If you don’t know my backstory, here it is: I left a long string of trauma-bonded, unhealthy relationships behind me before I entered my current relationship.

This is my first truly conscious relationship, and let me tell you…the lessons I’ve learned from it have fucking changed everything.

There are so many things you need to rethink, reprioritize, and revamp in your life if you want to have a truly conscious, healthy relationship, but instead of struggling through these lessons yourself, I’m here to tell you all about what I’ve learned from this almost-year-long relationship of mine. 

Life-changing doesn’t begin to describe it, loves. A conscious relationship will transform the way you experience relating and love…but it doesn’t happen on its own.

Not. Even. Close.

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When you start to step into your main character energy, you are going to piss people off.

It’s just a fact, babe. When you begin to evolve and stop settling for whatever low standards you used to accept, people are going to get pissed off about it. Why?

Because they’re going to start projecting their own unhealed wounds onto you.

I’ve seen it happen. In fact, just recently I got a SCATHING comment on one of my Instagram posts that got me thinking about why we need to be prepared to hold people in their projections…without letting it halt our own growth.

You can have empathy without halting your evolution. You can hold space for people’s wounds without stagnating your own growth to soothe them. And if there’s something you don’t want to make yourself available for, guess what? You. Don’t. Fucking. Have. To.

Responding > reacting, loves. Let’s talk about it.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Listen up, ladies: it’s time to stop fucking ignoring your intuition.

I don’t care if you think the universe doesn’t speak to you. I don’t care if you think you don’t hear your intuition speaking. You do–you’re just not listening.

How do I know? Because I did the same fucking thing for a very, very long time. And not only did I do the same thing…I wrote down the proof in my journal.

I hope you’re ready for a front-row seat to Younger Michelle’s deepest thoughts, because today, we’re cracking open my journal and taking a peek at a few times when my intuition told me to get out, I ignored it, and ended up regretting it later on.

It’s time to stop shutting out what God is trying to tell us. Because if we don’t, guess what? We’re going to keep getting handed the same fucking lesson until we finally decide it’s time to learn it.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Tell me if this sounds familiar: “I’m a strong, independent woman, and I don’t need no man!”

This saying has become a way for women everywhere to give a big FUCK YOU to the idea that women need a man to be complete. And that’s great, sure, but here’s the thing:

When this becomes your whole identity, you actually close yourself off from receiving from others.

I am strong, independent, and a woman. But I don’t claim this “strong, independent woman” label for myself. You know why? 

You can tell yourself all you like that you don’t need anyone but yourself. But the truth is, people need people—and even if I could do everything alone, I really don’t fucking want to. And I’m willing to bet that deep down, you don’t either.

Gather around, my strong, independent ladies. Let’s have a heart-to-heart.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

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We love a brag here at UFYR, and we especially love a brag when it doubles as a fucking great lesson.

This month, I bought my dream car. Now, when I say that, I need you to understand that I don’t mean it casually. I mean it’s my FUCKING. DREAM. CAR. 

If you know me at all, you know I have wanted a Range Rover ever since I was a little kid. My whole life, I have been wanting and wanting and wanting this car. And my moment finally came.

But here’s the thing: when I got to go test drive this car, I found myself cycling through some stories that told me I had to pick the best “middle ground.” I had to go for the entry-level Range Rover, not the top-of-the-line option. I wasn’t there yet. I didn’t deserve that.

Um. Fucking what?

Let me tell you exactly how that story ended, and why we all need to stop believing the lie of the in-between—both in life AND in love.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

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News flash: the death of communication is the moment you stop being curious.

There’s a better way to tell your partner when something is bothering you. Reacting when you’re in your ego and allowing your emotions to loop a story that may or may not be true? That’s not it.

Curiosity is the biggest fucking factor of healthy, calm communication. Because once you start getting curious about what’s triggering you—or getting curious about what’s triggering your partner—you’ll be in a much better place to start asking the right questions and explaining yourself in the right way.

Time to remaster the art of curiosity. 

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

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In 2023, we’re taking the role of supporting character and chucking it into the bin.

The fact is, we are the main characters of our own fucking lives, and it’s about time we started acting like it. No more putting everyone else before ourselves. No more erasing our boundaries to make other people more comfortable. No more letting everyone and everything else decide what happens to us except ourselves.

It’s time to step into delusionally confident, utterly in charge, main character energy. And if you don’t know how to do that, good news—I do, and I’m telling you all about it today.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

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Contrary to popular fucking belief, fashion isn’t a shallow thing to invest in. It’s actually another facet of self-development work.

I recently hired one of my badass best friends, Kelsie Hockins, to help me give my wardrobe a much-needed update. What she does is more than just focusing on the clothes; she’s a style coach, which means she helps women that are looking to upgrade not only their wardrobes, but also their lives. Looking beyond the “aesthetics” and feeling into the essence, Kelsie helps women build a relationship with their clothes that allows them to feel confident, sexy, powerful, and ICONIC AF.

We are all about ICONIC here at Unf*ck Your Relationships, so of course I had to have her on the podcast. Get ready for a total overhaul of the way you look at your clothes.

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CONNECT WITH KELSIE:

Website: www.stylebyyou.com.au 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itskelsiehockins/

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and feel supported over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

When I’m done with something, I am fucking done.

Relationships. Friendships. Habits. Identities. Whatever I’m done with, whatever I’m moving on from, I don’t do it halfway. I burn it to the fucking ground.

For some people, the cold-turkey method of changing their identity doesn’t work. But for me, it’s the only thing that works. So when my mentor recently asked me what new identity I wanted to step into—and what action I could take to make that a reality—I knew exactly what I wanted to be, and exactly how I was going to start out on that path.

I cut the cord on my vibrator…literally and figuratively. Let’s talk about why.

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning

Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and feel supported over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

I lost something incredibly dear to me recently: my boobs.

Well, not entirely. Just part of them.

If you follow me on Instagram or have listened to my recent podcast episodes, you probably know that I had to have explant surgery to remove my breast implants thanks to a rupture. Fucking brilliant. Had the best time. (Not.)

While everyone was extremely supportive throughout the experience–my friends, my partner, and my surgical team–it was still an emotionally taxing experience, and it dredged up new insecurities I had no idea were ever there.

I want to talk about this so you all know that it’s all right to grieve a part of yourself…but you don’t want to wallow in that feeling forever. 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning

Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/