We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling

By Darcy Sterling

For more than 25 years, Dr. Darcy Sterling has been helping people conquer their toughest relationship challenges. She is a New York City-based licensed therapist, the host of E! Network’s Famously Si... more

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April 15, 2025How to Talk With Anyone About Anything—with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt
In today’s world, sharing an opinion can feel like stepping onto a battlefield. We fear being judged, misunderstood, or canceled—so we stay silent. Or worse, we speak at each other instead of with each other. But real connection isn’t about having the perfect words. It’s about showing up with curiosity, intention, and presence—even when it’s uncomfortable.
In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by legendary therapists and relationship experts Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, creators of Imago Therapy and authors of the new book How to Talk With Anyone About Anything. We unpack the deeper purpose of conversation, how to reconnect during moments of conflict, and why our differences might actually be the gateway to deeper intimacy.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why differences don’t mean you’re incompatible—and how they can lead to greater intimacy.
The #1 most effective tool to stay grounded and present in uncomfortable conversations.
The one thing that must be present in every relationship if you want it to be healthy.

PLUS: I bring Harville one of my most triggering real-life scenarios—and ask him to walk me through it. And he does not disappoint.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third Edition
How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations
Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide
Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's Guide
The Space Between: The Point of Connection
Making Marriage Simple: Ten Relationship-Saving Truths

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“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.

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1h 9min
April 08, 2025How to Know If You’re the Problem in Your Relationships
Do you keep ending up with the same type of partner—different face, same red flags?
Are your relationships lopsided—with one of you craving emotional intimacy, and the other can’t (or won’t) go there?
Do you find yourself thinking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”
If so, this episode is for you.
At some point, we all have to stop pointing fingers and ask the harder question: What’s my role in this?
Not to take all the blame. Not to spiral into shame.
But because real change in your love life starts with the one thing you can control—you.
This week, Ashtyn’s back—and I’m the one in the hot seat, answering the questions.
If you’re brave enough to look in the mirror, I promise to be right there with you, making it okay (and even a little bit funny).
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The most common reason people fail to see their part in relationship patterns.
The key questions to ask yourself when your relationships feel like déjà vu.
What to do when you realize you are contributing to the problem.

This episode is packed with humor, honesty, and our own stories—so you don’t have to feel alone while doing the work. You can be the hero in your own love story.
Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES
Mindful Care
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.

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46min
April 01, 2025Instagram’s Leading Anxiety Influencer on What Actually Heals Anxiety
Anxiety is the most common mental health issue in the U.S., affecting over 40 million adults each year. And yet, despite how familiar it is, we still get so much wrong about it.
We’re taught to treat anxiety like something to conquer, suppress, or “fix.” But what if that mindset is actually making things worse?
If you've ever spiraled over a future that hasn’t happened—or replayed a conversation on loop, dissecting every word you said—this episode is for you.
Joining me is licensed therapist Alison Seponara, creator of The Anxiety Healer, and one of Instagram’s most trusted voices on mental health. Together, we unpack what anxiety really is, why it’s so hard to manage, and how to stop unintentionally feeding the very thing we’re trying to escape.

In this episode, you'll learn:
The one anxiety tool no one’s talking about—but everyone should be using
Why you actually don’t want to get rid of your anxiety completely
How early life experiences can shape our relationship with anxiety
A personal story from Alison about the well-intentioned act that triggered her worst panic attack

If anxiety is part of your story, this episode is a must.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
TheAnxietyHealer.com
The Anxiety Healer's Guide: Coping Strategies and Mindfulness Techniques to Calm the Mind and Body
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.
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#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice #MentalHealthAwareness #AnxietySupport #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthEducation #AnxietyTools
#AnxietyHelp #AnxietyRelief #HealingAnxiety #AnxietyRecovery #RelationshipExperts #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling
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1h 4min
March 25, 2025Boost Focus, Creativity, and Productivity with Dr. Jeff Karp
What if you could train your brain to work with you—not against you?
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Jeff Karp, one of the world’s leading biotech researchers and a professor at both Harvard Medical School and MIT. His lab runs more like a think tank, focused on unlocking human potential through creativity, innovation, and intentional living.
As someone with severe (but well-managed) ADHD, I’ve spent my life chasing ways to improve my focus, boost my productivity, and become high-functioning. This conversation is packed with tools that genuinely shifted how I think, how I work, and how I show up in the world.
You’ll learn:
How to harness the power of your mind.
Why failure is a powerful gateway to success.
Practical strategies to sharpen your focus and fuel your creativity.

By the end, you’ll have a toolkit to manage overwhelm, reduce self-doubt, and unlock your brain’s potential.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
www.jeffkarp.com
LIT: Life Ignition Tools: Use Nature's Playbook to Energize Your Brain, Spark Ideas, and Ignite Action
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.

DISCLAIMER
#RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy #ModernRomance #ModernLove
#MillennialLife #Neuroscience #BrainHealth #CognitiveScience #DrJeffKarp #DoctorJeffKarp #JeffKarp #JeffKarpInterview #JeffKarpPodcast #JeffKarpHarvard #ADHDTips #ADHDAwareness #FocusHacks #ProductivityTools
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1h 39min
March 18, 2025How to Have That Conversation You’re Avoiding
Ever find yourself replaying a conversation in your head—over and over—only to avoid it altogether? Maybe you want to tell a friend they hurt your feelings. Or ask for a raise. Or bring up that thing your partner said that’s still bothering you.
We all do it. But why? Why do we avoid conversations that could actually improve our relationships—and our lives?
Most of us dodge these talks because we fear conflict or don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. But avoiding the conversation doesn’t make the discomfort go away. It causes it to fester.
Today, I’m joined by someone who knows this terrain professionally and personally—my wife, Steph Sterling, LCSW. She also happens to be the most talented couples therapist I know.
In this episode, we unpack:

How to tell if you’re avoiding a conversation out of fear or just waiting for the right time.
The biggest mistakes people make when they finally speak up.
How to navigate tough talks in a way that brings you closer together instead of pulling you apart (step-by-step).

Plus… Steph shares some stories about our own struggles that just might surprise you.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES

CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.

DISCLAIMER
#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #LoveLanguage #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy #ModernRomance #ModernLove #MillennialLife
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50min
March 11, 2025United by Love, Divided by Beliefs: Why Relationships Have to Come First—with Chris Cuomo
If you’re feeling more anxious than ever about politics, you’re not alone. Nearly 70% of Americans believe the country is more divided now than at any point in recent history. And with 24/7 news cycles, social media outrage, and family group chats that feel like landmines, staying sane in this political climate can feel impossible.
But how much of our political stress is actually within our control? How do we stay informed without feeling consumed? And how can we navigate relationships when political differences threaten to tear us apart?
To help me unpack these questions, I’m joined by Chris Cuomo—anchor at News Nation and The Chris Cuomo Project. Chris has spent decades reporting on the most divisive issues of our time, and he’s here to share his strategies for staying grounded when the political world feels like it’s spinning out of control.
In this episode we dive into:

How to maintain personal relationships with people who hold opposing political views—without compromising your values.
How to stay informed without drowning in political overwhelm.
How Chris navigates political disagreements with the people closest to him.

This was one of the most thought-provoking (and wildly entertaining) conversations I’ve had on We Need To Talk. Don’t just listen—watch the full episode on YouTube.
Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES
Mindful Care
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.

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1h 9min
March 04, 2025The Phobia Cure That Works in Hours, Not Years
Imagine missing out on dream vacations because you fear flying, or passing on career opportunities due to public speaking anxiety. Phobias don’t just protect us—they can hold our lives hostage.
Traditional treatments like exposure therapy can take months or years, with no guarantee of success. But what if you could overcome your fear in just one session?
Today’s guest, Merel Kindt, neuroscientist, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Amsterdam, and founder of Kindt Clinics, has developed the Memrec Method—a groundbreaking phobia treatment with an 85% success rate after just one session.
If fear has been running your life, this conversation could change everything.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How she treats phobias in just 1 session.
Why her treatment works so quickly.
How Merel Kindt’s discovery could change how we think about fear for good.

What would your life look like if fear no longer called the shots? Let’s find out.
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25980916/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25549103/
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Preston Smith.

DISCLAIMER
#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #LoveLanguage #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy
#Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy #ModernRomance #ModernLove #MillennialLife
#PhobiaCure #OvercomeFear #FearlessLiving #AnxietyRelief #MindHack #RapidHealing #NeuroscienceBreakthrough #MentalHealthMatters
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57min
February 25, 2025How To Support The Newly Sober
If you’ve ever had someone in your life step into recovery, you know how profound—and fragile—that journey can be. It’s a moment of hope, courage, and transformation, but also one where friends, family, and coworkers can feel unsure of how to show up. How do you avoid unintentionally triggering them? And how can you be there without making things…awkward?
Today we’re digging into the hidden challenges of supporting someone in recovery. Whether it’s your partner, sibling, best friend, or coworker, this conversation will help you show up in ways that are compassionate, thoughtful, and, most importantly, truly helpful.
Joining me today is addiction psychiatrist and CEO of Mindful Care, Dr. Tamir Aldad.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How treatment centers can (and SHOULD) involve loved ones in the recovery process.
The essential structures and routines that support early sobriety.
Strategies for managing your own emotional well-being while being there for someone in recovery.

And I’ll share a story about how I recently mismanaged a situation with a loved one—so you don’t make the same mistake.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Preston Smith.

DISCLAIMER
#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice
#RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #SobrietySupport #SupportingRecovery #NewlySober #AddictionRecovery #RecoveryJourney
#SoberLiving #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy #MillennialLife
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46min
February 18, 2025Intimacy Hacks You’ve Never Heard
Everything you thought you knew about intimacy? Michaela Boehm is here to challenge it.
Michaela Boehm is a renowned intimacy expert and celebrity relationship coach whose unconventional approach flips traditional relationship advice on its head.
In this episode, we reveal:
Why date nights can backfire on your romantic connection.
How casual touch may be dulling your sexual chemistry over time.
Why fading attraction can actually be a sign of relationship growth.

If you’re looking for practical intimacy tips and a fresh perspective on love, sex, and relationships, this is a must-listen.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
The Wild Woman's Way: Reconnect to Your Body's Wisdom (A Woman's Guide to Spiritual Growth)
*We could not locate the study on oysters mentioned in the episode.

CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Preston Smith.

DISCLAIMER
#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice
#RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy
#CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcy #ModernRomance #ModernLove #MillennialLife
#IntimacyRedefined #RelationshipGoals #LoveBetterLiveBetter #MichaelaBoehm #WeNeedToTalkPodcast
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58min
February 11, 2025The Other Love Story: Honoring Friendship This Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is typically all about romantic relationships, but today, we’re celebrating a love that’s just as powerful—lifelong friendship.
My niece Ashtyn, who you know from We Need To Talk, has been inseparable from her two best friends, Claire and Danielle, since middle school. Now in their late 20s, their bond has not only survived but thrived, weathering life’s ups and downs.
True, lasting friendships are rare, which is why today, I want to highlight what makes theirs work. How do they navigate change and personal growth without growing apart? What keeps them emotionally connected even as life pulls them in different directions?
In this special Valentine’s Day episode, we’re honoring the deep love and loyalty in friendships—the kind built on trust, laughter, and unwavering support.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to maintain strong friendships as you grow and evolve.
The key to offering emotional support without overstepping.
Why deep, lasting friendships shape who we become.

Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
Study titled "Changes in personal relationships: How social contexts affect the emergence and discontinuation of relationships."
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/05/090527111907.htm
https://www.livescience.com/5466-friends-replaced-7-years.html
https://phys.org/news/2009-05-friends-lost-years.html
National Marriage Rates
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“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Preston Smith.

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53min

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