The Susan Winter Show

You finally spoke up, stated your needs, and now…got dumped? Here's how a narcissist will punish you for having boundaries

Why would a #partner resort to #ghosting as a form of #breakup? Here's the mindset of an escape artist, and how you can turn the tables:

He couldn't wait to see you. She melted in your arms. What happened? Welcome to the dating game of pursuit and retraction: #mixedmessages #pullingaway #hotandcold

You're hooked — not by who they are now, but who they were before.  The guy who texted you every morning and couldn't wait to see you. The woman who showed you affection and said she'd never felt like this before. What happened? It's the game of pursuit and retraction.

Trying to make sense out of the illogical is a fool's errand. If you're exhausted trying to figure out your #partner's position, consider this approach instead: #datingadvice #confusion #mixedmessages

Having trouble getting over your ex? This #video shows you how taking them off ‘the pedestal' (and seeing them accurately) helps you to move forward. #breakups #ex #movingon

At one point, your #date couldn't get enough of you. Now, they've pulled away.  Here's why they've lost interest (and what you can do about it).#video #datingadvice #pullingaway

 

Your partner thought you were exciting. Now you've lost your lustre, and you're no longer a priority. Why are you suddenly devalued? Here's what happened, and here's how to reestablish your worth.

If your #partner say's they need time, should you wait? If so, how long? Here's how to know if your #relationship is worth the wait: #video #wait #moveon


Skyler writes, “Met this guy on a hook-up site. It's been a few weeks now we regularly spend time together, in and out of the house. We cuddle and kiss but he will not have sex with me again. Says he's in a time of transition and doesn't want to hurt me. His XBF has cancer, they regularly see each other but they're not hooking up. He's the first guy that fits right. Am I wasting time or should be patient? Thanks!”

Not sure if you can be friends with someone you've #loved in the past? The right action depends on the answer to this question: #ex #breakup #friends

Alex writes, “Is it possible to become friends with an ex-- with someone you once loved? I can't help but think: Why waste love? Why become strangers? I long for her in my life. We broke up due to incompatibility (age) and it was a loving breakup. Even though I start seeing someone new and see great potential in this person I would still like my ex to have a casual appearance in my life. To catch up over dinner.”

How can you tell a player from a prospective mate? If you want a committed relationship, here's what you need to know: #players #love #partnerselection


Maria writes, “Hi Susan. First and foremost, thank you for your advice and open dialogue on each and every video.  Those of us who actively want a serious committed relationship and be there 100% have encountered and met partners who are there for the ride for whatever reason.  How do we better identify them, ask poignant direct questions and be clear on what they want versus what you want. Thanks, Maria”

Franzi writes, “Dear Susan,I was dating a young man I thought I would end up in relationship with. A year ago he was dating a woman who treated him badly. She suddenly contacted him and he decided to give it another try with her. Can feelings just reappear? Or is it something else that led him to return to her, even though she's already treating him badly again? Thanks in advance.”