Dr. Rob and Tami talk about victim shaming when an SA spouse has been acting out, what to do, and they also dive into what a good formal disclosure looks like. It’s highly important that you find a good therapist that can walk you through this process, and also understand what’s ethical and not ethical to ask on a polygraph test. They also offer advice on how to find a good sponsor, and so much more! 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:40] My CSAT recommends I do inpatient care. What should I be prepared for? 

[4:55] When you go through treatment, you want to let go of all your secrets. 

[6:10] My husband told a family member about his addiction, and now I am getting victim shamed. What do I do?

[11:25] My SA husband wants to be intimate with me in a completely new and lustful way than before. Is this normal? 

[15:05] I am about to go through formal disclosure, what should I be aware of? 

[19:10] We both disagree on what our boundaries are. What do we do? 

[21:45] What’s the best way to go through recovery to increase your chances of success? 

[25;40] When is enough enough? He hasn’t been working the program and I’m fed up. 

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss