Dr. Rob and Tami discuss the difference between letting go and forgiving someone who has deeply hurt and betrayed you. Forgiveness is much like grief and it comes in waves, one day you think you’re doing alright and ready to move on, the next, you’re having a hard time getting up off the floor. If you’re a betrayed spouse, you’re not alone in these feelings. Dr. Rob sheds light on how “letting go” vs. “forgiving” works, in this week’s episode.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:00] Why does my husband still have slips?

[5:20] With his permission, I read my partner’s “Out of the Doghouse” workbook. I’m extremely angry. Should I have done that?

[11:25] How can I make amends after 18 years of betrayal?

[18:10] My husband’s SA therapist passed away suddenly. He’s made so much progress in his recovery, I am grief-stricken by this loss. Any advice?

[24:35] Is letting go different than forgiveness?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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