Ever felt burdened with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, trying to control your relationships and often leaving you drained? 

In this episode, I talk about the damaging implications that control has on your relationship. Referencing the Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List, I delve into my own experiences to expose the exhausting effects of being overly controlling. 

I hate that sometimes "being controlling" is talked about as if its cool or makes you somehow sound above average or that you've got it all together.  The same is true when people say they are perfectionist.  Neither of those are great to be in my opinion and really are a sign that you are too focused on things other than looking at yourself.

We love to tell our partners what to do and who they can talk to and what they should type back to an ex or family member in a text.  Quite frankly.... you should be focused on on yourself.  Use that energy to accomplish your own goals and dreams and let your partner be the adult they are.

I'll bust the myth of control and perfectionism, revealing it as a mere distraction from addressing our real issues. By learning to lead ourselves, we can foster healthier relationships and a richer life. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there's a free discovery call waiting for you.

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Struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety? You're not alone. Join us this week for a great conversation about anxiety and intrusive thoughts with special guest, Dr. Martin Seif, a distinguished clinical psychologist and anxiety treatment specialist.

We talk about the intricate world of intrusive thoughts, drawing a clear line between fleeting and persistent intrusive thoughts. Dr. Seif sheds light on the paradox of thought suppression, explaining why efforts to evade certain thoughts only make them more persistent.

Ever found yourself seeking reassurance over and over? We delve into how this seemingly harmless habit can spiral into an addictive pattern, further fueling anxiety.
We'll share insights from Dr. Seif on how this cycle influences relationships and discuss the notion of the 'sticky mind' in the context of rumination.

Also, get ready to reframe your understanding of anxiety management with the concept of 'therapeutic surrender,' a potentially liberating approach to dealing with anxiety. We'll explore strategies to change attitudes and perspectives, encouraging a lean-in approach to anxiety rather than avoidance. Tune in for a wealth of information perfect for anyone navigating the turbulence of intrusive thoughts and anxiety.

If you need further support, check out the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. 

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Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts
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Have you ever wondered how insidious jealousy can creep into our lives and relationships, causing havoc and distress? This episode opens the door to a heartfelt discussion with Heather and Roxanne, two insightful individuals who have experienced the bitter taste of jealousy and learned to navigate its complex landscapes. They bravely share their personal stories, tracing their path back to early experiences which laid the foundation for struggles with trust in later life. Through their candid conversations, we begin to peel back the layers of narratives we tell ourselves, ultimately leading us to question their validity. 

As we journey with Heather and Roxanne through their experiences, we dive into the often challenging process of building trust in relationships and overcoming jealousy. Heather offers her personal struggle with infidelity and trust issues, while Roxanne extends an exercise that played a crucial role in shifting her perspective. But, this conversation does not just dwell on the individual; instead, it illuminates the power of community and shared experiences in fostering growth and support. So, let's join Heather and Roxanne in this insightful conversation about overcoming jealousy, building trust, and the healing potential of supportive relationships.

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Join me on a heartfelt journey as we celebrate not only my birthday but a significant podcasting milestone — our 50th episode!

It's a poignant moment that calls for reflection, and I promise you're in for a raw, honest, and deeply personal dive into my life. From reuniting with my absent father to facing my fears and anxieties head-on, there are many life lessons that I have learned and am excited to share with you.

This episode is also a tribute to the most resilient woman in my world: my remarkable mother. Her unwavering strength and courage in the face of adversity are reminders of our capacity to endure hardships and still emerge strong.

We not only celebrate our 50-episodes-long journey but also the power of resilience. So, brace yourselves for an episode of inspiration, vulnerability, and heartwarming reflections.

Don't miss the UNLEASHING BOLD CONFIDENCE in-person event.

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Needing constant reassurance is something very common in those who suffer from relationship jealousy issues and when we don't get it, we start searching for it elsewhere an 9 times out of 10, it's the wrong place.  

In today's episode, I share 3 wrong places you may looking for love and understanding.  Awareness is key to turning down the volume on this jealousy thing so I'm bringing awareness to these three areas you may go seeking.

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International #1 best-selling author of "Strength of the Oak, Strength of the Willow", Andrew Anderson shares his approach in navigating life's ups and downs.

Andrew shares inspiring insights on shifting perspectives from 'why is this happening to me?' to 'why is this happening for me?' and how to discover the hidden greatness in every situation.

We dive deeply into the art of transformation, touching on deceit's role and outdated beliefs in personal growth. 

Andrew provides practical steps on:

• breaking free from restrictive thought patterns
• setting up protective boundaries
• how to have strength and grace in life's storms
• the 7 steps to forgiveness

This episode is a treasure for anyone on a quest to understand their life's mission and purpose. It's abundant with enlightening wisdom on nurturing self-worth and enhancing relationships.

This episode is a wealth of wisdom for anyone seeking personal transformation, the courage to face life's challenges, and the bravery to step into a brighter future.

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Ever found yourself stuck at crossroads, unable to decide which path to take? The reality is, every day we are faced with decisions - some small, some life-altering. 

But here's the catch, the pain of indecision often surpasses the pain of making the 'wrong' decision. You may be held hostage by your own fear and doubt. Turns out, the 'wrong' decision made with the information and emotions at the time, can be the 'right' decision after all. 

In this episode, you'll discover how to tackle the daunting task of decision-making with newfound confidence. Shanenn shares an exercise you can do to quickly get your out of indecision. 

Plus, we'll delve into how to take command of decisions in your relationships, keeping the fear of abandonment at bay. So, let's start making some decisions quickly, confidently, and fearlessly!

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Self-discovery can happen with just small minor shifts and this week, Nichole Lee, an identity + life transition coach AND holistic practitioner shares  her insights into the delicate process of self-exploration, emphasizing the importance of a safe, non-judgmental space. 

Together, we navigate the potential triggers of solo exploration and affirm the power of partnership during these transformative moments.

Nichole and I challenge you to carve out dedicated time for self-discovery, advocating for tweaks in your daily routines to encourage personal growth. 

Listen as we:

• unveil the role of bringing body intelligence to the forefront. 
• explore the profound connection between our minds, bodies, and emotional healing. recognize how our habitual tendencies and implanted memories can keep us stuck 
• discover how simple tools like visualization and meditation can release these blocks, leading to harmony. 

Prepare to be inspired, transformed, and fully engaged in this discussion.

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Ever wondered why you don't trust your partner as much as yourself? Curious about the double standards you set in your relationship, often without realizing it? 

Tune in for an eye-opening discussion about trust dynamics in relationships. My deep dive is set to reshape your understanding of trust, insecurity, and jealousy. 

Why we give ourselves more liberty than we do our partners?

I discuss the projection of our needs onto our partners and how this triggers an insatiable need for reassurance. Are you setting different expectations for yourself and your partner due to your insecurities? 

I explore this concept in depth, providing insights that might just save your relationship. 

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Are you ready to reignite the tingly energy of your inner masculine lover? 

That's precisely what this episode is all about, with our guest, Amy Lee Westervelt. Together, we address the habit of seeking external validation instead of harnessing internal energy and how to navigate the feelings of jealousy and insecurity that can arise in relationships.

We also venture into the empowering realm of changing our inner voice. Get ready to tap into your inner masculine and create a protective and devoted voice within. 

In this episode, we also discuss:

• the concept of self-sourcing, teaching you how to appreciate and receive compliments from your partner without relying on them for validation. 

• how our expectations from our partners can set us up for failure and strategize ways to manage these situations better.

• handling situations when your partner doesn't meet your expectations

• the sometimes tumultuous seas of gender roles and communication

Our conversation will leave you brimming with tips on how to embark on this transformative journey to connect with your higher self.  So, buckle up for an enlightening ride on inner growth and self-empowerment.

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