Sam, Chris, and James discuss what it means to be “unashamed” in sexual addiction recovery. Shame thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment and that speaking openly breaks isolation. They explore how context and boundaries matter when sharing, distinguishing healthy vulnerability from “vomiting,” and noting that relapse often intensifies shame. Sam shares how he’s become able to admit recent relapse without spiraling, crediting safe community, repeated honest conversations, trauma therapy, and a spiritual experience that helped him accept he is still good even when he relapses. The group encourages listeners to cultivate emotionally safe relationships, face fear within that community, and find a personal “why” for living unashamed.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Series Setup

01:04 What Unashamed Means

02:33 Shame Thrives in Silence

05:14 Sharing With Boundaries

07:00 Sobriety and Confidence

09:10 Sam Journey to Openness

11:12 God Moment Breakthrough

12:53 How to Get Unashamed

18:14 Cultivating Safe Community

19:27 Find Your Why

22:37 Brotherhood and Acceptance

25:24 Closing and Support the Show

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason welcome Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, who explains inner child work as understanding sexual temptation and intolerable emotional pain as implicit “body memory” rather than mature adult desire. Drew shares how recognizing his own sexual imprinting and connecting it to childhood trauma replaced self-hatred with self-compassion and inviting Jesus into wounded places. Using the cave rescue documentary as an analogy, he outlines a process of locating, loving, and leading multiple “inner boys,” emphasizing connection over control, co-regulation, curiosity-based questions, and identifying attachment needs beneath cravings, framing porn as a pacifier and a protest while encouraging courageous, hope-filled “redemptive risks.”

Connect with Drew Boa:
https://www.husbandmaterial.com/
https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn 

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Timestamps:

00:00 Recovery Check In
03:23 Meet Drew Boa
06:01 What Is the Inner Child
09:10 Drew Story And Imprinting
12:33 Rescue The Boy Within
17:20 When Pain Triggers Relapse
21:14 Befriending Questions
23:55 Porn As Pacifier and a Protest
28:25 Face, Feel and Co Regulate
32:49 Hope And Redemptive Risk
34:32 Where To Find Drew
36:37 Wrap Up And Subscribe

In this Live Unashamed episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts discuss the impact of sharing honest, raw stories in sexual addiction recovery and how storytelling combats the shame that fuels isolation and acting out. They explain that people connect through stories, and that naming taboo experiences with courage and vulnerability can break shame and bring healing.

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00:00 Why Story Matters

03:23 Writing Your Story

05:02 Sharing With Sponsor

06:53 Timeline And The Good

10:39 Josh On Sharing

15:28 Chris on Going Public

18:15 Hope And Next Steps

19:44 Send Us Your Story

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we return with Roxanna Johnson for a second recording as she explains how spouses are changed by the “dance” of addiction, why both partners have parallel recovery paths, and how hope can emerge over years of work. She teaches surrender as releasing control to God, addressing fear and hypervigilance, and emphasizes grieving, emotional regulation, movement with breath, journaling, and a step-by-step surrender practice, urging those struggling with addiction to “see” and validate their spouse’s pain while seeking the God who knows their name. Roxanna is the author of Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction, The Journey of a Spouse.

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To connect with Roxy, send her an email: [email protected] or visit her Website, Facebook and Instagram

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00:00 Welcome and Check In
04:35 Spouses Need to Heal Too
08:07 The Recovery Dance
13:15 Surrendering Control
17:29 Fear and Trusting God
22:00 How to Support Your Wife
27:26 Grief and Healing
30:57 Six Steps to Surrender
38:14 God Knows Your Name
43:33 Closing and Resources

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Nathan Maxwell returns after a lost recording to share updated perspectives on recovery and marriage. He recounts early exposure to pornography in fourth grade, his parents’ divorce, his half-brother’s suicide, and how shame and suppressed grief fueled compulsive porn use and a growing need for validation from various sexual partners. Nathan describes how religious culture, lack of sex education, and scrupulosity shaped a belief that God hated him, contributing to misery and suicidal ideation. Recovery began when a church member introduced him to Unashamed, Unafraid, 12-step meetings, and boot camp. Nathan now lives with a changed view of God as a loving Father, and ongoing growth through setbacks and sobriety since November 2024.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Guidebook Update

01:32 Nathan Returns

03:24 Roots of Addiction

17:14 Bootcamp Breakthrough

19:01 Learning Gods Love

26:33 Golden Nuggets of Recovery

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In this episode of Live Unashamed, the hosts discuss the importance of slowing down in the journey of recovery from sexual addiction. They explore how rushing through recovery can lead to overwhelming feelings and failure, whereas taking time to pause, reflect, and integrate new practices can lead to more sustainable progress. The conversation covers practical strategies such as focusing on one or two recovery tools at a time, practicing mindfulness and stillness, and building self-awareness of emotional states. Tune in to learn how taking it slow can help you achieve lasting recovery.

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00:00 Introduction and Warm Welcome
01:35 Today's Topic: Slowing Down in Recovery
02:07 The Importance of Slowing Down
06:31 Practical Steps to Slow Down
07:42 Integrating New Learnings
12:52 The Power of Stillness and Meditation
20:40 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement

This episode dives deep into the raw truth that sobriety is vital, shame is a battle, and authentic recovery requires honesty and courage. Listen as Troy shares his powerful story, struggles, and how God's grace rewrites everything.

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Why sobriety must be at the heart of recovery

02:10 - The destructive power of pornography and shame’s role

03:21 - Personal admission: the struggle of honest recovery

05:19 - Sobriety vs. recovery: understanding the difference

07:58 - Troy’s childhood, exposure, and early struggles with addiction

10:45 - The cycle of addiction and the power of honesty

14:14 - Crowning moment: finally coming clean after years of hiding

16:58 - The courage it takes to attend your first recovery group

18:28 - Defining true sobriety: what it really means to be free

22:35 - The role of shame, pride, and accountability in lasting change

28:30 - How shame can be the enemy of long-term sobriety

33:11 - Different perspectives on God: from Santa to Loving Guide

40:44 - Practical steps: trying differently when stuck in recovery

42:51 - Embracing honesty: the key to living unashamed

In this episode of Live Unashamed, we discuss a pivotal quote from The Stick of Joseph podcast about resisting temptation not by direct confrontation but by turning towards positive actions and thoughts. Our conversation covers the importance of connection with others, honesty, and creating a lifestyle centered around connection and healing. Listen as we share our experiences and practical advice on turning the light up in recovery.

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00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
01:52 The Power of Brotherhood in Recovery
02:43 Discussing a Thought-Provoking Quote
04:11 Applying the Quote to Recovery
05:08 Strategies for Managing Temptation
07:47 The Importance of Connection and Honesty
10:34 Building a Lifestyle of Recovery
20:09 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement

In this enlightening episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we delve into the challenging yet transformative journey of porn addiction recovery with Dr. Trish Leigh, a cognitive neuroscientist. Dr. Leigh shares her unique approach of using EEG technology to understand and regulate the brain's functioning, helping individuals overcome compulsive sexual behaviors. She discusses the impact of dopamine dependency and the importance of unwiring, rewiring, and hardwiring the brain for long-term recovery. This episode is packed with insights and practical strategies for anyone struggling with or supporting someone through porn addiction recovery.

To connect with Dr. Leigh:
WEBSITE AND YOUTUBE: https://drtrishleigh.com/ / https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh

FOR BRAIN BASED CONDITIONS: https://www.youtube.com/@SupernormalbyDrTrishLeigh/videos

FOR PARTNERS: https://www.youtube.com/@sanityafterbetrayal / https://sanityafterbetrayal.com/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drtrishleigh/

BOOK: https://drtrishleigh.com/book/

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00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:16 Meet Dr. Trish Leigh: Cognitive Neuroscientist
02:16 Understanding Porn Addiction and Brain Function
03:09 The Recovery Process: Begin, Continue, and End
04:16 Using EEG Technology in Recovery
08:10 The Impact of Dopamine on Addiction
12:17 Unwiring and Rewiring the Brain
24:20 Strain Brain vs. Drain Brain
26:22 Building a Strong Relationship
26:49 The Impact of Porn on Brain Development
28:16 Understanding Feedback Loops
29:04 Implementing Brain Rewiring Strategies
31:16 The Role of Neuroplasticity
33:37 The Science Behind Brain Changes
35:17 The Importance of Dopamine Regulation
39:21 Using Technology for Brain Health
42:55 Final Thoughts and Resources