The Susan Winter Show

Your partner was into you but now they're pulling away. ‘Pushing' for reconnection won't work. Here's how to engage the internal shift that allows your partner to shift in correspondence, and without resistance.

Cliff writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos. They are really helpful to me and I enjoy watching them. My question I would like you to answer in the video is about the ex bf. I like a girl, but I fear her ex bf is still on her radar and keeps appearing on all her social media, liking and commenting on every post. How to I deal with this to not let it bother me? Thank you.”

Susan writes, “Hi Susan. I want say a big thank you to you first. I had a big awakening experience after I watched your videos. I allowed people who I loved to walk over my feelings, devalue me, and I'd always forgive them. I suffered and kept quiet. I decided to walk away from the guy that I'd been dating for a year who kept hurting my feelings. A question: how to become a receiver rather than always being a giver?”

New couples go through the awkward phase of determining who and what they are to each other, and if what they've got is viable.  Where do you stand with this person? And if you have anything with them, is it viable? Here's how to handle this phase of new love.

Vivien writes, “Hi Susan, I am a huge fan of yours from Hungary. My boyfriend has just broken up with me 2 months ago saying that he feels he is not in love with me anymore and we should not waste time. Knowing that everybody's personality is developing, my question is: How do you know that you truly do not fit your partner or is it just about being together at the wrong time? Thank you, Vivien”

Oscar writes, “Good Day. Susan, I'm 40 and having issues with my relationship. I've come to find out that the woman I've been with for 8 years has been having some secret accounts on FB for her to chat with men (even my small brother). So now everything is a mess. She tells me that she wants to move out. I told her fine. But she's still in the house. I want to move on with my life.”

YouTube subscriber Luke writes, “Hi Susan, I was wondering if you could possibly address why we may suddenly miss an ex out of nowhere, especially after it seemed like we've been doing so well for so long in moving on from them. It's a very confusing and defeating feeling, and I'm hoping you may have some insight to help reconcile these feelings. Thank you so much for everything that you do! You've already helped me immensely.”

R G writes, “Dear Susan, I've heard many people say, including myself, that they stayed too long in a relationship. How long should a person give a relationship to really evaluate their partner and their future together? For example, would you agree not to give a relationship more than two years, maybe less, to seriously evaluate whether you're on the same track for a future? Thank you for all your advice. I love your videos.”

Sarah writes, “Why does a Narcissist play hot and cold in a love triangle? I have told him what I have concluded in his behaviour and patterns, and now I'm no longer priority but the other female is. Help. Your videos are fantastic, knowledgeable and by far helpful. Thank you thank you thank you thank you.”

Lisa writes, “Dear Susan, THANK YOU for all the time and talent you share with all of us!  Your videos are awesome! Is an emotional affair worse than a physical affair? And does an emotional affair generally lead to that slippery slope and blurred line of inevitable intimacy? Thank you for taking my question.”