In this episode, Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse that is having a hard time moving forward a year after her SA’s disclosure. She wants to know the names of the women he cheated on her with. Dr. Rob and Tami explore why knowing more answers does not give you the closure and healing you are seeking, what to do, and some of the best ways you can move forward in your marriage despite the hurt. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:35] I have been in recovery for the past 10 months. 

[8:10] Every guy I’ve dated watches porn and tries to keep it a secret. Are they addicts?

[11:40] My disclosure was a year ago and I want to know who my husband's affair partners were. Can I ask for their names?

[15:00] I’ve been in recovery for a long time and now I’ve been triggered. All I want to do is act out. How do I keep sober?

[20:30] As someone in SA recovery, can I explore kinks? 

[23:30] My betrayed wife is getting triggered. I’ve been falling on my sword, but it’s also triggering me. What do I do? 

[31:00] The moment you get the names of your husband’s affair partners, it’ll just be like a rock rolling down a hill.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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