I have a major crush on what today's guest is doing.  She is working on a treatment module for trust.  Thank goodness for people like clinical psychologist. Shannon Sauer-Zavala.  She talks about understanding the function of behavior and that there's a reason you're thinking the way you do.

Because people think about trust in a black and white way, she shares a trust exercise called Dimensions of Trust where you look at the facts of the people you're in a relationship with now because we're operating from things in the past.

One of my favorite parts in the episode is when Dr. Sauer-Zavala explains that you have to  give people the opportunity to show you that they're not your mom, not your ex, not your alcoholic father because as long as you don't, that old narrative sticks because that's still the only evidence you have.

This whole episode is an outline of the approach to building trust, which focuses on understanding the function of protective behaviors, cognitive reframing, and behavior change through exposure, and mindfulness. 

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As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners.   Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close.  Not leaving room for individuality.  I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it means there is too tight of a grip for growth and change and THAT is what lands you on Corey's couch and gives him and his wife material for their amazing podcast Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Top Self,  Corey talks about the natural progression of a relationship from passionate beginnings to confronting everyday realities.  Which by the way this usually about the time we freak out because the hot and heavy is slowing down and of course we make it us.  But Dr. Allen says we have to understand the role of assurance in the relationship and he breaks it down in a way I hadn't thought about before through self-validation.  I know that's going to be a huge aha moment for you when you hear it.

And the conversation gets a little spicy when I ask him some questions about sex like which gender is usually the microwave and which is most likely to be the oven when it comes to sex drives and he shares what he and his wife say to each other if the other turns them down that might just change their mind so there's a little heat at then end, so you may have to sit in the parking lot at work to make sure you hear the whole episode. 

00:00 Introduction and Guest Background

02:53 Understanding the Evolution of Relationships

03:38 The Science Behind Falling in Love

04:48 The Transition from Infatuation to Reality

06:59 The Role of Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

09:05 The Role of Assurance in Relationships

10:09 The Impact of Change and Growth in Relationships

10:57 The Importance of Self-Development in Relationships

11:28 Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

14:28 The Importance of Self-Validation in Relationships

18:43 Understanding the Dynamics of Relationships

20:20 Dealing with Betrayal in Relationships

20:20 Embracing Emotions and Healing

20:20 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact

20:20 The Cycle of Healing and Growth

20:20 The Role of Sex in Relationships

24:45 Navigating Sexual Dynamics in Long-Term Relationships

28:55 The Power of Self-Confidence in Sexuality

32:46 Final Thoughts and Resources

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It's so good to be back in the swing of things and to do a solo episode with you.  The exercise I share with you in today's episode is one I did as I was starting to notice improvements in myself with my jealousy and I wanted to share it with you.  

You have to DO the work not just hear about it so make sure to go the show notes or to topself.com/evaluation and download the worksheet to use.  You can save a blank one as a template and then just copy a new one for each time you have a jealous moment or meltdown and you want to make improvements.  

Send me an email and let me know your WINs, your WTFs, and your FIXs (you'll get the reference once you see the worksheet.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Covid Experience

00:42 Traveling and Covid Complications

02:01 Returning Home and Dealing with Aftermath

04:25 Introducing the Situation Evaluation Exercise

06:09 Understanding the Importance of Taking Action

06:56 How to Use the Situation Evaluation Worksheet

09:39 Breaking Down the Situation Evaluation Worksheet

17:18 The Importance of Recognizing Wins and Flops

19:39 Implementing Changes for Future Growth

20:34 Conclusion and Encouragement to Use the Worksheet

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Ever wanted to get inside the mind of a couples therapist and ask questions?  Well, in today's episode, I took full advantage of having the great couples therapist, Dr. Bruce Chalmer on and I asked some burning questions for you like:

• How to get your partner to go to therapy when they don't want to
• What's the first thing you would do if you were working with a couple with jealousy in the relationship
• Why couples get it wrong when they say their biggest issue is communication

 Bruce shares the idea that couples often choose stability over intimacy and this is what he calls the "death spiral" of passion in a relationship.  I loved this topic as it just brings to light how often we push away our true authentic self because we are too afraid of what someone else, in this case our partner, might think.

He also compares couples therapy to improv so you'll have to tune in to hear why.

00:02 Introduction and Guest Presentation

00:42 Overcoming Reluctance to Attend Couples Therapy

04:03 Choosing the Right Therapist: A Discussion

05:43 Communication vs. Content: A New Perspective

07:51 Understanding Jealousy in Relationships

10:17 The Role of Attraction in Relationships

17:00 The Death Spiral for Passion: Stability vs. Intimacy

20:50 Restoring Intimacy in Relationships

20:54 Dealing with Jealousy and Insecurity

21:36 Seeking Reassurance and Self-Validation

22:43 Understanding the Value of Your Partner

24:41 The Role of Fathers in a Daughter's Life

25:40 Couples Therapy and Improv Comedy

31:14 Navigating Arguments in Relationships

32:06 The Magic Key to Relationship Problems

34:20 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

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Today I interview bestselling author, psychologist and happiness coach, Dr. Jisunny Fisher about how to face the fear of the unknown and unpredictable. 

Dr. Fisher talks about the human inclination towards avoiding pain over pursuing pleasure and the neural evolution of the human brain into three parts - reptilian, mammalian and human - and how specific fears are associated with each part.

She walks you through the concept of identity, explaining the 'identity funnel' and  how to rewire your self-beliefs through mindful awareness which has 3 parts;  attention, attitude and aim.

 I think you're going to love this episode.  I know I gained a lot from this interview.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation

00:26 Overcoming Fear of the Unknown

01:36 Understanding the Human Brain and Fear

02:25 The Role of Control in Fear

02:52 The Concept of Three Brains

02:56 Dealing with Jealousy and Uncertainty

04:53 Understanding the Fear of Abandonment

07:17 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships

10:08 The Importance of Self-Identity

11:37 The Identity Funnel: Understanding Self

15:48 The Role of Beliefs in Shaping Identity

26:56 The Power of Mindful Awareness

30:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Did you know, a women's body follows infradian rhythm?  

Well, better late than never on me getting this episode out but this is the final episode to wrap up the physical health month that was supposed to go out in January BUT... 

Jenny Swisher is a personal trainer, nutrition specialist, and health practitioner, and we have a great discussion about women's hormones, cycle syncing, and physical health. 

I learned so much from this episode and I think it's something all women should hear and be aware of.  As Jealousy Junkies, we have enough gilt and shame to deal with and taking time to rest during your cycle is not something else to add to the mix of guilty feelings.

As women, we often hear comments like "you're all over the place" or "your so emotional" and that causes us to feel like there is something wrong with us but as my guest, Jenny Swisher explains in this episode, our hormones are fluctuating throughout the month.

The other super cool thing she explains is how syncing your cycle allows you to know when to plan those date nights, what days to pull back on your workout and what days you can show up like a beast.

00:00 Introduction and Personal COVID-19 Experience

03:03 Jenny's Personal Journey to Hormone Health

06:40 The Importance of Being Your Own Best Doctor

09:20 The Birth of SYNC: A Course for Women's Health

11:50 The Importance of Understanding Your Menstrual Cycle

14:27 The Need for Early Age Education on Women's Health

14:52 The Role of Ovulation in Women's Health

19:43 Understanding Your Body's Needs

19:59 Overview of the Menstrual Cycle

20:26 The Importance of Rest

20:49 The Role of Estrogen

21:38 Strength Training and the Menstrual Cycle

22:09 Understanding the Ovulatory Phase

24:25 The Impact of Overtraining

26:40 The Role of Progesterone

27:44 Cycle Syncing and Nutrition

32:47 Understanding the Infradian Rhythm

35:01 The Impact of Menopause on Hormones

38:04 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

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In today's episode I share a recent personal journey that intertwines physical health and emotional wellbeing, using my own 10-day detox diet as a parallel to overcoming jealousy. 

Its all about the power of choice.  From the challenges of an incredible detox program to the challenges typically faced when overcoming jealousy. I share my experiences and introduce the concept of the 'jealousy reassurance loop' - a cycle, comparable to sugar addiction, that needs to be broken by making conscious choices. 

I'll share the transformative effects of my detox on my physical wellbeing and how it mirrors that process on an emotional level, to hopefully change your narrative and choose better outcomes in your jealousy struggles.

00:57 Introduction to the Podcast

01:32 My Health Journey and Its Connection to Jealousy

01:40 The 10 Day Detox Experience

04:17 The Impact of the Detox on My Health

18:46 The Power of Choice in Health and Jealousy

20:17 Testimonials from Group Coaching Sessions

21:18 The Jealousy Reassurance Loop and Sugar Cravings

23:47 The Power of Choice in Overcoming Jealousy

27:06 Conclusion and Invitation to the Trust Building Bootcamp

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He's a social media phenomenon and and author of the book "Blood Sugar Doesn't Lie", Dr. Ben Galyardt is my guest today.  We share the same philosophy of... treat the root cause, not the symptom.  

You wont believe how much food is tied to not just your mood but perhaps some other things going on that have been bothering you.  And, did you know, constant spikes in your blood sugar level can make you gain weight.  I know weight gain might further you're negative thinking about yourself so throw those ear buds on and get ready because this isn't your usual health talk.

• We're revealing how this groundbreaking approach is reshaping the landscape of patient care
• discover how functional medicine isn't just another treatment option 
• challenges you might face in conventional medicine 
• strategies to advocate for a more profound, investigative approach in your medical journey
• the intricate dance of blood sugar levels and their far-reaching impact on our health
• how this technology has turned lives around by using a Continuous Glucose Monitor (CGM)
• how this tool could be the key to slashing healthcare costs and elevating health consciousness across the nation. 00:00 Introduction and Importance of Health

00:28 Guest Introduction: Dr. Ben Galyardt
00:48 Understanding Functional Medicine
00:55 The Philosophy of Functional Medicine
02:08 The Importance of Root Cause Analysis in Health
02:58 The Role of Doctors and Patients in Health Management
04:02 Challenges in Traditional Medical Model
13:21 The Importance of Blood Sugar Stability
14:53 The Use of Continuous Glucose Monitors
17:20 Discovering Hypoglycemia
17:20 The Power of Continuous Glucose Monitoring
19:44 Understanding the Impact of Blood Sugar Levels
21:53 The Individual Impact of Different Foods
23:27 The Struggle with Sugar Addiction
30:10 The Controversy Around Continuous Glucose Monitors
34:17 The Importance of Basic Health Practices
36:54 Connecting with F8 Wellness Center

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Did you know your food can affect your mood?  I thought I was just in a bad mood.  Turns out, it could be the food I ate.  :)

Go beyond your typical New Year's resolutions and redefine your relationship with food, your body, and your well-being.   Our special guest, Tina Hong, an accomplished Executive Health and Wellness Coach and NLP mindset practitioner, shares the path for women seeking not just change—but renewal—in their personal and professional lives. 

We have a great chat about food and mindset to kick off the new year because no matter what your goals are, without your health, you have nothing.  Here are some things we talked about but there was SO much more.

understanding the pivotal role of stress and hormones in weight management. Our conversation promises a shift in perspective, revealing 

• how mindful practices can help combat stress-induced eating and 
• how a deeper connection with your body can lead to lasting health.
• the emotional dimensions of eating 
• the necessity of making thoughtful dietary choices for a nourished life

This was a jammed packed episode and I am all in on changing my eating habits and monitoring my blood sugar level so here are some other things Tina shared in the episode:

•  how stress, anxiety and hormones can impact weight and overall health
• the benefits of nourishing, nutrient-dense foods and how it can repair the body naturally
• effects of quick-fix solutions such as synthetic peptides Ozempic and Wegovy
• critical importance of monitoring blood sugar levels for everyone, not just those with diabetes

Stay tuned because the whole month of January is all about health, and I'm going to be vlogging my new lifestyle changes and wearing a continuous glucose monitor!


00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:00 Importance of Physical Health and Mindset
00:58 New Year Resolutions and Health Goals
02:14 Guest Introduction: Tina Hong
03:06 Discussion on Midlife Changes and Health
03:41 Understanding Client Needs and Challenges
08:39 The Role of Nutrition and Mindfulness in Health
11:34 Impact of Stress and Anxiety on Health
14:11 Understanding the Connection between Anxiety and Physical Health
18:28 The Power of Mindset in Weight Loss
18:39 The Importance of Mindset in Health and Fitness
19:56 The Role of Nutrition in Hormonal Balancing and Weight Loss
20:18 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Believing in the Possibility of Change
21:15 The Misconception about Cardio and Weight Loss
23:08 The Impact of Diet on Blood Sugar Levels
23:33 The Pros and Cons of Using Medical Devices for Health Monitoring
30:36 The Connection between Food, Mood, and Anxiety
32:10 The Dangers of Quick Fixes and Weight Loss Drugs
37:52 How to Reach Out for Professional Help
38:47 Final Words of Encouragement

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What if you could decode the mysterious signals your body and mind send you every day? Together with mindset coach, Dr. Ashley Greer, we'll discuss how a clear mind can help differentiate between fear and intuition. As we walk you through the process of sitting with your emotions, expect to explore how your own thought patterns could reshape how you approach your everyday life.

Did you know you can also improve your trust in your intuition?  Ashely shares how  you an do this by starting out with simple yes / no questions. She will also share:

• intuition anchoring, an insightful technique that taps into your body's reactions to these questions
• how to use this powerful tool to your advantage, particularly when navigating treacherous waters like relationships
• practical strategies to understand and overcome emotional challenges, bound to leave you with a better understanding of your relationships. 

But remember, intuition, like any other skill, needs to be honed and practiced regularly, and that's exactly what we intend to help you do.

I hope to inspire trust in your intuition and foster a stronger connection with your inner wisdom. So, are you ready to join us on this transformative journey? There's a whole world of self-discovery coming your way in this episode.

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