Tony Overbay, LMFT, discusses the impact of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents on their children. Drawing from a personal letter sent in by a listener, as well as clinical cases and research, Tony explores the hallmarks of narcissistic and emotionally immature parenting and how these behaviors shape children's emotional development and future relationships. This episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and adjustment in parenting to break harmful patterns and create secure attachments.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:10 Understanding Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents

00:27 Promoting the Host's Other Platforms and Activities

01:22 Introducing the Concept of Narcissist Immunity

02:12 Personal Story of Dealing with Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents

03:09 The Impact of Narcissistic Immunity on Personal Relationships

04:54 The Role of Emotional Maturity in Parenting

12:32 Understanding the Difference Between Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents

18:33 Introducing Carl's Story: Growing Up with a Narcissistic Mother and Emotionally Immature Father

22:29 The Impact of Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents on Carl's Life

26:33 The Role of Memory and Confabulation in Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Behavior

28:14 The Fear of Abandonment in Narcissistic Relationships

28:46 Understanding Carl's Story: A Case Study

29:34 The Impact of Parental Expectations on Children

29:42 The Role of Emotional Regulation in Parenting

30:22 The Journey to Self-Acceptance: Carl's Story

30:58 The Power of Whole Object Relations in Therapy

32:08 The Influence of Childhood Experiences on Career Choices

35:27 The Impact of Narcissistic Parents on Children

44:13 The Struggle to Love the Real Child: A Parent's Challenge

47:54 The Emotional Consequences of Unmet Expectations

52:26 The Role of Empathy in Parenting

53:24 The Importance of Healthy Relationship Patterns

56:08 Conclusion: The Journey to Secure Attachment

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Tony tackles the topic of emotional whiplash in narcissistic relationships. He explores how people can feel loved and appreciated one moment and then demeaned and dismissed the next by a narcissistic partner, leading to confusion and emotional turmoil. Using the story of Sarah and Mike, he unpacks this unpredictable and damaging dynamic. Tony also explains concepts like whole object relations and object constancy and how they become compromised in emotionally immature relationships. He finally provides a broad range of personal experiences from his listeners, further illustrating the impact of emotional whiplash in people's lives.

00:00 Introduction and Topic Presentation

00:23 Understanding Emotional Whiplash

00:37 Real-Life Example: Sarah and Mike's Story

04:26 Concepts of Whole Object Relations and Object Constancy

05:32 Narcissistic Emotional Whiplash

06:14 Impact of Emotional Whiplash on Relationships

07:05 Understanding Mike's Emotional Immaturity

12:18 Sarah's Struggles and Emotional Whiplash

16:49 Real-Life Examples of Emotional Whiplash

36:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

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If you say “it” the right way, will the narcissist ever get “it” whatever “it” is? Tony introduces his 'Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense,' which helps maintain emotional stability and a sense of self in challenging relationships. Tony also critically analyzes a passage from the book 'Rethinking Narcissism' by Dr. Craig Malkin, where he finds a logical inconsistency that might give false hope to 'pathologically kind persons' who constantly try to induce 'aha moments' in their narcissistic partners. He also highlights the concept of differentiation of self and its importance in maintaining one’s emotional stability and sense of self in the face of challenging dynamics in relationships with narcissistic individuals. 

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:45 Understanding the Impact of Stress on Physical Health

02:36 Upcoming Topics and Listener Engagement

05:23 Exploring the Concept of Narcissism

06:09 Dissecting a Book Passage on Narcissism

08:47 The Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense

15:52 Understanding Healthy Ego and Pathological Defensive Narcissism

17:07 Analyzing a Book on Narcissism

22:58 Contradictions in Narcissism Advice

24:53 Understanding the Power of Self-Blame

25:30 The Pathologically Kind Person and Their Burden of Responsibility

26:54 The Struggle for Control in Relationships

28:16 Personal Story: The Impact of Powerlessness

34:42 The Importance of Differentiation in Relationships

36:51 The Dangers of Emotional Inconsistency

40:06 The Reality of Expressing Feelings to a Narcissist

47:11 The Role of Differentiation in Dealing with Narcissists

54:24 Conclusion: Knowing When to Engage and When to Step Back

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

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Tony unpacks the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissistic or emotionally immature individual. Addressing a listener's question, Tony delves into the nature of developing children, labeling them as 'little narcissists' due to their inherently self-centered perspective. Tony identifies this as a critical stage of normal human development and explains how these traits vary distinctively in the adult narcissist. He also shares his four-pillar framework for effective communication - assuming good intentions, avoiding declaring the other person wrong, asking questions before commenting, and leaning in and staying present. He demonstrates how these can be applied in co-parenting scenarios.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:17 Reflecting on the Past and Looking Forward

00:58 Discussing Parenting and Co-Parenting

01:37 Understanding the Impact of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

02:06 Exploring the Concept of 'Little Narcissists'

02:46 Case Study: Sarah's Experience with Divorce

04:03 The Importance of Communication in Parenting

05:07 Understanding the Impact of Parental Decisions on Children

06:01 The Role of Therapy in Understanding Childhood Experiences

06:15 Understanding the Self-Centered Nature of Children

07:08 The Impact of Parental Divorce on Children

09:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with a Difficult Partner

11:47 Understanding the Concept of 'Little Narcissists' in Parenting

14:59 The Difference Between Healthy Self-Care and Emotionally Immature Selfishness

25:34 Understanding Egosyntonic and Ego-Dystonic Concepts in Parenting

28:44 Understanding Egosyntonic Narcissism and Emotional Maturity

29:14 Co-parenting with a Narcissistic or Emotionally Immature Partner

29:27 The Importance of Fostering Healthy Development in Children

30:30 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation

31:41 Applying the Four Pillars in Different Contexts

35:27 The Role of the Four Pillars in Co-parenting

57:53 The Impact of the Four Pillars on Children

01:00:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

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Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

“If I’m asking if I’m the narcissist, then Tony says I’m not!” Tony shares that he receives more feedback on this concept than any other from WUTN listeners. But what happens when the narcissist or emotionally immature person in your life gets ahold of this “script?” Does simply repeating this sentence elicit change? Tony details this question and introduces the concept of 'shelf life', a temporary behavioral change in emotionally immature people. We debate the question, 'If you're asking yourself if you're a narcissist, then are you one?' and touch on the use of therapy or self-help methods as tools for manipulation. As we progress through the episode, we discuss how 'John' used therapy to manipulate 'Emily' and appear as a problem solver rather than acknowledging his shortcomings. Overall, the episode is an insightful exploration of emotional immaturity, narcissistic traits, and manipulative behaviors in relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Story of John and Emily

01:27 The Breaking Point and Decision to Seek Therapy

02:09 Initial Therapy Session and Promises Made

03:22 The Short-lived Change and Return to Old Patterns

05:47 Understanding the Concept of 'Shelf Life' in Emotional Change

09:08 The Power of Writing and Self-Expression

15:04 The Narcissist's Reaction to the Podcast

16:27 Doubts, Confusion, and the Struggle to Stay Strong

32:53 Recognizing the Difference: Working on Things vs. Escaping Discomfort

33:15 The Narcissist in Therapy: A Case Study

33:37 The Power of Self-Questioning: Are You the Narcissist?

34:07 The Concept of Shelf Life and Positive Tension

34:37 The Nurtured Heart Approach: A Parenting Model

35:40 The Struggle of Change: A Personal Story

36:10 Trusting Your Gut: Recognizing Manipulation in Therapy

36:39 The Aha Moment: Acceptance and Curiosity

37:37 The Ultimatum: Divorce or Seek Help

39:40 The Journey of Awakening: Acknowledging the Past and Embracing the Future

40:05 The Reality of Narcissism: Recognizing Traits and Codependency

41:59 The Power of Community: Reading Comments from the Group

51:02 The Story of John and Emily: A Case Study on Shelf Life

52:39 Understanding Shelf Life: Temporary Behavioral Change

56:54 The Power of Self-Reflection: Embracing Solitude

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

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Tony and Kate Anthony, divorce coach and author of “The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage,” (https://amzn.to/47V1AKe) unpack the complex dynamics involved with the decision to stay or leave a relationship, typically with an emotionally immature or narcissistic partner. Kate shares her divorce story and explores the importance of establishing personal boundaries and self-care throughout the journey. The conversation discusses the fundamental need for individuals to recognize and reclaim their right to happiness outside a dysfunctional marital relationship. They also talk about the impact of staying in an emotionally abusive relationship for the sake of the kids and the different roles that a therapist and coach can play in the helping process. You can find out more about Kate at her website http://kateanthony.com and if you are looking for safe ways to purchase the book, please visit http://kateanthony.com/dword

00:01 Introduction and Initial Banter

00:14 Discussing Kate's Book and Its Impact

01:08 Kate's Journey and Her Book's Purpose

01:46 The Role of Narcissism in Relationships

02:36 Kate's Personal Experience with Narcissism

03:16 The Impact of Divorce and Making the Decision

05:22 The Aftermath of Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship

06:31 The Role of Codependency in Relationships

13:18 Kate's Career in Acting and Its Influence

16:21 The Importance of Choosing Yourself

22:33 The Process of Knowing When to Leave

24:05 The Power of Self-Acknowledgement

24:23 Understanding the Impact of Denial

24:39 The Importance of Self-Admission

25:12 The Struggle of Facing the Truth

25:29 The Role of Therapists and Coaches

25:50 The Concept of Leading Indicators

26:42 The Reality of Unhealthy Relationships

27:09 The Process of Decision Making

27:32 The Power of Self-Empowerment

27:41 The Role of Coaches in Decision Making

27:47 The Impact of Direct Communication

28:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships

28:23 The Role of Therapists in Decision Making

28:56 The Collaboration between Therapists and Coaches

29:14 The Importance of Training for Coaches

29:38 The Role of Therapists in Guiding Decisions

29:58 The Challenge of Taking Action

30:30 The Importance of Addressing the Impact on Kids

30:42 The Reality of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

31:27 The Impact of Divorce on Kids

32:00 The Importance of Authenticity in Parenting

32:14 The Reality of Staying for the Kids

41:33 The Importance of Choosing Happiness

43:11 The Importance of Living Your Truth

43:13 The Importance of Living Authentically

43:52 The Importance of Choosing Love over Control

44:14 The Importance of Self-Care

44:17 The Importance of Being Enough for Yourself

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Tony Overbay discusses some individuals' challenges when attempting to issue sincere and effective apologies. He discusses our evolutionary predisposition to spot danger and make comparisons, making happiness and contentment difficult to maintain. Tony explores the concepts of self-compassion, mindful self-reflection, and effective apology skills, which he believes are critical for personal growth and emotional maturity. He helps listeners understand how growing up with emotionally immature or narcissistic parents can shape an individual's understanding of taking responsibility for one's actions. He provides insights into why narcissistic individuals in particular, struggle with apologies and explains the steps to deliver a genuine apology.

00:00 Introduction and Hardest Words to Say

00:25 The Difficulty of Saying Sorry

01:37 Welcome to the Podcast and Host Introduction

01:45 The Origin of Apology Difficulty

03:12 The Evolutionary Perspective on Apologies

05:48 The Role of Comparison and Inadequacy in Apologies

07:25 The Impact of Fear of Abandonment on Apologies

13:20 The Art of Making a Sincere and Effective Apology

20:26 The Importance of Context in Apologies

24:40 Relevance of Apologies in Today's World

25:18 Understanding the Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents

25:55 The Role of Therapy in Understanding Emotional Immaturity

26:36 The Importance of Apologies and Taking Ownership

27:40 The Assumption of Badness: Misconceptions about Admitting Fault

28:47 Breaking Free from the Cycle of Non-Accountability

29:26 The Role of Self-Compassion in Offering Effective Apologies

30:32 Understanding the Six Steps of an Apology

35:45 The Challenge of Offering Genuine Apologies for Emotionally Immature Individuals

36:01 The Dangers of Superficial Apologies

41:16 The Power of Self-Compassion and Mindful Self-Reflection

44:11 Conclusion: Action-Based Takeaways for Personal Growth

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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

How does abuse impact an individual's spirituality and relationship with God? And how critical is it for a spiritual leader to be non-judgmental, empathetic, and compassionate when someone comes into their office talking about abuse? These critical questions are at the heart of today’s episode. Tony Overbay, LMFT, engages in an insightful conversation with Ryan Anderson, PhD, LMFT, and author of "The Choice to Leave Abuse." This episode explores the complex issue of abuse, especially within the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS), and addresses many common misconceptions about the role of the authority figure in a church congregation. 

They touch on the prevalence and damaging effects of emotional immaturity and narcissistic traits on relationships and in church leadership. A significant part of the discussion focuses on epigenetics, shedding light on how abuse impacts individuals at a genetic level and offers hope for healing and growth.

The episode also addresses the sensitive topic of spiritual abuse within the LDS community. Overbay and Anderson examine the hesitancy of community leaders to confront and address abuse, highlighting the urgent need for supportive environments. They dissect the stigmas and misconceptions in the community, emphasizing the importance of making decisions prioritizing personal well-being and safety.

While centered on the LDS community, the themes discussed in this episode have universal relevance. Topics like emotional intelligence, the far-reaching impact of abuse, and the crucial role of support for survivors transcend religious and cultural boundaries. The conversation between Overbay and Anderson serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of empowerment and support for survivors, asserting that spirituality and one's relationship with God should aid, not hinder, the journey to overcome abuse.

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Ever wondered why some highly educated people fall for outlandish conspiracy theories? Dive into the latest episode of 'Waking Narcissism' with host Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as he tackles this intriguing question. This thought-provoking episode explores the unexpected relationship between education, narcissism, and susceptibility to conspiracy theories, based on insights from Mark Travers, PhD's article 'Educated Narcissists Fall for Conspiracy Theories.'https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202310/why-educated-narcissists-fall-for-conspiracy-theories

Tony starts by differentiating between narcissism and emotional immaturity, shedding light on how these distinct traits influence an individual's worldview. Discover why people with high levels of narcissistic traits like grandiosity and a need for uniqueness, particularly those who are well-educated, might be more inclined to believe in conspiracy theories. The episode delves deep into the concepts of cognitive reflection and the Dunning-Kruger effect, illustrating how critical thinking and self-awareness can diminish the impact of narcissism on belief in unfounded theories. Through real-life examples, anecdotal stories, and actionable insights, Tony emphasizes the importance of introspection, humility, and the continuous pursuit of knowledge. Join us for an enlightening journey into the psychological underpinnings of conspiracy theory susceptibility and learn how to navigate a world brimming with complex and often misleading information with a critical and open mind.

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Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by intense emotions in a relationship, struggling to understand why your reactions seem out of your control? Especially if you, and most people in your life, view you as kind and caring rather than reactive and angry. Chances are that you’ve experienced the “amygdala hijack,” a survival technique that often seems to come out of nowhere but can be especially harmful in relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature people, as they often are the ones causing your brain to scream “fight, or flight!” Today, host Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives deep into the phenomenon of the amygdala hijack, particularly in the context of relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals. This episode unravels the intricate workings of the brain under emotional stress, focusing on how the amygdala, our emotional control center, can take over rational thinking. Tony discusses the critical role of primary and secondary emotions in triggering the body's stress response, highlighting the release of cortisol and its impact on our mental and physical health. The episode is a journey through the neuroscience of emotional processing, offering valuable insights into recognizing and managing the complex emotions that arise in challenging relationships.

Tony brings to light the profound effects of prolonged emotional trauma, referencing the poignant phrase, "The body keeps score." The conversation delves into the risks associated with chronic stress and the development of conditions like Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) due to long-term exposure to narcissistic abuse. The episode is an exploration and a guide, providing practical strategies such as EMDR, talk therapy, mindfulness, and meditation to manage the overwhelming waves of amygdala hijack. It emphasizes the importance of professional support and the journey towards healing and understanding our emotional responses. Concluding with a message of compassion and self-reflection, this episode is a beacon of hope and resilience, encouraging listeners to take actionable steps toward recovery and emotional self-awareness in the face of the challenges of emotionally charged relationships.

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Please follow Tony’s new Waking Up to Narcissism Instagram account here https://www.instagram.com/wutnpod/

Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ