The You Project

How's that 'perfection' thing working out for you? You know who you are. You know the frustration, anxiety, disappointment and pressure that comes with chronic perfectionism. It's crippling. It's a self-created psychological prison and it's more likely to lead to misery than it is, joy. Maybe 'better' (not best) is a healthier goal? Progress, not perfection? This episode is a chat about all that. Enjoy. 

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Bobby's back and this time we talk about the value (or lack thereof) of 'self-help', our own humble and unremarkable beginning in the world of motivating, educating and coaching, the challenge of learning how to learn optimally, understanding what works for our brain and mind, what lives at the intersection of frustration and curiosity, a very famous Harvard study that happened to be a scam and lots more. Enjoy. 

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According to David Gillespie (and some very reliable research studies), good old-fashioned Paracetamol (Panamax, Panadol, Tylenol) can create the interesting 'side effect' of making people temporarily less empathetic or as DG suggests, “temporary psychopaths!” We also chat about why (and how) Al might soon make 'The You Project' (or at least, the host) redundant. As always this was super interesting.

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People make goal setting harder than it needs to be. And while it's not always a metaphoric cake walk (especially when it comes to the 'doing' part of the change process), the actual strategising, planning, time-lining and prioritising (the theoretical component) can be a relatively straight forward and uncomplicated process. This episode is a brief coaching session for those of you who might need some help in getting a little more practical and strategic about the things you want to do, be, create, change and become.

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Dr lain McCormick is a total newbie to TYP and he's a ripper. He has a beautiful ability to translate science, research and academic jargon into user-friendly (listener-friendly) stories, metaphors and lessons, that we can all turn into action (should we wish to do so). In broad terms, we spoke about understanding our own mind and the minds of others, subjective and objective reality, living up to the expectations of people we don't want to disappoint (shout out to dad - lol), finding a good coach, the role of a coach, self-awareness and self-regulation and lots more. *BIO: Dr lain McCormick started the Executive Coaching Centre in Auckland, New Zealand over 20 years ago. He is an internationally recognised leader in schema coaching, an evidence-based approach used to deal with deep-seated personal issues. He holds a Master of Social Science with First Class Honours, a Diploma in Clinical Psychology and a PhD in organisational psychology for his research in the area of work stress.

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In this episode of TYP, Corey Jackson and I explore the human condition (physical, mental, emotional and social) through the lens of science, philosophy, psychology, Buddhism and real-world lived experience. Corey is fascinating, I loved him and you will too. 

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The super smart, congenial, and down-to-earth Dr. Jeff Gross slides back into TYP Central and as always, he delivers as we open the conversational door on all-things health, wellness, human optimisation and integrative medicine. 

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On this episode of TYP, we chat with our resident Technophile Patrick (and Tiff) and we explore self-driving cars (they're on the way), Tesla bonfires, creepy glasses that film people unknowingly, "hi Mum" phone scams, Apple vs. Microsoft, iPads for cat therapy (really), Al designed to replace creative humans doing creative jobs, 23andMe go broke and people worry about their private data (DNA stuff!) and lots more. Enjoy.

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About thirty years ago, a new client called Lily showed up at my gym. She was (in her own words) obese, terrified (of me and the gym environment), embarrassed, insecure and desperate to re-invent herself. And she did. Reinvent herself, that is. With a suboptimal lifestyle (very sub), terrible eating habits, genetic challenges, zero fitness and no idea of what she was doing as her starting point, Lily lost over thirty kilos and made amazing fitness and strength gains in a relatively short period of time. Eventually she got qualified as a PT, worked for me for a while, set up her own facility and in 2025 (at 65), she still trains people full-time, is booked out, does zero marketing, advertising or branding and has built a culture and environment that people want to be in the middle of. In the era of selfies, filters, health cults and fitness influencers, I love sharing a story about someone who's doing 'all the wrong things' and thriving! BTW, this is Lily's first podcast and I gotta say, it's maybe the best debut I've ever been part of. Enjoy.

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Hi Team, this episode I dive into something I think everyone should at least learn about (if not, practice): Stoicism. Not because it's trendy, or philosophical, or looks good on Insta but because it's practical, effective and bloody useful, even in 2025. Especially when life gets messy, unpredictable, or just plain difficult. I talk about what Stoicism actually is and isn't, where it came from, why it still matters today, and how you can use it in real life - not just as a theory, but as a legit toolkit for handling pressure, uncertainty, disappointment, and all the day-to-day chaos we face. This isn't about becoming emotionless or detached - it's about becoming more calm, intentional, and resilient. If you've ever struggled with overthinking, emotional reactivity, or the feeling that life's a bit out of your control, this one's for you. Enjoy.

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