Dr. Rob and Tami address some questions from betrayed partners and talk about some of the frustrations that they are having. If you believe your addict’s CSAT isn’t doing a good job, then there’s nothing wrong with setting up a meeting to let them know personally what the addict has been up to, and how they’ve been treating you. Addicts lie. Addicts paint themselves as the victim all the time. If you don’t see progress with a CSAT, check in with them.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] How do I communicate to my SA that he has to do the work consistently if he wishes to have a chance with me again?

[7:10] Will my SA even respect me if I continue to stay with him after such a deep betrayal?

[10:55] I moved out and he accuses me of abandoning him, but he hasn’t been doing the work! Why isn’t his CSAT doing his job?

[20:15] Over two decades of us being together, my husband is now seeing sex workers. What should I do?

[22:45] Why don’t addicts understand that, by doing the work and being remorseful, we will forgive them?

[26:10] You might be in recovery, but it can take a long time to learn how to be a good person.

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss