philosophy encourages acceptance and adaptation.

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https://www.stoichandbook.co/life-is-a-movie-just-play-your-role/

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"The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have."
— Epictetus

In today's episode, we delve into the practice of the dichotomy of control, a fundamental principle in Stoic philosophy. 

While many people intellectually understand the concept of differentiating between things within their control and things outside their control, they often struggle to find genuine emotional relief. I explore the paradoxical nature of the dichotomy of control and provide insights on how to deepen the practice for maximum benefit.

In today's episode, we cover:

1. The Dichotomy of Control: Understanding what we can and can't control.
2. Multi-Level Application: Applying the concept across events, emotions, and judgments.
3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Using CBT as a tool for Stoic practice.
4. Accepting Emotional States: Embracing emotions, even if unwanted.
5. Overcoming Self-Criticism: Letting go of self-judgment in Stoic practice.
6. The Paradox of Control: Finding true effectiveness by relinquishing the need for control.

Important Links and Resources Mentioned:

1. Notion App 
2. The Philosophy of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy by Donald Robertson
3. Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns

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“The path of wisdom is to go with the flow, to not resist the way that fortune is unfolding, to always recognize that I can choose how I respond to external events and I can choose whether I am harmed or not.” 

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In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my daily Stoic morning journal routine, explaining how I organize my journal to set my day for success, remember what is valuable, and ensure that I act with resilience and tranquility. 

The episode sheds light on the importance of intention rather than perfection, and how to use different techniques and tools to cultivate a growth mindset, manage negative emotions, and practice gratitude.

In this episode, you'll learn:

1. The Significance of Flexibility in Morning Routine: Discover the importance of not being a slave to your routine and understanding that the intention matters more than perfection.
2. The Use of Apps and Templates for Journaling: Learn how to utilize applications like Craft and Notion to create journal templates that can be customized to fit your needs.
3. The Productivity Planner Approach: Understand how to prioritize daily tasks by using the concept of the Productivity Planner, and focus on the most important task first followed by secondary tasks.
4. Incorporating Stoic Quotes and Reflection: Learn how to include Stoic quotes in your journal and how reflecting on these quotes can help you align with the principles of Stoicism.
5. Triple-Column Technique for Managing Negative Emotions: Get an insight into the triple-column technique borrowed from Dr. David Burns for challenging irrational thoughts and managing negative emotions.
6. The Philosophical Journal for Self-Improvement: Learn the simple yet profound method of acknowledging what you did wrong, what you did right, and what you can do better if a similar situation arises again.

Important Links and Resources Mentioned:

• Craft app: Craft
• Notion app: Notion
• Intelligent Change Productivity Planner: Intelligent Change
• Dr. David Burns' book "Feeling Good": Amazon link
• Radical Gratitude Meditation Course: Stoic Handbook - Radical Gratitude Course
• Stoic Anxiety Mastery Course: Stoic Anxiety Mastery
• Massimo Pigliucci: Website
• Five Buddhist Precepts: Information on Five Precepts

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In this episode, we challenge common misconceptions about Stoicism, exploring its true essence which is far from robotic or emotionless. We delve into the Stoic's approach to dealing with suffering, both personal and that of others, highlighting the importance of maintaining balance, compassion, and a clear perspective.

Key Points:

1. Misconceptions about Stoicism (00:00 - 02:07): Stoicism is often misconstrued as lacking in compassion due to its emphasis on resilience and handling negative issues. In reality, Stoics feel emotions but choose to care about the right things, not getting upset about things that don't truly matter.
2. Stoicism and Compassion (02:08 - 02:56): Stoic philosophy, as exemplified by Seneca's letters, is about wanting to help others overcome suffering. Far from being emotionless, Stoics are deeply empathetic, offering support and guidance in times of hardship.
3. Dealing with the Suffering of Others (02:57 - 04:25): The dilemma of wanting to help loved ones who are suffering but not having the right tools is common. It's crucial to find a balance in showing empathy without losing oneself in others' emotions or appearing cold and detached.
4. Stoic Principle for Handling Others' Suffering (04:26 - 05:05): The Stoic approach is to love and wish others well during hard times, but not let their perceptions distort your judgments. It's about feeling empathy for the person while not adopting their worldview.
5. Understanding the Source of Emotions (05:06 - 05:47): It's important to understand that the source of emotional distress is not the event itself but the judgment about the event. People react differently to the same events due to their unique perspectives and judgments.
6. A Parenting Analogy (05:48 - 06:24): Like a parent guiding a child, it's vital to empathize with the individual's feelings and provide support and love without getting sucked into the emotional vortex.
7. Applying Nonviolent Communication (06:25 - 06:50): Nonviolent communication model can help to understand the feelings and needs of the person who is struggling. Instead of getting into the specifics, locate the individual's feelings and needs.
8. Techniques for Dealing with Suffering (06:51 - 07:34): Listening beyond the sentences to understand the true emotions and needs of the individual can help in consoling someone while maintaining one's own emotional balance.

Listen to this episode to learn more about the Stoic's compassionate approach to dealing with suffering and how you can apply these principles in your life.

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In this episode, Justin and I discuss:

• Justin Noppe's background and expertise
• The six positive emotions that contribute to happiness: joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, pride, and excitement
• The role of Stoicism in emotional mastery and mindfulness
• The benefits of journaling and self-reflection for emotional growth
• The power of anticipation in experiencing happiness
• How to implement Stoic principles and practices in our daily lives
• The importance of resilience and adapting to life's challenges
• The relationship between physical health and emotional well-being

About Justin Noppé

Justin is an expert in leadership development, specializing in helping leaders, founders, and managers of small, successful companies navigate their way from overwhelm to a life filled with excitement and capability. 

With his integrative approach, Justin empowers clients to become emotionally stable, productive, and more humane with their teams, ultimately transforming them into the effortless leaders they aspire to be.

In our conversation, we delve into the learnability of leadership, discuss how to lead with social anxiety and examine the value of fostering positive emotions. We also touch on essential resources for anyone looking to develop their leadership skills further. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from Justin's wealth of knowledge and experience.

Important Links:

• Justin's Website: https://thewayoftheleader.substack.com/
• Justin’s Insight Timer Library: https://insighttimer.com/justinnoppe
• Enneagram: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
• The Broaden and Build Theory by Barbara Fredrickson: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3122271/

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This is a free preview of AMA #3. You can access the full AMA, plus previous episodes and the full Stoic Handbook meditation library with a free trial at:

https://stoichandbook.supercast.com/

In the full episode n this subscriber-only episode, I answer the following 4 questions: 

1. How do you deal with recurring negative thoughts about the past that appear from nowhere?
2. What are some tools to battle unhealthy desires?
3. What is your view on traveling as a means of enjoyment and sometimes escape?
4. Where does ambition fit into Stoicism? 

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In this episode of The Stoic Handbook podcast,  creator of WhatIsStoicism.com, Allan, shares his journey into Stoicism and how it has helped him find meaning and purpose in life. Allan discusses how he was introduced to Stoicism through the Tim Ferriss’ podcast and William B Irvine's book "A Guide to the Good Life". He explains how Stoicism's focus on personal responsibility and practical philosophy resonated with him and led him to start creating content on the topic early on in his journey.

Allan shares his thoughts on rereading and creating content as ways to deepen his learning process and discusses the Stoic technique of journaling, which resonates with him the most. He offers practical advice on how to get started with a journaling practice and emphasizes the power of writing as a tool for personal growth.

Throughout the episode, Allan draws connections between Stoicism and entrepreneurship and shares his thoughts on how Stoicism can help individuals navigate the challenges of modern life. He also discusses the value of caring for a dog and integrating Stoic principles into his social life.

Listeners will enjoy Allan's insights on Stoicism and its relevance to modern life, as well as his recommendations for books, podcasts, and other resources to deepen their understanding of the philosophy.

Learn more about Allan's work:

• "What is Stoicism" Website: https://whatisstoicism.com/
• "Micro Morning Meditations": https://whatisstoicism.com/micro-morning-meditations/
• "What is Stoicism" Podcast: https://whatisstoicism.com/podcast/
• Alan's Newsletter: https://whatisstoicism.com/newsletter/

Links mentioned:

• "The Art of Losing Control" by Jules Evans: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Losing-Control-Jules-Evans/dp/1782118678
• "A Guide to the Good Life" by William B Irvine: https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life-Ancient-Stoic/dp/0195374614
• "The Philosophy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" by Donald Robertson: https://www.amazon.com/Philosophy-Cognitive-Behavioural-Therapy-Stoicism/dp/1855757569
• "Slaughterhouse 5" by Kurt Vonnegut: https://www.amazon.com/Slaughterhouse-Five-Kurt-Vonnegut/dp/0440180295
• "The James Altucher Show" Podcast: https://jamesaltucher.com/podcasts/
• "The Tim Ferris Show" Podcast: https://tim.blog/podcast/

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In this Stoic lesson, I share with you an example Stoic daily routine full of practices and ideas you can begin using today. 

The routine is split into the following sections: 

• Morning rituals 
• Work rituals 
• Family rituals 
• Evening rituals 

Read the article to go with this post here. 

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I sat down to do a somewhat fast-paced Anxiety Q&A with my HighExistence colleague, Mike Slavin. 

Hope you enjoy it!

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